3 Ways to Faith During Abuse--Narcissist Abuse

HOLD YOUR HEAD UP

Being abused and mistreated by the one we love is the most stressful and draining experience any woman can ever go through. It is difficult to see clearly because we are in such disbelief what is happening to your life.  The entire situation has depleted all of your energy and we don't know where to turn.

Our circumstances become extremely complicated. Between worrying about Finances and where to go if we leave. Fear sets in and takes over our thoughts. We are not even thinking about the abuse anymore, our life becomes a deeper more intense position to figure out. Our heart is on our children and ourselves. Safety is a big issue and no plans in sight.

We understand that things need to change, life is not supposed to be full of torment and pain. I have faith and I know God's life for me is so much better. I need the courage to find a way out of this abusive relationship. I must save myself and my family life of grief from a monster.

God has always been the center of my life. I understood how powerful prayers can be. I believe in my heart God hears us and he is working behind the scenes to help even though we think we are forgotten. Having faith and trusting God through our pain and suffering gives us hope and eases our burden. Handing our situation over to him and telling him we can't do this alone helps us continue moving forward with peace in our hearts knowing things will work out for our better good no matter what is happening at present.

I would like to share with you three areas that have helped me and I believe will help you

TRUST YOUR PLAN

1.  We get discouraged and afraid when our life slams us to the floor and we find ourselves on our knees begging and pleating for something or anything, anyone to walk in and pick us up and make things better. We wonder, Where is God? Does he see this? Can he hear me? The answer to these questions is Yes, he can. He knows what is happening, he knows you need help. 

Continue to pray and take action. The Bible says to walk out our faith. Trust that you are being led by the Holy Spirit and you will overcome. When I was going through struggles I prayed and took action I didn't sit down and do nothing, I trusted God and he sent me everyone I needed to help me. 

HAVING HOPE 

2. In our life of chaos, we feel there is very little hope to change our situation. However, God is never caught off guard or by surprise. God knows the future, after all, he is our creator. It's not unusual to lose faith and believe the thought of hope is too far out of reach. Pain can take away hope.

Hope is knowing for certain that God will never allow us to suffer. There is nothing on earth more
certain than hope in God. He will never leave us nor forsake us.

Every one of us at one time or another suffered from some kind of trial. Life isn't easy. God works our sadness, and painful times together for our good. Don't give up. Keep hoping and continue to pray and be patient for God's timing. Stay Strong, keep faith in your heart, and have hope for days ahead and your future. You will never be disappointed.


STAY IN FAITH

3. Faith is an important part of healing through the pain. Faith gives us the strength we need to take that next step when we don't have the energy to do it alone. Faith fuels us with love and kindness that we need for our families and ourselves. Faith puts a smile in our heart and a sparkle of joy in our eyes when all we see is darkness. Faith is encouragement and comfort when things are out of hand. Did you ever hear someone say "just have faith, it will work out?" That's what faith is. 

Faith is everything. Trust, hope, assurance, and belief that God will carry you through any difficulty you have and make sure you are stronger and better than you were. Faith comes before a prayer is answered. Faith is believing that God is watching over you.  

Yes, Faith is Everything...

I'm a woman who's been through all of the things you are going through. A woman whose life was slammed against the wall. A woman's advice you can trust. A woman who found her way through the darkest of times. I woke up every morning praising God, and never giving up hope. I praised him in good times, and when I was cursed at. He saw me through. I never gave up on me. I will never let you give up on you.

Having love in our lives is amazing. We all know how that feels, but the right type of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. There's nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and has her voice, please remember that.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you through the process. I will answer any questions or concerns you may have.

Be Blessed

I look forward to speaking with you.
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3 Signs He's Toxic---Narcissist Behavior

Your Relationship Is Breaking You Down......

Toxic Relationships cause destruction in our life that we never saw coming. Your family becomes in disarray by the constant pain and arguments that feed the air they breathe. Our friends stay away from all the negativity that our relationship is bringing into their life. You are so knee-deep in your own thoughts you don't see all of this unfolding right before your eyes. 

We have put so much time (months or even years) and money (everything we earned) into this relationship and we feel that there must be something we can do to salvage it. We still love this man. Of course, we do. The constant back and forth love and pain we continue to embrace makes the process very confusing. He tells you he's sorry by bringing you flowers or buying you a small gift as a token of his love. Yes, yes we agree in our heart to forgive him. But the outcome is we are falling into something more toxic. Exactly where he wants us. Triggering memories of the love he professed to you have you running in your mind that things can be the way they were and you become bound to this notion. 

Starting all over again blindfolded to what is actually happening in our life. Wouldn't you say this is an unfair trade? A Gift for more Pain. All relationships start beautiful and exciting and loving at the beginning. Healthy relationships grow with one another to learn how to balance and accommodate each other. Toxic Relationships, start the same way but the difference is feelings from their past and things that were painful being to surface and poison your relationship. It happens rather fast that we end up gasping for air. 

THE ONLY WAY OUT IS TO GET OUT!

WHEN I FIRST BEGAN TO UNDERSTAND THAT MY RELATIONSHIP WAS TOXIC AND ABUSIVE, IS WHEN I REALIZED I WAS IN CONSTANT PAIN, AND HURT ALL THE TIME. I HOPED AND PRAYED THINGS WOULD GET BETTER BUT THEY PROGRESSIVELY BECAME TO MUCH TO BARE. THE INTENSITY AND DAMAGE were SETTING INTO MY LIFE, AND MY HAPPINESS WAS KNOW WHERE TO BE FOUND.  I WANTED MY LIFE BACK.

THESE ARE THE THREE AREAS THAT HELPED ME IN MY LIFE....

You are the only one making all the sacrifices..

1. Sacrificing your happiness and joy and handing it over to one person is lonely and exhausting. Feeling sad all the time, being intentionally hurt and used is painful. It keeps you in a dark place of frustration and confusion. You become afraid of your own zest for life. Let go of the fairytale that giving all of yourself to a man who doesn't appreciate you or values all your efforts. This will not change anything in your relationship. You will feel emptier as though you're not doing enough. Stop Stop....This is Enough.

Your Freedom is at Stake

2. Possessive behavior comes into play in a Toxic Relationship. Your friends and family become a distant memory. Your relationship is one-sided in a blink of an eye. He will stray you away from your life and loved ones by planning things the same day you want to spend time with them or tell you it's not the time to do those things. Their insecurity and fragile being is a primary role in keeping you dependent on them and releasing you of your support network. Because these situations happen so fast, we never question them, and as time goes by we become isolated and alone. We must remain aware of the distance we put between us and our loved ones. If we are calling our friends and family frequently and it comes to a complete stop, we must take notice. This is the most obvious sign that you will see. 

Finding Peace

                              

3.  Having peace in a toxic, abusive relationship. Well, It will never happen. You will always feel uneasy, a bit anxious. The sad thing about my relationship that I learned was I never spoke up. I never had that feeling of peace in my heart by getting my feelings off my chest and setting things right with what was said at the moment. I held things in and was nervous and afraid of a fight or argument that might flare-up. As time went on I found myself withdrawn and asking myself. "What are you doing?" "Why do you want to live like this?" "Why don't you say something?" In order to free yourself and have peace in your life is to come out with your feelings and say it like it is. It is the most liberating voice you will ever hear. It is a game-changer for the rest of your life going forward. No more questions, no more arguing with yourself, spit it out... 

In any relationship making sacrifices are fine, but your happiness and self-respect should come first. You should always be a priority. Your relationship should be built on values, love, and happiness. We obviously want the same goal and that is to be happy with one another. 

Relationships are not bonded by cruel punishment and painful words and the sacrifice of your self-worth. Suffocating every ounce of energy you have left. Remember you owe nothing to anyone. You owe yourself everything.  

This is not the time to cover up and act as if everything is alright, or that you can do
this on your own. I can tell you this. You can't do this on your own. You will need assistance.

I'm here if you would like to talk. You can leave me a message at www.valueurself.com
and pick the best time that works for you. I will answer any questions you might have.

I'm a woman just like you. A woman who made mistakes with her heart and has been through the same situation you are going through. I'm a woman who is willing to help you and guide you to a life you are created to live.

Love is amazing. We all know how this feels but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. I'm thankful and grateful to be a part of all of your lives.

You can also contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com and visit my website: www.coffeewithamilia.com
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Be Blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.
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Stay Safe
Be Strong

Amilia Powers

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Don't Give Him A Pass--Narcissistic Abuse

This Is Not Okay!

What do you think happens when you say everything is Okay to a Narcissist? You get more abused!

Everything is not Okay. Stop pacifying the pain, and pretending that everything is fine with getting hurt pained, and mentally abused. Is this what you really believe love should feel?

Yes, you fell in love. You believe that there are better days on the way. You want to give him chances to change. The confusion comes when one day is incredible, and the next day is pure torment. We hold on to every memory of that amazing day, we lose sight of what just happened to us. Unfortunately, our heart gets sucked in, and we have a hard time seeing what is happening to us.

I know this story very well. I lived it. I hoped and prayed that things would be different. That he would go back to the person that I first met. Kind loving and attentive. I wished that there was some sort of magic that would turn back the clock to the day we first set eyes on each other. Obviously, wishing is full of broken promises. What I received in return was more abuse more pain and tears of loneliness.

I became so caught up with holding on and pretending that my life with him was wonderful and loving, pleasing him at every moment. I forgot about my own life. There wasn't a friend in arm's length. I kept my family at a distance. I knew the position I was in. In reality, I didn't want my family and friends to see what was going on. Playing make-believe was my only means of survival, in hopes of change. I was lost in darkness.

I was hooked on a relationship based on the first phase. I refused to believe that it was abuse. I would say to myself "This couldn't be happening he said he loves me. We had an amazing time last night." The cycle repeated itself day after day, weeks, and months. I was sucked into a life of torment.

What happened to the strong, Intelligent financially stable woman I was? I was used for having a good heart and punished by saying everything is Okay.

If you are doing this, please stop. It's not OK!

If you are making excuses for what you just read. Please Stop that right now. There is nothing right about pain, hurt, or any kind.

I'm a woman who's been through all of the things you are going through. A woman whose life was slammed against the wall. A woman's advice you can trust. A woman who found her way through the darkest of times. I woke up every morning praising God, and never giving up hope. I praised him in good times, and when I was cursed at. He saw me through. I never gave up on me. I will never let you give up on you.

Having love in our lives is amazing. We all know how that feels, but the right type of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. There's nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and has her voice, please remember that.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you through the process. I will answer any questions or concerns you may have.

I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you through your present situations. For more information, click the link below. My prayers I turned into meditations, that helped women rise beyond their pain.

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Be Blessed

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I DON'T CARE--NARCISSIST ABUSE

I DON'T CARE WHAT HE'S DOING!!

WHY DON'T YOU CARE HOW HE'S DOING?

From love to abuse in a matter of an instant just about sums it up. You spend time being loving and accommodating to a person you thought loved you and cared about you the same way you cared for them. To only experience pain and torment and everyday abuse from him. 

The rollercoaster ride he put you on and blamed you that it is all in your imagination. You begin to question if it was you who might have taken the abuse the wrong way. You have to shake yourself awake from this horrible dream you are living. Your heart is in constant struggle with your thoughts. 

The first question pops up. "How did I get to a place of despising the person I loved so much?"

I'm going to explain 3 reasons why "I DON'T CARE" Maybe you feel the same?

BECAUSE HE ENJOYED ABUSING ME!

The abuse was a game that he played very well. He was so convincing he had people eating right out of his hand, the poor victim card. They believed every scene he made up and roll played. As if he was a famous actor performing on Broadway. 

The scenes that I had to go through was like a scary movie. You know that show you had to cover your eyes almost the entire movie In hopes that it will soon pass and you can lift your head and take a breath. 

The cowardly laugh of a villain that wouldn't stop cursing and abusing me and my family. The terror that came out of one man or should we say one demon that hurt and pained many families. 

A person who feeds off of tormenting and abusing others, because he has low self-esteem and has no self-worth or value that he can bring to anyone but his pain. 

That's the key ladies, they need us to feel their pain. This is what keeps them powerful 

and feeling good. 

I HAVE MY LIFE BACK

Not looking back was the best thing I have ever done. No more shattered dreams, no more loneliness. I don't have to go on about my day convinced that this is true love. No more switching from love to hate. No more feeling I have no choice and remain in an unhealthy and unsafe relationship. 

No more staying silent and waiting for the bomb to go off. No more walking around the insecurities of a man who doesn't appreciate my value. I don't have to shut off the noise in my mind anymore of the cursing that came out of his mouth. 

This was the darkest place I have ever been to in my life. But having faith in God knowing that this man was passing threw and he wasn't a part of my plan or my future or my life rather than God had for me. Gave me the strength and courage to add forgiveness in my heart and find peace. 

I can't express what it feels like to laugh freely and smile so hard my face hurts. To dress great and not be belittled and spoke to so unkindly. I feel there is nothing more amazing than having your friends and family around that love you. 

I have to say. I never heard the word "Narcissist" in my life. It's only when I had this abuse happen to me is when I started searching and reading and did what I could to understand who I was up against. I needed to educate myself so I will never have to experience this type of pain ever again. 

No One Gets A Pass

 Having love in our lives is amazing. But the right kind of love is very important.   

PRAYER CHANGES THINGS

Taking time to heal and putting my life together changed. I felt myself not giving into nonsense. My awareness became stronger. I took time for myself. I traveled and began writing and coaching and wrote a novel and several books. I changed my network of people. I became stronger in faith, and prayer became my everyday. 

I prayed for my family, direction, guidance, and strength. I began to speak to women all across the country who were overwhelmed with abuse and pain and the hurt that took over their voices. I became their voice. I continued making changes and working really hard to get the message out to the world. 

My message: "There is Strength in Hope"----Amilia Powers

During my travel, I met my husband. A kind wonderful special man. I have to admit I never thought this type of man existed. Gentle, looking out for my needs. His kindness goes beyond what I ever imagined. I never thought I would be planning a wedding and walking down the aisle with the man of my dreams. 

I believe in the power of prayer. I believe that God hears our pain and knows what you need. 

I feel we need to give ourselves time and heal.

Going through pain and struggle, being abused is never easy. I can say this because I know this first hand. It does get easier in time. Time is the magic word. There is no rush, you take as much time as needed. Stay active in your life. Stay in faith and strength. 

I'm a woman who's been through all of the things you are going through. A woman whose life was slammed against the wall. A woman who found her way through her darkest hour. I never gave up hope. I never gave up on me. I will never give up on you. 

Don't waste another minute. There's nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and has her voice, please remember that.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you through the process. I will answer any questions or concerns you may have. 

Click the Link Below and Learn more about me, and how I can help you.

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Have a blessed day

Stay Strong

Amilia Powers

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The Truth You Need to Know---Narcissist Abuse

  The Truth After Abuse

After abuse, for me, I couldn't even think about dating any man. I have to tell you, I was grieving. I tore myself up over what I allowed to happen to me. What I let this man put me and my family through. Anyone who is a survivor of narcissist abuse can tell you how mentally draining it is. How exhausted you feel physically you can't get any rest, because your mind won't let you go to sleep. The thought of going through that one more time didn't even enter your mind. 

Let me give you some advice. I recommend you stay alone, with your family and friends for as long as you need to. If you jump into a relationship too fast, you will probably most likely end up with either the same person or a man just like him. Going full speed ahead after trauma doesn't give you enough time to pick yourself up. You are still uneasy and hurt. You still wear your pain on your sleeve. 

Give yourself time to clean up his dirty work. You need time to throw out the reminisce, the poison of a man who tormented you and put your life in disarray. You first need your life back. Your smile back. Your laughter back. Your family back. They are scattered all over the place far far away from you. From the lies, he planted in their heads. The picture he painted of you being crazy. You have a lot of work cut out for you. Putting back your life is not going to be easy. It needs to be done first.

Now that I have explained the importance of taking care of yourself before dating. Give yourself a break and permission to get angry, sad, upset, scream, cry, and praise God. Praise him from the bottom of your heart. God's intervention is God's protection. He saved you a whole lot of grief.

These are three things I recommend you do before you move forward and start dating. 

Before We Talk about Dating

1. This isn't a quick fix scheme. Were you ever told by a friend to start dating right away and you will quickly forget everything? How did that work out? The thing is, we still have to go home at the end of our day. Thoughts and feelings of any kind can not be erased overnight or on a date. You will always have them in the back of your mind. That's why time is needed. It's needed to absorb what accord in our lives,  it gives us balance to embrace our next steps in our life. Time also allows us to reflect and understand what kind of people we will allow in our lives going forward. Time will never erase the hurt we have endured. But it will affect us less as we grow in strength and courage. I recommend right now if you want to date someone date yourself. Get to know you better. 

2. You can go out. Not dating doesn't mean you isolate yourself from the world. Regain the relationships you had before this awful situation. Reach out to love one's friends and share with them what transpired in your life. Most likely you kept it secret. They love you so don't be afraid of opening your heart to them. You will have to relive the pain through most of the details. But I'm sure once they understand what you went through you will have all the support you need. Yes, this can be overwhelming and some days worst than others. But Communication is the key as you begin to heal. Being honest with the ones you love. Disarm your feelings and let people know you are hurting. Take small steps to detach yourself from his harsh words. Healing from abuse has no time limit attached to it.

3. Slow down. Reconnect with who you once were. Before you got involved with that man. Do you remember that person? That person who laughed so hard her belly hurt. The person that smiled when she entered the room and everyone was excited to see her. Yes, that person. The person who would fix herself up so pretty, and feel great. Please, continue to be this person. Find her. She is living in your heart. Go to the beauty parlor. Get your nails done. Buy a new outfit. You haven't done that in such a long time. Get a nice pair of sandals or sneakers. Take yourself out on a date. Do something for you. Dress up and take a friend out to a great restaurant. Heck, enjoy a fantastic glass of wine. Love yourself more than anything on the planet. The strength you get from connecting to your true self is unstoppable.

I'm very thankful and grateful every day for the good times and for the bad times. It has brought me to where I'm today. Helping women from all across the country heal and change their lives is a blessing. Being able to be here with you, to help you understand the importance of your value.

I created a website that is very easy to navigate and you will find helpful information to begin living a life you are created to live. You can set up a free consultation with me. I created a series of meditations that were created from my own prayers, which walks you out of the dark and become more focused. You can pick one that pertains to your life right now, and you can start immediately on making these changes. 

You can contact me and we can go over any concerns on how to start:

amiliapowers@gmail.com

Click the Link:

https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s


Website:  www.valueurself.com or 
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I also created personalized meditations, that is created from your own personal circumstances, for more information about that. You can visit the link at the bottom of the picture.

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AMILIA POWERS

Opening Your Heart to Everyone--Toxic Relationship

HAVING THE BIGGEST HEART CAN BRING YOU THE WRONG MAN

A good-hearted person has a special kind of greatness. They give their hearts to everything they do. Being humble comes first, even before a smile. These people are always willing to give the last dollar they have and will make sure you eat before them. The kindness they give you when you are at your worst, and you can always count on them to lean on and give you a hug and help pick up your broken pieces and give you strength. 

They have a way of showing your life from a different perspective. It seems magical. Always with good intentions and selflessness. Patience when they listen to you because their heart is open to what you need. 

Unfortunately, being a "Good Hearted Person" allows certain people to take advantage of your kindness and goodwill. Because we see the good in everything and everyone we make excuses for their behavior. "They are in a bad situation" "I don't think they realized what they said or did", and when we are in our relationship we seem to carry this with us that same kind of thinking. This is when things get ugly. The relationship turns for the worst. We didn't even realize we have a narcissist in our life. 

We opened our hearts, and they poured out their pain and we bought it hook line and sinker. There isn't anything wrong with you. There isn't anything bad you've done. You just gave your kindness to the wrong person. Believe me, they saw us coming. 

Good loving women with an open heart ready to listen and help any way we can. This is part of who we are, we have been doing this all of our lives. The sad part is, our compassion was spun on their web. We went from being a loving caring person to what have I done to deserve this? Now, what do I do?

Even when we are aware this isn't what love is supposed to be like. We continue to do everything we can to try to make this right. An open-hearted person like ourselves is not demanding, doesn't put her foot down, and continues about her day hoping and praying that the next day in this toxic circle is going to be a better one. 

You guessed it. The next day didn't change a thing. The relationship became worse. Disrespected, unkindness, rude. We were isolated from our families and friends that we love so much. We would do anything to keep him happy without knowing that we are being pulled away from everyone and everything we had in our lives. It's emotionally draining and physically exhausting. We have to give it all we have to keep up with our feelings that are being tossed and twisted all over the place. 

When appeasing him is starting to get old. We realize that we are the only ones we have. Time went by so fast we didn't realize we haven't spoken to anyone in months. How would we explain any of this? How would we even start a conversation when we feel so embarrassed? I'm the only one who can get me out of this mess. Under these circumstances, we know this has to end. We are not afraid of him, because we have seen him at his worst. Our love for life will not let us live in darkness. We refuse to fight with our hearts for the rest of our life. 

Our heart lives differently. It loves to laugh and smile and has compassion. Our heart is full of faith, joy, and respect, it has empathy towards people. It's a giving heart, that now has learned not to overextend to those who don't appreciate anything we do. We will not change, and still, be good-hearted women, but have become more aware of people and their intentions. Our heart is clearer and is working more efficiently than before. 

When this relationship ended and I was put through the wringer and my life and heart were challenged. I had no regrets. All I know is that I tried to share my heart and I did what I always have done In my life and gave kindness. We must remember that love enriches our lives and the people we touch. Even if some people don't appreciate our love and kindness. We must not stop.  

It is hard to walk away from someone that we believed in and trusted, but there aren't any other options when we are mistreated and especially if our children have to see it. This is definitely not the life we would want for them. Think about that.

I'm very thankful and grateful every day for the good times and for the bad times. It has brought me to where I'm today. Helping women from all across the country heal and change their lives is a blessing. Being able to be here with you, to help you understand the importance of your value.

I created a website that is very easy to navigate and you will find helpful information to begin living a life you are created to live. You can set up a free consultation with me. I created a series of meditations that were created from my own prayers, which walks you out of the dark and become more focused. You can pick one that pertains to your life right now, and you can start immediately on making these changes. 

You can contact me and we can go over any concerns on how to start:

amiliapowers@gmail.com

Click the Link:

https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s


Website:  www.valueurself.com or www.coffeewithamilia.com

I also created personalized meditations, that is created from your own personal circumstances, for more information about that. You can visit the link at the bottom of the picture.

Join Me Today

If you are stuck join thousands of woman who have changed their lives with my "Personalize Meditations"

Click the link NOW, and
Follow the Four Simple Steps

Have a blessed day,

Be Safe, Stand in Faith

I look forward to hearing from you.

Amilia Powers

3 Reasons to Get Out--Narcissist Relationship

                            BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

Why You Should Remove Yourself From A Toxic Partner:

The first thing that happens when we leave, is we start overthinking. Give yourself the ok to collect your thoughts. Emotionally process the experiences that took place. Every day will trigger a different memory of the actions and words from your abuser.

The second thing that begins to happen is we feel that we could have done things differently. We focus on the last incident and replay everything in our mind that happened before then. The blame game is being sorted out in our thoughts. This tends to happen because the Narcissist planted the seeds that it was all your fault. The only thing that this accomplishes when thinking this way is, giving him your power.

The most unkind thing you can do to yourself right now is feeling guilty for something you didn't create or do. You've been bullied in believing this was all because of you. It is an awful heart retching feeling and I know this very well. It takes time to understand what happened to you. We are in complete shock. 

I would like to share three (3) ways you need to Get Out...

Stop the fairytale that they will change...

A narcissist is a very unpredictable person. Their thought pattern is not like ours. They don't feel bad if they hurt someone's feelings. They will never apologize and mean it. Narcissists know how to twist and manipulate in having you feel as if you're crazy and don't know what you're talking about. 

We are not responsible for their behavior and what is going on deep in their deranged mind. They are destructive beings they won't just try to destroy you. They will go after your loved ones and friends. Only out for themselves. They can dismantle you in an instant. 

They are dangerous, their actions have shown you time and time again that they don't respect you or appreciate anything you do. You can't hold on in hopes that they will change. They need help and this is not your specialty. Even with the Therapist, there is no guarantee they will ever change. A narcissist will never admit they are the problem to lose their power. 

Get connected with your life...

The most important thing you can do is understand what has happened to you. Get connected to your life. Your focus should be 100 percent on you and your well-being. 

We need to stop worrying about what the Narcissist is doing in his life. Stay off the internet, stay away from his friends and family. Anyone who will distract you from healing and picking up the pieces. Yes, cry get upset, let your words be known. Vent out loud. This is all apart of your healing process, but please do this with your loved ones. 

Stay off the phone with people who really don't care. You don't need to hear whispers in your ear about a new fling. It's time to protect your heart while you heal and gain strength and clear your life of clutter, and that means everyone who he knows and is in his life. Nothing good will come out of those conversations if you need to discuss children's keep the contacts at a minimum. 

Start From Scratch...

Love yourself more than you ever had in your life. You learned what you will not accept in your life. 

Enjoy how important it is to be around people who love you unconditionally. Your family, and friends. 

Begin your new and improved life, by getting rid of all those items you have lying around that remind you of your pain, the hurt that was caused by the person who gave them to you. Replace them with joy and love and things that are precious to you. 

Remember your hobbies and interests that you put aside. Start where you left off. Share your ideas with loved ones and social groups. Wipe your slate clean and begin to shine and smile more now than you ever have. 

Take your time, be kind with your heart while going through this difficult time. Make sure you give yourself a break and enjoy the process of a more loving and fulfilled life. 

Going through pain and struggle, being abused is never easy. I can say this because I know this first hand. It does get easier in time. Time is the magic word. There is no rush, you take as much time as needed. Stay active in your life. Stay in faith and strength. 

I'm a woman who's been through all of the things you are going through. A woman whose life was slammed against the wall. A woman who found her way through her darkest hour. I never gave up \hope. I never gave up on me. I will never give up on you.

I knew I didn't deserve a life of pain. I wanted my smile back, I wanted to hear myself laugh something I haven't done in so long. I knew it wasn't going to be easy, but it was a must to get away from him and never look back. I knew that the challenges I will be facing are just an obstacle towards freedom of torment and misery he put me through. It was worth getting out. The only words that came out of my mouth were "bring it on. I got the Lord by my side."

Having love in our lives is amazing, but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. There's nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and has her voice, please remember that.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you through the process. I will answer any questions or concerns you may have. 

Click the Link Below and Learn more about me, and how I can help you.

https://www.coffeewithamilia.com

I look forward to hearing from you.

Have a blessed day

Stay Strong

Amilia Powers