Monday, August 20, 2018

WHEN I TOOK OFF MY ARMOR EVERYTHING CHANGED


I wore it every day to protect my heart




I woke up every morning like clockwork dressed for battle. I would not leave my house without my armor. My goal was to protect my secret and my heart from anyone who would try to come near it.

As you read from my prior articles, being in love wasn't a joyous experience. It was painful and hurtful. I never knew that loving someone could make your heart feel so sore.

I continued on with my daily life, with family and friends, but always on guard. I didn't let anyone get to close to me. I wouldn't let any man pay me a compliment. I didn't believe a word they said. As time went on my armor became thicker, and my heart became sealed.

One night I went out with friends to get something to eat, and the hostess told us it will be a few minutes before our table would be ready. She told us to wait at the bar and will come and get us, I placed my purse down at the empty seat next to me, and a man asked to sit down, I wouldn't let him. I told him "I have my purse there." Yes, I was rude.

To me I had a right to be rude, my heart was hurt and my stomach in knots. He didn't know that but I did, and that's all that mattered to me. He could find another seat.

When I arrived home that evening and replayed everything that happened that night, I realized I can't hurt other people, because of what has happened to me. I didn't know how to stop the pain I was feeling. I know I needed to get my feelings out. I wanted to trust again, laugh again. Be a part of the world and all of the glories that surrounded me. Being on guard made me feel alone in this world. I created this barrier, between love and myself.

I wanted so bad to take off this armor and live like I used to before he came into my life. I just didn't know where to begin. I took off my armor and began to settle in for the night. It felt good not to have my guard up. I was at peace in my own home.

I sat quietly and began to pray and cry. During my prayers my tears became heavy and my cries were loud. I knew the Lord was reaching my heart. I told him everything, I didn't leave anything out. It's funny when I think about it now. The Lord knows everything that happens to all of us. I began to sense a sign of relief.

Day after day, I worked on healing through my prayers. I started to feel stronger, and healthier. It took time, but the burden was lifted from my heart and became lighter, easier to manage. My thoughts became clearer and my mind was focused.

The day I finally took off my armor, was the day it changed my life. I started to write my prayers and turned them into meditations. I'm helping women all across the country stand up and take notice of their life. They have overcome struggles and pain, from being at war with their heart. A place I know very well.

I created personalized meditations from their own experience and helped women overcome obstacles that felt like a weight in their heart, and they began to find themselves surrounded by joy and love.

I'm very thankful and grateful every day for the good times and for the bad times, they have brought me to where I'm today. Being able to share this with you, and changing lives, is a blessing.



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Thursday, August 16, 2018

The Love You Desire--Broken Hearted





WE ARE AMAZING WOMEN






when I was a young girl in my teens. I use to sit in my room and daydream about the day I meet my handsome prince. Like all childhood fairy tales, they ended happily ever after. In Love Forever.

As I grew up and began to date, I realized that life isn't a fairy tale at all. Not everyone will treat you like a princess, and do the loving things that you hoped and dreamed of as you became older. 

We try to hold on to those stories, hoping that one day we will find the love of our life, and live blissfully.

That day finally came. I met the love of my life, I was treated like a princess, I thought we were the only two people in the world. As if the world was rotating around us. Every day was amazing. I would feel my heart smile. It was a wonderful time in my life. 

One day I came home, happy as I left in the morning but my world seemed to come to a stop. His voice was different, and his smile was nowhere to be found. I wasn't even given a chance to ask him what was the matter, he told me to leave him alone and he didn't want to talk to me. 

I went to the bedroom and prepared for bed. It was early, but I didn't want to go into the living room or kitchen. He wants to be alone. I don't know if something happened at work. So many questions were running through my head. I never saw him like this before. Maybe tomorrow we will talk. I will just stay in here for the night. 

I fell asleep and didn't even hear him leave in the morning. He has never left the house without saying goodbye and without a kiss. Maybe he will call me later and tell me. I didn't have to work today and began my day as I usually do. I tried not to think about it until I knew what was going on. 

He came home late afternoon, didn't say hello. I greeted him anyway. He started yelling at me for not having his dinner ready. We never have dinner this early. When I told him this, he told me to shut up. 

I finally asked him what was the matter, and he remained quiet. It was so silent and uncomfortable during dinner that you could hear a pin drop. I didn't know what else to say. Day after day he began to treat me worse. I loved him and didn't want to lose him. I let this continue on. 

I believe at this time you can basically understand where the story is going. I let this go on for some time. I was verbally and hurtfully tormented by a narcissist. 

If you are going through this, don't hang on to him longer than you have too. Love isn't supposed to feel so bad. You must reach out to a close friend or family, you can't do this alone. Support is the key.
You will get through this. You will be safe. You will stay in faith. 

As I began the healing process, and learned to add forgiveness to my life, I began to write through my pain and started workshops to help women all across the country stand up and take notice of their life. I also created meditations through my prayers that are now helping thousands of women overcome these struggles in their own lives. Silence can only work against you and not for you. Being at war with your heart, and feeling those deep wounds that no one can reach, because you decided to stay silent is not the way you want to live your life.

This is your love and happiness your compromising. Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart. 


It's time to begin and join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my "Personalized Meditations," that is created for your own personal circumstances.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. 

These Meditations will help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture.
You can also leave me a message, with your contact information and the best time to reach you and I will guide you through the process.

I'm thankful and grateful every day that I can share this with you. For the good times and for the bad times, they have brought me to where I'm today.



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Sunday, August 12, 2018

STOP CHASING HIM--HEART BROKEN


HOW DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL WHEN YOU CHASE HIM??







What is making you chase him? What is he doing to make you feel that you have to track him down? Do you even know you are doing this? Most women don't.

STOP THE CHASE, HE'S NOT THE ONE

Doing this will take you down a one-sided relationship. You are asking for Heartache and pain.

Let's begin by answering the questions above. 

1. What is making you chase him? Do you feel that he is the one? Have you spent time and energy that your heart won't let him go? I would like to explain this in detail whats going on here. If he is not showing you the same interest, and not putting you first, and you continue down this road it will eventually make you feel worthless and upset. When you try to hold on to someone like this, It will be obvious to him what he can get away with, and he will become more disrespectful over time and distant. You will not make your relationship any better, it will get worse, and your relationship will end up one-sided. Guess who's side? 

2. Do you know what you are doing? By making this a part of your daily routine it begins to take up all of your time. You begin to put yourself last with everything. You stop going out with your friends or enjoying your family. Your sitting home waiting for that phone call, that doorbell to ring. You start to feel that if you went out to do something else you will miss seeing him and you don't want to take that chance. You feel that you need to be accessible to him at all times. You monitor your phone, and it never leaves your side. Stop Stop Stop. You will always be the one who Loves. 
                                                              
He's Not The One!

This relationship is a rollercoaster ride. During the ride it feels great, short-term and then it ends. You do not deserve to be treated like this by anyone. The person who falls in love with you will do all he can to have you by his side. Loving someone shouldn't be so complicated. It should be mutual. It should be amazing. You should never feel that you have to run after it. 

You become physically and mentally exhausted. Your heart knows it's wrong. It's not a good feeling at all to chase after the person you love. Your worth more than you are giving yourself credit for. 

Take a chance on you, and believe you are worth loving and being the love in someone's eyes. He does not deserve your love and effort or care. Take your heart elsewhere, and give it to the person who respects you and honors you and shows you what love really feels like.

This is your happiness and love your compromising. 

Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart, and never give up wanting to live the life you are created to live.

Begin today and make this change. Laugh, and smile embrace life's goodness, because you deserve it. If you're stuck, join thousands of women like yourself who have changed their life with my Personalized Meditations created for your specific circumstance. 

This changed my entire life. It can change yours. 

Begin today by clicking the link on the bottom of the picture.






These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Be blessed,
I look forward to speaking with you.
Amilia Powers














Thursday, August 9, 2018

Pain Behind the Lens---My Smile Hurts



"A Picture Says A Thousand Words"





Have you ever heard that saying? What does your picture say about you? Look into the lens. 

I received an email from a woman who is very hurt by the way she is treated in her relationship. 
All around her, there are couples who are in love with each other and do special things for one another. She wonders what that would feel like, to have someone really love her and make her feel amazing.

Her relationship is full of pain and upset. So much cursing and chaos. She is young and wants to be loved. At least a good morning would be nice. The simplest of words seem to never happen.

She told me about coming home from work, and never being acknowledged. He doesn't ask her how her day went or show some kindness when she arrives home. 

She has children, and they run to her with open arms, and that's her salvation, the love she receives from the kids can't be explained, she goes on to say. The unfortunate part of this entire relationship is that the children are treated the same when they are with him, and there isn't anything she could do to stop him from being mean.

It's funny when she is at a party with her husband or anywhere for that matter, and friends or family ask her to take a picture with him she has to force herself to smile. If the camera had a microscope attached. It would show an image that you can not see with the naked eye. It would reveal her sadness and dismay, and what the color of her heart really is, unfortunately, filled with darkness and at times the color can't be identified.

When she met her future husband she was in love. She thought it would be forever. She never once sat down and thought he would treat her with such disrespect or unkindness. The controlling factor to all of this is the worst part. Very demeaning and critical about everything she does.

At this time we are now talking on the phone. She needed someone to hear her voice and her hurt. She told me that she has hopes and dreams. That she is very creative and would love to start her own business but her husband puts down her thoughts. 

He is obviously a bully. The essential need to control may be caused by his childhood. He could have been hurt, abused not cared about or hard to handle and brushed to the side by his parents. Whatever underlying factors there is, he has to want to get help and recognize that he is destroying his relationship with his behavior. Therefore it becomes overwhelming and exhausting and the quality of life diminishes. 

Without getting the help he needs from professionals, the only resource for his family is to eventually leave. No one has the right to treat anyone this way. He must take responsibility for his own actions, and come to an agreement with himself to seek help. 

I told her not to quit working on yourself. We spoke about the importance to stay strong and focused, not only for herself but for her family. She understands that his behavior stems from him. Which is very crucial for taking steps to resolve the problem or making a plan. She has her faith, which we spoke about in length, which helped her overcome many obstacles. 

We discussed Meditations and the importance to look beyond what her eyes can see. Focus on her life and her future. Focus on resolution and peace, love with all your might, and never lose faith and hope. Your journey is far from over. 

Please don't forget you hold the power over your own life. No one has the right to harm, or mistreat you. Continue being an amazing woman, never give up on your dreams and your passion. Those are your gifts, and no one can take them away from you. God gave them to you. Your name is on it. 
She and I will stay in touch through this process. 

When we are going through a situation that is draining we must seek help to find the answers. Believe it or not, we hold those answers to our questions. They are found deep within ourselves. It's imperative to find a peaceful place, and sit calmly and listen closely for the answers.

It's time to begin and join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my "Personalized Meditations," that is created for your own personal circumstances.


These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. 

These Meditations will help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture.
You can also leave me a message, with your contact information and the best time to reach you and I will guide you through the process.




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I look forward to hearing from you, leave me a message. Stay in touch.

Be blessed
Amilia




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Monday, August 6, 2018

Who Are You Convincing?



          
ARE YOU CONVINCING ME OR YOURSELF?






Did you ever have a conversation with a friend, and they tell you how wonderful and joyous their relationship is?

You know the story isn't true. You're the one who has picked up the phone in the middle of the night when she was upset, and you were there when she cried so much she couldn't catch her breath.

I was that person who reached out to friends and family day in and day out. The thoughts in my head were, this will pass. It will be alright. Tomorrow is another day. I knew I was well supported in every way good or bad. No matter what the circumstances. In my heart, I hoped one day he would change and things would be different. 

I would sit in silence and tell myself over and over that he will treat me better it's just a phase, and I'm focusing too much on the negative.

What I was actually doing was trying to convince myself that I was with the right person. 

When we Invest so much time in a person, our energy our love our kindness. Even when the relationship goes sour, we find ourselves never giving up, we become determined to find good in our situation and stay even though it hurts. 

It doesn't make sense to most people. As females, when we share our heart with a man we take it seriously, and we do what we can to hold our relationship, and families together. 

The most important thing we must do is stop working with our heart and our emotions when it comes to our happiness and joy. 

Your asking what do I mean? If we direct our thoughts on what is happening in our lives and leave emotion out of it. We will recognize that the relationship we are in is unhealthy and doesn't make us or our family stronger together. It will eventually tear us apart. How long can we play the convincing role with ourselves and the people around us? It get's exhausting.

Don't let comfort convince you that he is the one. I'm sure you have told yourself, he is everything you have been looking for in a man. Not if you have to go through this. Did you read what I wrote? Trying to convince someone to love you, and treat you amazing, will put you in a painful place. 
There is no happy ending here. This is not a fairy tale. 

Doing more for them to compensate for happiness will leave you broken, and won't change your situation. It doesn't matter what you do or try to do better. This isn't what love feels like. 

This is your happiness and love your compromising. 

Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart, and never give up wanting to live the life you are created to live.

Begin today and make this change. Laugh, and smile embrace life's goodness, because you deserve it. If you're stuck, join thousands of women like yourself who have changed their life with my Personalized Meditations created for your specific circumstance. 

This changed my entire life. It can change yours. 

Begin today by clicking the link on the bottom of the picture.




These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Be blessed,
I look forward to speaking with you.
Amilia Powers