Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Healing My Broken Heart--God Help Me Smile Again




Lord, I Need Courage






Did you ever hear the saying "laughing is the best medicine."
Being around family and good friends keeps us smiling. The memories we create in these moments last a lifetime.
Was there ever a time, when you are sitting and thinking about that wonderful day you had with a friend or at a party, and you caught yourself smiling? It was as if you were there all over again. 
This feeling is the most incredible feeling you can ever have. Happiness is something you have that no one can ever take away. 
I know what you are thinking. How can I be happy in this painful relationship? You can, the most incredible thing about this feeling is you can activate it any time you wish. You have complete control over that dial. You can move the volume up or down. Your laughter can be heard for miles or quietly in your heart. 
I remember once through my storm, I had to learn to smile all over again. This was the one thing I loved doing the most. It was the most difficult period in my life, I had someone rip the joy out of my heart. 
I knew I wasn't an unhappy person. I was just in a bad situation, with the wrong person. I knew I could laugh and smile because I've done it. I know how that feels, and I know what it's like to have joy in my life. I knew it was a part of me.

One evening I sat silently and prayed. I closed my eyes and looked at the picture of my life. I saw what it really would look like without the tears. I knew this wasn't love I was living. I knew changes needed to be made. I knew I wanted to laugh and enjoy my family, friends, and live a life beyond pain and hurt. I felt I was living in darkness with no end in sight. 
I knew in order to have balance, I had to acknowledge I held the controls no matter what is happening in my life. Knowing that I carried my joy in my heart and wanted to change my situation gave me the courage to want to continue moving towards it. 
Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart, and never give up wanting to live the life you were created to live.

Begin today and make this change. Laugh, and Smile embrace life's goodness. 
This changed my entire life. It can change yours.
If you're stuck, join thousands of women like yourself who have changed their life with my personalized meditations created for your specific circumstances.
For more information, click the link below: I have also created a series of (4)Four Mp3's as well.

The biggest Myth here is people thinking that they can't shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have. I'm proof of this.

My Mp3's were created from a place of discomfort and as I wrote them, I found myself walking through my pain and surrendering my sorrow. As time continued I became stronger and better equipped to handle the days ahead. I believe in this. I have helped women from all walks of life find joy again, their smile and laugh that they thought was lost.

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Let's do this
Be blessed
Amilia
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Saturday, July 28, 2018

SILENCE--Is The Enemy


                 THE REASONS WE STAY QUIET

 
                       














As a young girl growing up in a European Environment. We are consistently told to be seen and not heard. Our duties were to help our mothers run the household, by cleaning, cooking and doing other chores to keep things properly maintained, and in order. While the men of the house handled the financial end of caring for the family.

There were days when life was extremely difficult. The arguments and fighting were so unbearable, I found myself in my room under the covers that were on my bed, trying really hard to block out or muffle all the noise. Wishing for it all to stop.  


I wanted so much to have the nerve to say something anything at all to stop what was happening, but I was too afraid. I thought to myself, why isn't my mother speaking up. Why isn't she standing up for herself? 


As time went on and I got older. One morning I had the nerve, and ask her that very question. Why don't you stand up for your self? The answer that I received made me very upset with her. She told me she didn't want to discuss these things with me and to be quiet and go to school. As I walked out of the house that day, I looked back and wished I could help her, and make all of this go away. I had such torn feelings in my stomach. As if my heart was ripped in two.

I was mad at my father, hated what he was doing. All I could think about was, this is the man I looked up to and loved who is causing this hurt, and pain, and at the same time, I was saddened for my mom because she didn't have the courage to stand up for her self, and continued to stay silent.

I wanted to speak to someone, anyone but I could hear my fathers voice in my ear, "whatever happens in the house, stays in the house." I didn't want to be the one to tear my family apart. I know my mother loved him and adored him, I realized that she is the one who would have to take that step.

The time came I finished school, and I began to enter into the business world to start making my own income. I found myself carrying that burden of silence around with me everywhere I went. It was like a bag strapped to my waist. I found myself being more and more like my mother every day. "Silent"

There were people at work and in my day to day encounter, that pushed me around, spoke down to me and took advantage of my good will. I didn't have the courage to speak up and tell them that I don't deserve to be treated like this. I allowed this to happen. There were times I would arrive home from work, so mad at myself for not saying a word, it reminded me of the conversation I had with my mother.

Days turned into months then years. Nothing changed at home, and it seemed nothing changed in my life, but I met a man. He was wonderful and treated me the way every girl dreams of being treated. I mistook that for amazing love and unfortunately, it turned into torment and pain. My fear of letting go consumed me. I loved him and wanted it to work. I didn't want to tell my parents, I knew they wouldn't understand, because of the way they lived their life. I actually stayed silent for a long time and put on this dreadful appearance that my life was perfect.

I struggled with my heart. I knew things needed to change. There was no more love left in my being to give to this man. The unkindness, the ruthless energy he put out was destructive and dismantled any feelings in our household. Everyone was under attack and we never knew when he was going to strike. We were all on the defensive.

I wanted him to go where ever he needed to go and become someone else's problem and not mine. But then again, I couldn't wish this on anyone. The days and nights blended together. It was uncomfortable being in my own home. A place where you can lay your head down and rest became a home without peace and love. No joy rained upon me, no happiness came near. Like a house in the desert with nothing around for miles. It became a very lonely dwelling. I had one thing I knew he could never take away was my faith in the Lord. I prayed day in and day out for guidance. I knew he had my back. I knew this isn't the life he wanted for me.

I was so grateful and thankful when the relationship finally ended. No words can adequately describe the liberation I felt. I was instantly freed, no longer thinking about what had been. I never looked back. I was so inspired not to let this happen to anyone. I refuse to let a woman wait as long as I did to change her life. No one deserves to be treated this way.

I began to write and held workshops to help women all across the country stand up and take notice of their life. I also created meditations through my prayers that are now helping thousands of women overcome these struggles in their own lives. Silence can only work against you and not for you. Being at war with your heart, and feeling those deep wounds that no one can reach, because you decided to stay silent is not the way you want to live your life.

Your life can change. I'm proof that you can find someone that will love and cherish you and treat you the way you are supposed to be treated. It took some time. I wasn't in any rush. I worked on me and became stronger, healthier and more excited about life than I ever was. I drew in people that are doing amazing things in the world. There is nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and smiling and has her voice. You will find yourself surrounded by joy and love.

I'm thankful and grateful everyday. For the good times and for the bad times, they have brought me to where I'm today.

Be Blessed.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. You are not alone. I will answer any questions you may have

Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.valueurself.com


I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you through this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.


For more information, click on the link below.


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I have created a special addition to my meditation practices. It is back from popular demand. It is "Personalized Meditations." 

Our meditations have changed the way people view healing and solving problems.  We are excited to share this with you:


For more information about this, click the link below.



The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.



https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations


Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

Leave me a message, and the best time to reach you.

Amilia Powers

  






Thursday, July 26, 2018

POKER FACE--Hiding The Pain


HIDING YOUR THOUGHTS





Expressing our feelings after a very difficult and painful situation is a job in its self. We begin to pull away from people, friends family ect....

During this time of the abuse, we stayed quiet. Our laugh was so far out of our reach, it wasn't a thought, and talking about our situation isn't an option. Our silence took that part of us. We begin each day alone. Stuck with so many unanswered questions. Why did he have to abuse me? Why didn't he just leave? Why is he so angry? What did I do in my life to deserve this? What did I do to him? At this point, you don't care about love. Only how you were treated. No one has permission to do this to anyone.

Hiding our heartache we feel was the only way to deal with the unpleasant trauma. You ask why? I will tell you. No one understands unless they have been through this themselves. Let me ask you a question. Have you ever reached for a smile you couldn't find? The laughter you couldn't hear? A voice that couldn't speak?

Getting up was difficult, hesitating in the morning, but we do because we have to. We are not looking forward to questions from people, neither at our jobs or our personal life. As we go through our day, we begin to play a game with our feelings and walk around with a "Poker Face." Maintaining a neutral face, and protecting our feelings was a hard task.

For those of you who don't know. A "Poker Face" is one expression that hides your true feelings. A blank face, no joy, happiness or any facial remarks.

Time to grieve is a must under any circumstances letting the dust settle was highly effective for me. Not because of the loss of a man, but what I have endured. We need time to drain the poison that has been given to us. (The physical and emotional abuse that we dealt with. Nasty bitter anger, that came out of a miserable man.) That once held our happiness in the grips of his hands.

I came home from work one day it was late. Took a shower and settled in my room. No Television, no computer, no phone. I sat on my bed and began to pray. I got up the courage to ask the Lord what are my next steps. I told him I was very hurt the way I was treated. I cried, I told him everything that my heart was holding onto and asked him to take the pain from me. I did this every night I came home. I wanted to smile and laugh again. I missed it so much. I asked the Lord to help me put my life back together.

I took out my notebook and started writing down my prayers and what I asked of the Lord. I became stronger and healthier over time. I began to turn my world around. I was able to smile and laugh and find joy in things that I never knew existed. I spoke hope to my heart, and love to my life. I stood in faith and began to live the life I was meant to live. Praying helped me focus on my issue and find a solution. I have people gravitating to me from all over, wanting to know how I changed my life, and how they can start and change theirs.

Today I'm helping thousands of women change their lives with my personalized meditations. 

The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.

Our meditations have changed the way people view healing and solving problems.  We are excited to share this with you. Click the link below the photo for more information.



If you are going through any difficulties. Please click this link, Let me guide you and help you take that next step in your life. You can email me with any questions, or concerns who may have.
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I look forward to working with you. 
Be blessed







Monday, July 23, 2018

Bad Timing


Maybe I should have waited!






I get several emails a day, about this very subject. People meeting their boyfriends, husbands or dating partners at the wrong time.

I have to tell you something. There isn't a wrong time. If you have spent more than a day with that specific individual than it wasn't the wrong time. It was with the wrong person. The unfortunate part, as time gets away from us we have invested our time and thoughts into a relationship hoping it grows.  This is when several mistakes take place. We go into all things in life with good intentions and an open mind that the same will be returned to us. People have mistaken this as timing playing the major factor in our lives. But in reality, not everyone we meet will treat us with kindness and give us the love we deserve.

Think about this for a minute. Do you know someone who is in a relationship hoping that things will change even though they are mistreated, or abused in some way? They are hanging in there for dear life, that some kind of miracle is going happen to change their relationship.

You become lost for words.

In any new relationship, we have to stop and consider if our feelings are being met first, and if there is a mutual understanding, that we both want the same thing. This is a big deal when it comes to taking any relationship to the next level. Remember how important love is to you. We can not spend all of our time and effort making someone happy and feeling empty at the same time. You are working way too hard to keep someone who doesn't know how valuable you are and is not reciprocating the same way.

In some cases, we forget what we would like out of a relationship, and throw ourselves to the side. We become frustrated, lonely and not loved. We created a one-sided relationship with our selves. While our partners are taking all of our energy, and have depleted our time, and start mistreating us. We need to take a look at how we feel about ourselves. How much are we willing to endure before we tell ourselves that this is not for me. You are in charge of that.

There is one thing I would like to share with you that everyone forgets. As women, we already know when we are putting too much of our time into a man we love, that doesn't love us back. We are heading down a painful path. We can not keep up this game, it is exhausting.

To answer your question about meeting people at the wrong time is false. The answer is, how much time will you hold on to a relationship that's wrong.

Please Please, don't forget you hold the power over your own life. No one has the right to harm, or mistreat you. Continue being an amazing woman, and share your kindness and love, but extend it to the ones who love you and respect you and enjoy everything about you.


If you are stuck, join thousands of women who have changed their lives with 

my "Personalized meditation," that is created for your own personal circumstances, and situation.

The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture. 

You can also leave me a message, with your contact information and the best time to reach you, and I will guide you through the process. amiliapowers@gmail.com







https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations/products/personalized-meditations





I have also created a series of (4) MP3's, to heal the "The Broken Hearted" click the link and feel free to check out my website. www.valueurself.com


Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

We will continue our conversation on Wednesday.

Amilia Powers




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Monday, July 16, 2018

It's Ok to be Upset


It's not wrong to show emotion





Never apologize for being upset. You have a right to your feelings, and when someone hurts you and pains you in any way shape or form, your thoughts don't come out right. It's understandable to become defensive over these challenges. You are bound to have a negative reaction, your entire being is vulnerable.

Did you ever hear the saying mind over matter? Sometimes anything goes when you are heartbroken or in despair. It's ok to cry, it's not even wrong to want attention. At this stage you are angry and your insides are throwing you around. You don't have enough clarity to communicate calmly or rationally.

This is called being human. No one prepares you for the unexpected. We don't walk through life thinking that the worst is going to happen. It doesn't matter how you were raised, or how smart you are. We don't see this coming.

People talk about warning signs, and what to watch out for. This isn't correct on so many different levels. Once we allow our heart access to someone else, we can only think good thoughts. We are invested in that person. When the relationship goes sour, we have to decide when it is time to walk away. It doesn't matter how many people tell us to leave, and give us their opinion, we have the final say about what happens in our life, and how we want to live it.

Feeling a sense of loss is not a sign of weakness, the last thing you should be doing is blaming yourself and dissecting every little act of unkindness that has happened. You don't deserve the punishment your giving yourself. You shouldn't feel embarrassed because you didn't do anything wrong. The only unfortunate part was you were in love with the wrong person.

Open your heart, and begin to heal slowly at your own pace. Forgiveness comes first which allows you room to be heard and not be alone in your pain. Share what you're going through with a family member or close friend. This is when the healing process begins. It takes one step at a time. Time we have plenty of. There is no race. What you went through is very difficult, and will not go away overnight. But what I do know is that it does get better. With time the memory doesn't leave you, but the impact of what happened to you becomes less.


If you are stuck, join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my 
"Personalized meditation," that is created for your own personal circumstances, and situation.


The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture. 

You can also leave me a message, with your contact information and the best time to reach you, and I will guide you through the process. amiliapowers@gmail.com






https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations/products/personalized-meditations




I have also created a series of (4) MP3's, to heal the "The Broken Hearted" click the link and feel free to check out my website. www.valueurself.com


Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

We will continue our conversation on Wednesday.

Amilia Powers





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