Monday, December 10, 2018

Suffering Through Our Silence--How it Hurts


THE REASONS WE STAY QUIET




As a young girl growing up in a European Environment. We are consistently told to be seen and not heard. Our duties were to help our mothers run the household, by cleaning, cooking and doing other chores to keep things properly maintained, and in order. While the men of the house handled the financial end of caring for the family.

There were days when life was extremely difficult. The arguments and fighting were so unbearable, I found myself in my room under the covers that were on my bed, trying really hard to block out or muffle all the noise. Wishing for it all to stop.  


I wanted so much to have the nerve to say something anything at all to stop what was happening, but I was too afraid. I thought to myself, why isn't my mother speaking up. Why isn't she standing up for herself? 


As time went on and I got older. One morning I had the nerve, and ask her that very question. Why don't you stand up for your self? The answer that I received made me very upset with her. She told me she didn't want to discuss these things with me and to be quiet and go to school. As I walked out of the house that day, I looked back and wished I could help her, and make all of this go away. I had such torn feelings in my stomach. As if my heart was ripped in two.

I was mad at my father, hated what he was doing. All I could think about was, this is the man I looked up to and loved who is causing this hurt, and pain, and at the same time, I was saddened for my mom because she didn't have the courage to stand up for her self, and continued to stay silent.

I wanted to speak to someone, anyone but I could hear my fathers voice in my ear, "whatever happens in the house, stays in the house." I didn't want to be the one to tear my family apart. I know my mother loved him and adored him, I realized that she is the one who would have to take that step.

The time came I finished school, and I began to enter into the business world to start making my own income. I found myself carrying that burden of silence around with me everywhere I went. It was like a bag strapped to my waist. I found myself being more and more like my mother every day. "Silent"

There were people at work and in my day to day encounter, that pushed me around, spoke down to me and took advantage of my good will. I didn't have the courage to speak up and tell them that I don't deserve to be treated like this. I allowed this to happen. There were times I would arrive home from work, so mad at myself for not saying a word, it reminded me of the conversation I had with my mother.

Days turned into months then years. Nothing changed at home, and it seemed nothing changed in my life, but I met a man. He was wonderful and treated me the way every girl dreams of being treated. I mistook that for amazing love and unfortunately, it turned into torment and pain. My fear of letting go consumed me. I loved him and wanted it to work. I didn't want to tell my parents, I knew they wouldn't understand, because of the way they lived their life. I actually stayed silent for a long time and put on this dreadful appearance that my life was perfect.

I struggled with my heart. I knew things needed to change. There was no more love left in my being to give to this man. The unkindness, the ruthless energy he put out was destructive and dismantled any feelings in our household. Everyone was under attack and we never knew when he was going to strike. We were all on the defensive.

I wanted him to go where ever he needed to go and become someone else's problem and not mine. But then again, I couldn't wish this on anyone. The days and nights blended together. It was uncomfortable being in my own home. A place where you can lay your head down and rest became a home without peace and love. No joy rained upon me, no happiness came near. Like a house in the desert with nothing around for miles. It became a very lonely dwelling. I had one thing I knew he could never take away was my faith in the Lord. I prayed day in and day out for guidance. I knew he had my back. I knew this isn't the life he wanted for me.

I was so grateful and thankful when the relationship finally ended. No words can adequately describe the liberation I felt. I was instantly freed, no longer thinking about what had been. I never looked back. I was so inspired not to let this happen to anyone. I refuse to let a woman wait as long as I did to change her life. No one deserves to be treated this way.

I began to write and held workshops to help women all across the country stand up and take notice of their life. I also created meditations through my prayers that are now helping thousands of women overcome these struggles in their own lives. Silence can only work against you and not for you. Being at war with your heart, and feeling those deep wounds that no one can reach, because you decided to stay silent is not the way you want to live your life.

Your life can change. I'm proof that you can find someone that will love and cherish you and treat you the way you are supposed to be treated. It took some time. I wasn't in any rush. I worked on me and became stronger, healthier and more excited about life than I ever was. I drew in people that are doing amazing things in the world. There is nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and smiling and has her voice. You will find yourself surrounded by joy and love.

I'm thankful and grateful everyday. For the good times and for the bad times, they have brought me to where I'm today.

Be Blessed.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. You are not alone. I will answer any questions you may have

Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.valueurself.com


I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you through this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.


For more information, click on the link below.


https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s






I have created a special addition to my meditation practices. It is back from popular demand. It is "Personalized Meditations." 

Our meditations have changed the way people view healing and solving problems.  We are excited to share this with you:


For more information about this, click the link below.



The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.



https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations


Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

Leave me a message, and the best time to reach you.

Amilia Powers

  



Sunday, December 2, 2018

When a Picture Hides the Truth--When Your Smile Hurts


"A Picture Says A Thousand Words"





Have you ever heard that saying? What does your picture say about you? Look into the lens. 

I received an email from a woman who is very hurt by the way she is treated in her relationship. 
All around her, there are couples who are in love with each other and do special things for one another. She wonders what that would feel like, to have someone really love her and make her feel amazing.

Her relationship is full of pain and upset. So much cursing and chaos. She is young and wants to be loved. At least a good morning would be nice. The simplest of words seem to never happen.

She told me about coming home from work, and never being acknowledged. He doesn't ask her how her day went or show some kindness when she arrives home. 

She has children, and they run to her with open arms, and that's her salvation, the love she receives from the kids can't be explained, she goes on to say. The unfortunate part of this entire relationship is that the children are treated the same when they are with him, and there isn't anything she could do to stop him from being mean.

It's funny when she is at a party with her husband or anywhere for that matter, and friends or family ask her to take a picture with him she has to force herself to smile. If the camera had a microscope attached. It would show an image that you can not see with the naked eye. It would reveal her sadness and dismay, and what the color of her heart really is, unfortunately, filled with darkness and at times the color can't be identified.

When she met her future husband she was in love. She thought it would be forever. She never once sat down and thought he would treat her with such disrespect or unkindness. The controlling factor to all of this is the worst part. Very demeaning and critical about everything she does.

At this time we are now talking on the phone. She needed someone to hear her voice and her hurt. She told me that she has hopes and dreams. That she is very creative and would love to start her own business but her husband puts down her thoughts. 

He is obviously a bully. The essential need to control may be caused by his childhood. He could have been hurt, abused not cared about or hard to handle and brushed to the side by his parents. Whatever underlying factors there is, he has to want to get help and recognize that he is destroying his relationship with his behavior. Therefore it becomes overwhelming and exhausting and the quality of life diminishes. 

Without getting the help he needs from professionals, the only resource for his family is to eventually leave. No one has the right to treat anyone this way. He must take responsibility for his own actions, and come to an agreement with himself to seek help. 

I told her not to quit working on yourself. We spoke about the importance to stay strong and focused, not only for herself but for her family. She understands that his behavior stems from him. Which is very crucial for taking steps to resolve the problem or making a plan. She has her faith, which we spoke about in length, which helped her overcome many obstacles. 

We discussed Meditations and the importance to look beyond what her eyes can see. Focus on her life and her future. Focus on resolution and peace, love with all your might, and never lose faith and hope. Your journey is far from over. 

Please don't forget you hold the power over your own life. No one has the right to harm, or mistreat you. Continue being an amazing woman, never give up on your dreams and your passion. Those are your gifts, and no one can take them away from you. God gave them to you. Your name is on it. 
She and I will stay in touch through this process. 

When we are going through a situation that is draining we must seek help to find the answers. Believe it or not, we hold those answers to our questions. They are found deep within ourselves. It's imperative to find a peaceful place, and sit calmly and listen closely for the answers.

It's time to begin and join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my "Personalized Meditations," that is created for your own personal circumstances.


These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. 

These Meditations will help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture.
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Be blessed
Amilia




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Monday, November 26, 2018

I Miss My Laugh Lord--I Need Your Help to Heal


Lord, I Need Courage






Did you ever hear the saying "laughing is the best medicine."
Being around family and good friends keeps us smiling. The memories we create in these moments last a lifetime.
Was there ever a time, when you are sitting and thinking about that wonderful day you had with a friend or at a party, and you caught yourself smiling? It was as if you were there all over again. 
This feeling is the most incredible feeling you can ever have. Happiness is something you have that no one can ever take away. 
I know what you are thinking. How can I be happy in this painful relationship? You can, the most incredible thing about this feeling is you can activate it any time you wish. You have complete control over that dial. You can move the volume up or down. Your laughter can be heard for miles or quietly in your heart. 
I remember once through my storm, I had to learn to smile all over again. This was the one thing I loved doing the most. It was the most difficult period in my life, I had someone rip the joy out of my life. 
I knew I wasn't an unhappy person. I was just in a bad situation, with the wrong person. I knew I could laugh and smile because I've done it. I know how that feels, and I know what it's like to have joy in my life. I knew it was a part of me.

One evening I sat silently and prayed. I closed my eyes and looked at the picture of my life. I saw what it really would look like without the tears. I knew this wasn't love I was living. I knew changes needed to be made. I knew I wanted to laugh and enjoy my family, friends, and live a life beyond pain and hurt. I felt I was living in darkness with no end in sight. 
I knew in order to have balance, I had to acknowledge I held the controls no matter what is happening in my life. Knowing that I carried my joy in my heart and wanted to change my situation gave me the courage to want to continue moving towards it. 
Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart, and never give up wanting to live the life you were created to live.

Begin today and make this change. Laugh, and Smile embrace life's goodness. 
This changed my entire life. It can change yours.
If you're stuck, join thousands of women like yourself who have changed their life with my personalized meditations created for your specific circumstances.
For more information, click the link below: I have also created a series of (4)Four Mp3's as well.

The biggest Myth here is people thinking that they can't shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have. I'm proof of this.

My Mp3's were created from a place of discomfort and as I wrote them, I found myself walking through my pain and surrendering my sorrow. As time continued I became stronger and better equipped to handle the days ahead. I believe in this. I have helped women from all walks of life find joy again, their smile and laugh that they thought was lost.

Your only a click away. Get Started now.


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Your time starts now. 
Contact me for a free consultation at amiliapowers@gmail.com 
Let's do this
Be blessed
Amilia
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Tuesday, November 20, 2018

NO ONE UNDERSTANDS THE PAIN--HEARTACHE


No one knows how it feels, to go through this pain






I have women emailing me all the time about people in their lives trying to tell them how they should feel and what they should do about their situation and have no clue what it's like to be hurt by someone they love. Yes, I get this very well. It is very difficult to take advice from someone who doesn't understand the depth of your pain because they have never had to deal with it, but they seem to be experts in the field.

The unfortunate part of this we begin to get frustrated and misunderstood. Now you start to believe that its something you've done. Not only do you have your own situation to focus on, and you're trying your hardest to figure out the next steps you need to take, you have other people in the mix, which has caused more confusion, and are making matters worse for you. You feel you should have just kept things to yourself.

Eventually, what happens here, we let go of the need to explain our selves and our situation with others. We pull back and stay alone in thought, and try to figure things out on our own and wish we had some support. But the last thing we need is to get into a disagreement or argument over what is happening in our life. Because someone feels they know more about it then you do.

I found myself always on the defensive. Too many questions about why.

1. Why did you let your situation go so far?

2. Why didn't you call for help?

3. Why did you allow him to hurt you?

4. Why didn't you stand up for yourself?

These questions obviously came from people who have absolutely no right to ask them. Why you might ask because they weren't living my life or your life. They don't understand the circumstances. Did you ever hear that saying? "You will never understand until it happens to you" This saying holds merit.

We really didn't need people telling us everything is fine now, or this will pass or you'll get over it. Ect...

What we were looking for or still are seeking is understanding, compassion, and support. While we figure things out and collect our lives and begin to put the pieces back together that are scattered like confetti everywhere we turn.

By telling someone, you should have done this or that would make them feel like a failure, they would begin to second guess themselves. No, advise here not needed. This person needs encouragement and someone to listen.

Don't judge, no one deserves to be judged going through a difficult time. If they cry they need to get it out. That's not a sign of weakness, this is something that needs to take place, all apart of the healing process. If they don't look as if they are put together, keep your comments to yourself. They will get better without your foolish remarks.

You obviously do not know what someone is going through, so have some compassion, and reassure them that they are not alone. Getting out of bed is the most difficult task in many cases. They are most likely facing many challenges ahead.

Everyone has there own stuff, is that fair to say? We are still responsible for how we treat others. Many situations take longer for most people to even understand. Healing is endless. Things will come up in their daily lives, such as memories, thoughts of pain and hurt that will bring sorrow. Like a replay button that doesn't stop. It turns the emotional gauge higher and lower depending on the day. As time goes on it becomes lighter and easier to deal with. Until then. Love

Love them and show support all the time. Share joy and kindness. This is the most effective way that a person who is broken will feel the most supported. Did you ever hear the saying?
"love conquers all"

Remember a very important golden role: "We Rise By Helping Others"


We are stronger together. Strength runs in numbers.

Click the link below, and live the life you are created to live. 





If you are stuck, join thousands of woman who have changed their lives with my "Personalize Meditations"

I have created a special addition to my meditation practices. It is back from popular demand. It is "Personalized Meditations" Our meditations have changed the way people view healing and solving problems. 

We are excited to share this with you, start today.


https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations

The biggest myth is people believing to not shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the meditation is personalized you tune right into your life and solution.

There isn't any sound or noise that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.

Be blessed,
I look forward to speaking with you.
Leave me a message and the best time to reach you.
I will guide you through the process
Amilia
amiliapowers@gmail.com


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Thursday, November 15, 2018

Living In The Shadows of a Man--Painful Life


Living Under The Control Of Someone Else







When this happens in our life, there are no words to describe the frightening feeling it causes. I know this first hand. I was with a man who I believed I loved, and I really thought in my heart he loved me. As time went on, I began to live in his shadow. There wasn't anything more terrifying than the feeling of living in the dark. It feels as if your world comes to a halt.

I worked two, or three jobs to keep up the finances in my home. When I look back today and I realize that working was my salvation. I didn't want to go home. I felt that there was nothing I wanted to go home to. When I worked, I was able to smile, and laugh eat in peace, without unkind words, and anger. 

I began to stay to myself most of the time. I really didn't speak to many people about my situation, I was a private person. My children knew about my hurt and pain, but I kept them away from my house. I felt I was punished for something I didn't do. I saw my family less and less. I spoke about my situation less and less. I began to feel the grip on my life. In reality, it didn't belong to me anymore. There were days, I prayed someone would come and save me. I didn't know what to do myself or where to begin to fix this. 

I wanted what every woman, wished for. To be loved and respected, and cherished. My life was further from that. 

If anyone would ask me how I was, I would nod my head, and tell them everything was alright. Even if they can tell through my eyes that there was pain. I denied my feelings and held them under lock and key close to my heart.

I prayed a lot. As I was going through this hurtful period in my life, I knew this wasn't my last stop. I knew that the good Lord had something else in mind for me. I knew I had to be patient and wait out the storm. I had peace in my heart, knowing I did the best I could under the circumstances.

I would get up every day and thank God for this amazing glorious day. I knew it wasn't the life I dreamed of, I knew the day wasn't going to be what I expected. I held on to the Lord, and let him guide me through the learning process. I never felt alone, and I never gave up. This wasn't the story God wrote for me.

There were people who made fun of me. They laughed and even sent me bad wishes. It was demining, and sad. I would continue to smile and carry on with my day as if I didn't know what I heard. People sometimes forget their voice carries. Unfortunately, they believed in what they heard, but not the truth. Still today, I never tried to defend myself, I don't think there was a need for any of that. I had to walk away from people who didn't understand what I went through and let this part of me rest.

If you feel this way, please reach out and speak to someone. Get a hold of family or friends, anyone that can help you. Do whatever it takes to get help. Please do not wait as long as I did. No one has the right to treat you this way.

You are a valuable woman, that deserves to be treated with a kind voice, and loved with the utmost respect. Love is amazing, but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. You are not alone. I will answer any questions you may have.
Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.valueurself.com

I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you with this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations, that are now helping thousands of women like yourself, live the life they were created to live.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

You can get more information, by clicking on the link below.

https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s





Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

We will continue our conversation on Sunday

Amilia Powers


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Friday, November 9, 2018

Why are you Chasing him?---You are Valuable


HOW DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL WHEN YOU CHASE HIM??







What is making you chase him? What is he doing to make you feel that you have to track him down? Do you even know you are doing this? Most women don't.

STOP THE CHASE, HE'S NOT THE ONE

Doing this will take you down a one-sided relationship. You are asking for Heartache and pain.

Let's begin by answering the questions above. 

1. What is making you chase him? Do you feel that he is the one? Have you spent so much time and energy on him your heart won't let him go? I would like to explain this in detail whats going on here. If he is not showing you the same interest, and not putting you first, and you continue down this road it will eventually make you feel worthless and upset. When you try to hold on to someone like this, It will be obvious to him what he can get away with, and he will become more disrespectful over time and distant. You will not make your relationship any better, it will get worse, and your relationship will end up one-sided. Guess who's side? 

2. Do you know what you are doing? By making this a part of your daily routine it begins to take up all of your time. You begin to put yourself last with everything. You stop going out with your friends or enjoying your family. Your sitting home waiting for that phone call, that doorbell to ring. You start to feel that if you went out to do something else you will miss seeing him and you don't want to take that chance. You feel that you need to be accessible to him at all times. You monitor your phone, and it never leaves your side. Stop Stop Stop. You will always be the one who Loves. 
                                                              
He's Not The One!

This relationship is a rollercoaster ride. During the ride it feels great, short-term and then it ends. You do not deserve to be treated like this by anyone. The person who falls in love with you will do all he can to have you by his side. Loving someone shouldn't be so complicated. It should be mutual. It should be amazing. You should never feel that you have to run after it. 

You become physically and mentally exhausted. Your heart knows it's wrong. It's not a good feeling at all to chase after the person you love. Your worth more than you are giving yourself credit for. 

Take a chance on you, and believe you are worth loving and being the love in someone's eyes. He does not deserve your love and effort or care. Take your heart elsewhere, and give it to the person who respects you and honors you and shows you what love really feels like.

This is your happiness and love your compromising. 

Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart, and never give up wanting to live the life you are created to live.

Begin today and make this change. Laugh, and smile embrace life's goodness, because you deserve it. If you're stuck, join thousands of women like yourself who have changed their life with my Personalized Meditations created for your specific circumstance. 

This changed my entire life. It can change yours. 

Begin today by clicking the link on the bottom of the picture.






These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Be blessed,
I look forward to speaking with you.
Amilia Powers






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