Sunday, June 17, 2018

What Silence Has Done To Us



THE REASONS WE STAY QUIET





As a young girl growing up in a European Environment. We are consistently told to be seen and not heard. Our duties were to help our mothers run the household, by cleaning, cooking and doing other chores to keep things properly maintained, and in order. While the men of the house handled the financial end of caring for the family.

There were days when life was extremely difficult. The arguments and fighting were so unbearable, I found myself in my room under the covers that were on my bed, trying really hard to block out or muffle all the noise. Wishing for it all to stop.  


I wanted so much to have the nerve to say something anything at all to stop what was happening, but I was too afraid. I thought to myself, why isn't my mother speaking up. Why isn't she standing up for herself? 


As time went on and I got older. One morning I had the nerve, and ask her that very question. Why don't you stand up for your self? The answer that I received made me very upset with her. She told me she didn't want to discuss these things with me and to be quiet and go to school. As I walked out of the house that day, I looked back and wished I could help her, and make all of this go away. I had such torn feelings in my stomach. As if my heart was ripped in two.

I was mad at my father, hated what he was doing. All I could think about was, this is the man I looked up to and loved who is causing this hurt, and pain, and at the same time, I was saddened for my mom because she didn't have the courage to stand up for her self, and continued to stay silent.

I wanted to speak to someone, anyone but I could hear my fathers voice in my ear, "whatever happens in the house, stays in the house." I didn't want to be the one to tear my family apart. I know my mother loved him and adored him, I realized that she is the one who would have to take that step.

The time came I finished school, and I began to enter into the business world to start making my own income. I found myself carrying that burden of silence around with me everywhere I went. It was like a bag strapped to my waist. I found myself being more and more like my mother every day. "Silent"

There were people at work and in my day to day encounter, that pushed me around, spoke down to me and took advantage of my good will. I didn't have the courage to speak up and tell them that I don't deserve to be treated like this. I allowed this to happen. There were times I would arrive home from work, so mad at myself for not saying a word, it reminded me of the conversation I had with my mother.

Days turned into months then years. Nothing changed at home, and it seemed nothing changed in my life, but I met a man. He was wonderful and treated me the way every girl dreams of being treated. I mistook that for amazing love and unfortunately, it turned into torment and pain. My fear of letting go consumed me. I loved him and wanted it to work. I didn't want to tell my parents, I knew they wouldn't understand, because of the way they lived their life. I actually stayed silent for a long time and put on this dreadful appearance that my life was perfect.

I struggled with my heart. I knew things needed to change. There was no more love left in my being to give to this man. The unkindness, the ruthless energy he put out was destructive and dismantled any feelings in our household. Everyone was under attack and we never knew when he was going to strike. We were all on the defensive.

I wanted him to go where ever he needed to go and become someone else's problem and not mine. But then again, I couldn't wish this on anyone. The days and nights blended together. It was uncomfortable being in my own home. A place where you can lay your head down and rest became a home without peace and love. No joy rained upon me, no happiness came near. Like a house in the desert with nothing around for miles. It became a very lonely dwelling. I had one thing I knew he could never take away was my faith in the Lord. I prayed day in and day out for guidance. I knew he had my back. I knew this isn't the life he wanted for me.

I was so grateful and thankful when the relationship finally ended. No words can adequately describe the liberation I felt. I was instantly freed, no longer thinking about what had been. I never looked back. I was so inspired not to let this happen to anyone. I refuse to let a woman wait as long as I did to change her life. No one deserves to be treated this way.

I began to write and held workshops to help women all across the country stand up and take notice of their life. I also created meditations through my prayers that are now helping thousands of women overcome these struggles in their own lives. Silence can only work against you and not for you. Being at war with your heart, and feeling those deep wounds that no one can reach, because you decided to stay silent is not the way you want to live your life.

Your life can change. I'm proof that you can find someone that will love and cherish you and treat you the way you are supposed to be treated. It took some time. I wasn't in any rush. I worked on me and became stronger, healthier and more excited about life than I ever was. I drew in people that are doing amazing things in the world. There is nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and smiling and has her voice. You will find yourself surrounded by joy and love.

I'm thankful and grateful everyday. For the good times and for the bad times, they have brought me to where I'm today.

Be Blessed.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. You are not alone. I will answer any questions you may have

Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.valueurself.com


I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you through this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.


For more information, click on the link below.


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The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.



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Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

Leave me a message, and the best time to reach you.

Amilia Powers

 


















Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Hidden Behind The Shadows Of A Man



Living Under The Control Of Someone Else







When this happens in our life, there are no words to describe the frightening feeling it causes. I know this first hand. I was with a man who I believed I loved, and I really thought in my heart he loved me. As time went on, I began to live in his shadow. There wasn't anything more terrifying than the feeling of living in the dark. It feels as if your world comes to a halt.

I worked two, or three jobs to keep up the finances in my home. When I look back today and I realize that working was my salvation. I didn't want to go home. I felt that there was nothing I wanted to go home to. When I worked, I was able to smile, and laugh eat in peace, without unkind words, and anger. 

I began to stay to myself most of the time. I really didn't speak to many people about my situation, I was a private person. My children knew about my hurt and pain, but I kept them away from my house. I felt I was punished for something I didn't do. I saw my family less and less. I spoke about my situation less and less. I began to feel the grip on my life. In reality, it didn't belong to me anymore. There were days, I prayed someone would come and save me. I didn't know what to do myself or where to begin to fix this. 

I wanted what every woman, wished for. To be loved and respected, and cherished. My life was further from that. 

If anyone would ask me how I was, I would nod my head, and tell them everything was alright. Even if they can tell through my eyes that there was pain. I denied my feelings and held them under lock and key close to my heart.

I prayed a lot. As I was going through this hurtful period in my life, I knew this wasn't my last stop. I knew that the good Lord had something else in mind for me. I knew I had to be patient and wait out the storm. I had peace in my heart, knowing I did the best I could under the circumstances.

I would get up every day and thank God for this amazing glorious day. I knew it wasn't the life I dreamed of, I knew the day wasn't going to be what I expected. I held on to the Lord, and let him guide me through the learning process. I never felt alone, and I never gave up. This wasn't the story God wrote for me.

There were people who made fun of me. They laughed and even sent me bad wishes. It was demining, and sad. I would continue to smile and carry on with my day as if I didn't know what I heard. People sometimes forget their voice carries. Unfortunately, they believed in what they heard, but not the truth. Still today, I never tried to defend myself, I don't think there was a need for any of that. I had to walk away from people who didn't understand what I went through and let this part of me rest.

If you feel this way, please reach out and speak to someone. Get a hold of family or friends, anyone that can help you. Do whatever it takes to get help. Please do not wait as long as I did. No one has the right to treat you this way.

You are a valuable woman, that deserves to be treated with a kind voice, and loved with the utmost respect. Love is amazing, but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. You are not alone. I will answer any questions you may have.
Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.valueurself.com

I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you with this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations, that are now helping thousands of women like yourself, live the life they were created to live.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

You can get more information, by clicking on the link below.

https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s





Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

We will continue our conversation on Sunday

Amilia Powers


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Sunday, June 10, 2018

FEAR TO LOVE AGAIN


WHAT SCARES YOU ABOUT LOVE THE MOST?










I have received many emails on this subject. Opening yourself up to love after abuse, or a hurtful relationship is a very difficult thing to do.

The fear of uncertainty will always linger in the back of your mind. Questions begin to flare up in your heart. 

1. I'm not sure if he is the right person or is he?

2. Maybe it's the right time? or is it? 

3. What do I do so this doesn't happen to me again?

4. How do I approach this relationship? Ect.......

You begin to second guess every move you make, everything you wear, everything you say. It's ok, you have every right to feel this way, and no one can tell you anything different. What you have gone through was a very traumatic experience. Most people won't understand this pain. Your heart has a hold of your thoughts. Love is so sacred to you, you wouldn't want to deal with any more hurtful moments.

Let me explain a little bit about what is happening here:

First, we are always healing. The myth that you have to give yourself a certain time frame and you are completely healed is false. There isn't a time frame on how we feel, and secondly, we can not stop our emotions. Thirdly, our memory clicks that replay button when we least expect it.

What you are experiencing is the healing process. All these questions are natural, and all apart of working with your heart, your courage, your strength and your willingness to forgive. All of these elements that make you who you are, must work together to enable you to take the next step.

What I suggest is not to put every man, in the same body that pained you. Not everyone is the same. I would like to give you an example: I have a son. He is grown, 30 years old. If I believed that every man was the same, then I would see him as the person who hurt me. He is someone I raised and brought up to be a loving, and a kind respectful person.

Our situation has cast a shadow over our love, and joy. It made us feel, we are not worthy of it, by stopping it from happening before it even begins. What do you think is happening? Unfortunately, we are handing over the controls of our love to the person who caused us pain.

We deserve love and happiness. No one can take that from us. We have to start right now and take back the controls.

A) I love to laugh and smile. How about you?

B) I love to dress up and put on lipstick. How about you?

C) I love to dance and listen to music. How about you?

D) I love going out with the girls. How about you? Ect.....

This is our time, to shine. We can give ourselves permission to live the life we are created to live. Let's start being excited about love, and happiness. Let's bring it into our lives. The more happiness you give, the more you will receive, the same with joy, and love.

You can love again. You have to say this out loud and really mean it. It is the most precious gift that we were given at birth. Don't hide it from your life. Show it, embrace it, enjoy the richness that it brings.

Yes, our memory is still there, we can use it as a reference, that way we don't forget how we want to be treated. Yes, everything you are thinking right now, file it under memory. Use it as a guide towards a better life.

You are stronger, better equipped to handle your life. Please continue to add forgiveness when needed. This will help lift your spirits and take away any burden of thought.




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Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

We will continue our conversation on Wednesday.

Amilia Powers


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Thursday, June 7, 2018

UNDERSTANDING YOUR PAIN



How Do I Forgive







In the last article, we spoke about understanding where you are in your relationship, there were a few questions I asked you read. If you didn't get a chance to read the last article, please do so. This is a continuation of our conversation. What did you feel about your answers?

The cost of staying in a relationship without value becomes a lonely place. Remember how important your smile is to you, your laugh, and joy. When was the last time you felt loved? 

Understanding your pain is very important. When we acknowledge that love isn't supposed to feel any way but incredible, we need to change our circumstances. 

We have to stop telling ourselves that we love the person who is hurting us. We tend to make this mistake time and time again. We must stop believing that they will change, and treat us better. We have already trained them to treat us disrespectfully. We must take responsibility for our happiness because they will not, and they will continue doing to us what we allow them to do.

I understand your pain because I have been there. The best thing I have ever done was being able to understand my pain, and where it was coming from. First, don't blame yourself for falling in love with the wrong person, and secondly, don't punish yourself for simply being human. Most importantly you should not keep this inside. You will begin to feel frustrated and alone. Third, please forgive yourself, because it's not your battle, it's theirs.

No one deserves to live alone in a relationship. When you are going through this, it feels as if no one can hear you. You become completely silent, and your silence begins working against you. Your heart shuts down to the outside world. At this point you would like someone, anyone, to pull you out of this bad dream. 

It's very important to understand, that people who hurt others intentionally are people who are hurt themselves. This is no excuse for their behavior, and you should never accept this type of treatment. They need to take responsibility for themselves and get some help. You are not their savior.

While they are trying to figure out themselves, you need to begin to start to make some decisions. I have two questions for you.

1. Are you willing to compromise your happiness, your joy, and your life and stay in a destructive relationship?

2. Are you going to take complete control and responsibility of your life, and your happiness, and begin to live the life you were created to live?

This is a very difficult time, but it isn't a difficult choice. It's alright to be upset, It's not wrong to cry.
Whats wrong is to be with someone who is hurtful, and unkind, who has no regard for you.

Please speak to family friends, and explain to them what is going on in your life. I'm sure they will be open and understanding and helpful. You have hidden your pain from everyone, and it's time to let them know what is happening so they can help guide you and protect you while you go through these challenges.

You can reach out to me, and leave me a message and the best time to reach you. I will do my best to help you through the process.

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I recommend you try my series of MP3's, Meditations. "Healing The Broken Hearted" is the one I would start off with, in this situation. This helped me through a very dark time in my life, and I know it will help you.




This meditation is for those seeking to mend their broken heart and wanting to ease their pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.
You will be guided with comfort, renew your strength, and feel your power restored.

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You are not alone, 
Be Blessed
Amilia

Watch for the next article, I will begin to answer email questions right here.
I'm blessed to be with you. Be safe. Have a great weekend. We will talk Sunday.


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Monday, June 4, 2018

STAND UP FOR YOURSELF--GODS GOT YOUR BACK



HEALING THE BROKEN HEARTED! 

I have received many questions on this subject, let me explain, and I will not color coat this:

People will treat you how you teach them to. They will test you to see how much they can get away with, and when they find your weakness they will walk all over you...
Once he gets to know your weakness down to a science, he will begin to make his move into your heart. Now that your love, and he's captured your undivided attention. Your weakness becomes a game to him. He begins with his mood swings, and then his temper. You have made every excuse in the book, why he is treating you like this. The crazy part of this entire scenario is that he knows this. 
He begins to put you down. You start to feel you have no say in the matter, because your frightened of the situation, and you know it could escalate into something else. You will start to feel you have no ground to stand on. What are you thinking at this moment? The obvious, you don't want to get hurt. You question your decisions, and you know this isn't the way love should be. He tries everything in his power to make you think that you're the crazy one. 
At times during your relationship, you didn't even see this coming. Being ridiculed and belittled in public, you have nowhere run and hide from the embarrassment. Your only outlet is deep in your heart where no one can see, but you. This is where you go and cry, and pray that he would stop doing this to you. If any of this sounds familiar, please stop the excuses. He doesn't deserve your love and kindness. No one has the right to treat anyone this way.
There is no reason to hold onto something that is so wrong. Let me ask you a few questions. Please be honest with yourself. 

Let's begin:

1.) Is this the life you always dreamed of?
2.) Is this the love you've always wished you had?
3.) Are you smiling more than you ever have before?
4.) Are you laughing so much that it feels amazing?

Let's start off with these questions first. We will go over this more Thursday.

Just like we check our checkbook, we need to check and take notice what is going on in our lives.

A) Don't hold yourself back on the life you really want.
B) Don't be the person, who is consistently making excuses for being treated disrespectfully.
C) You are wonderful, a woman who deserves to be loved the right way.
D) Kindness is not hard. Love is not hard. Being cherished is not hard. We make it harder than it is.... 

Maybe you're asking how?? 

By staying in a relationship without value. Remember, this doesn't only affect you, it shakes up the entire family.

Is this what is holding you back from the life you really deserve?

Thursday, I will give you some easy steps to follow. Please do them. 

If you are stuck, join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my personalized meditations that are made specifically for your own personal circumstances 

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You can leave me a message, and I will help guide you through the process. You are not alone.
Start today, and live the life you were created to live.
Visit my website, and Let's talk www.valueurself.com or contact me at, amiliapowers@gmail.com





Be blessed
Amilia