Saturday, February 8, 2020

Living with a Narcissist is a Fairytale


WE ARE AMAZING WOMEN






when I was a young girl in my teens. I use to sit in my room and daydream about the day I meet my handsome prince. Like all childhood fairytales, they ended happily ever after. In Love Forever.

As I grew up and began to date, I realized that life isn't a fairy tale at all. Not everyone will treat you like a princess, and do the loving things that you hoped and dreamed of as you became older. 

We try to hold on to those stories, hoping that one day we will find the love of our life, and live blissfully.

That day finally came. I met the love of my life, I was treated like a princess, I thought we were the only two people in the world. As if the world was rotating around us. Every day was amazing. I would feel my heart smile. It was a wonderful time in my life. 

One day I came home, happy as I left in the morning but my world seemed to come to a stop. His voice was different, and his smile was nowhere to be found. I wasn't even given a chance to ask him what was the matter, he told me to leave him alone and he didn't want to talk to me. 

I went to the bedroom and prepared for bed. It was early, but I didn't want to go into the living room or kitchen. He wants to be alone. I don't know if something happened at work. So many questions were running through my head. I never saw him like this before. Maybe tomorrow we will talk. I will just stay in here for the night. 

I fell asleep and didn't even hear him leave in the morning. He has never left the house without saying goodbye and without a kiss. Maybe he will call me later and tell me. I didn't have to work today and began my day as I usually do. I tried not to think about it until I knew what was going on. 

He came home late afternoon, didn't say hello. I greeted him anyway. He started yelling at me for not having his dinner ready. We never have dinner this early. When I told him this, he told me to shut up. 

I finally asked him what was the matter, and he remained quiet. It was so silent and uncomfortable during dinner that you could hear a pin drop. I didn't know what else to say. Day after day he began to treat me worse. I loved him and didn't want to lose him. I let this continue on. 

I believe at this time you can basically understand where the story is going. I let this go on for some time. I was verbally and hurtfully tormented by a narcissist. 

If you are going through this, don't hang on to him longer than you have too. Love isn't supposed to feel so bad. You must reach out to a close friend or family, you can't do this alone. Support is the key.
You will get through this. You will be safe. You will stay in faith. 

As I began the healing process and learned to add forgiveness to my life, I began to write through my pain and started workshops to help women all across the country stand up and take notice of their life. I also created meditations through my prayers that are now helping thousands of women overcome these struggles in their own lives. Silence can only work against you and not for you. Being at war with your heart, and feeling those deep wounds that no one can reach, because you decided to stay silent is not the way you want to live your life.

This is your love and happiness your compromising. Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart. 


It's time to begin and join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my "Personalized Meditations," that is created for your own personal circumstances.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. 

These Meditations will help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture.
You can also leave me a message, with your contact information and the best time to reach you and I will guide you through the process.

I'm thankful and grateful every day that I can share this with you. For the good times and for the bad times, they have brought me to where I'm today.



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Be blessed, I look forward to hearing from you. Amilia Powers
                                                        




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Tuesday, February 4, 2020

A Narcissist leaves when his work is done


This is your LUCKY BREAK, but hard for you to realize it






A narcissist needs to destroy everyone in their path. They feed off of destruction. A narcissist must feel good about themselves at all times. The world revolves around them. I know this first hand. I stayed with a narcissist for about three years, and he tried and did everything in his demonly powers to destroy me and my family.

He knew I caught on to him. I made it clear how I felt and I didn't care if he left. I knew he was planning an exit and I had a feeling he wasn't going without making it dramatic and causing a world of grief and trouble. I knew I had to pray and allow the good Lord to take the lead. I was willing to accept anything that the narcissist was willing to dish out. I was frightened and safe at the same time if that makes any sense. I just wanted him out of my life.

I mistook a man treating me kindly, but what came with him was unfortunate pain and misery torment that he laid onto me and my family. There was no harmony, I was physically exhausted. He knew I was onto him being with another woman, and setting himself up for his exit. He needed to make his final debut so he could cry victim and for his next woman to feel sorry for him, and for the outside world to believe he was in distress. I couldn't thank the Lord enough for answering my prayers. The greatest gift he gave me was my freedom to laugh and smile that I missed so much. The Lord held my hand through it all.

I never looked back, nor did I care what he did or who he was with. There were no words that can adequately describe the liberation I felt. I was inspired and freed. Through our uncertainty, we can identify what we do not want in our lives. We are all born with intuition. It is a guiding force that works when we pay attention. For me, I tuned right in.

1. A narcissist leaves because his work is done with you. He's not feeding off your hurt and pain. He needs to move on and find his next victim, and hope at the same time you will be begging for him to come back. He needs attention. You're not willing to participate in the life the narcissist created. You will not accept his demands and refuse to be controlled. These are his biggest assets.

2. A narcissist will blame you for everything that happened in the relationship and see the relationship as broken. You do not accept his insults and he sees you no longer want him in your life.
You're tired of the blame game and the nasty remarks that you know in your heart only make him feel good about himself. He tells you that you're selfish, and demanding. That you don't appreciate anything. He hates you. You're needy and don't make him happy.

3. A narcissist ends his relationship by scare tactics. He throws things and strikes objects to frighten you. He will make sure he breaks your valuable items to punish you. He could file false charges against you, report you to child services and threaten your family at the same time. He will break your phone while you are calling for help. He can go as far as harming you physically. He does all of this just to play the victim.

I was finished having any love or friendship with this man months before he left, and all he had to do was pack up and leave. Ladies, unfortunately, a narcissist will never leave without trying to harm you in some way. Please do whatever you can and inform your family and friends with everything that is happening in your life. Let them know the details so they can be there for you to help you in any way they can.

This is not the time to cover up and act as if everything is alright, or that you can do this on your own.
I can tell you this. You can't do this on your own. You will need assistance.

I'm here if you would like to talk. You can leave me a message at www.valueurself.com
and pick the best time that works for you. I will answer any questions you might have.

I'm a woman just like you. A woman who made mistakes with her heart and has been through the same situation you are going through. I'm a woman who is willing to help you and guide you to a life you are created to live.

Love is amazing. We all know how this feels but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. I'm thankful and grateful to be a part of all of your lives.

You can also contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com and visit my website: www.coffeewithamilia.com





I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you through this situation. 
For more information, click on the link below.

https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s


I have created a special addition to my meditation practices. It is back from popular demand. It is "Personalized Meditations."


These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone, help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another. 

Our meditations have changed the way people view healing and solving problems. We are excited to share this with you:

For more information about this, click the link below.

The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.


https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations


Be Blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.
Leave me a message, and the best time to reach you.

Amilia Powers

Wednesday, January 29, 2020

Why do we wait for a Narcissist to Change??


THE NUMBER ONE REASON WE STAY WITH A NARCISSIST





This is not an easy place to be. Before getting myself in a poisonous relationship I had a great job, many friends, and was happy and grateful about every aspect of life. My life was anything but perfect, but I had wonderful people around me and a family that loves me. 

Then that time came. The day when I thought I met my one and only. When my life changed in an instant. A transition from a peaceful life, to destructive overnight. 

Our relationship at first was loving and caring, understanding. Until days of sunshine turned into darkness very fast. I was totally a wreck. I couldn't concentrate. My thoughts were in disarray, and my stomach was in knots. I really loved him. 

This sounds crazy, but I can't find myself being without him. I don't know what is happening to me. When we are together we laugh and have fun, and then the unthinkable happens and he rips my heart out. He mistreats me and calls me names and is very abusive at times.

I want to leave, but I know that we will have fun again, and that's what I'm connected to... the moments of joy and happiness. This life I'm living is very draining to me. It has injected self-doubt into my veins. I feel I'm at war every day. There are days I can't shake off all the painful words. I begin to wonder where I am.

When the apologizes come through his voice in that manipulating kind of tone, I know he is lying. Somehow he's able to release the emotional feelings that bond me to him, and he guilts me into one more time.

Ladies guilt is the number one thing that kept me around as long as I did. Does any of this sound like your life? The cruel and punishing way he poked and prodded my heart. Statements such as; "you can't leave me, I don't know what to do, you know I love you, what is going to happen to me if we break up, how could you do this to us after what we've gone through, doesn't our love mean anything to you?"

Who has heard these words?

While he is using every tactic in his mind, you have walked right into his web. He has bonded you to him emotionally. Your question is how do I break away from this torture? No more questioning your sanity.

STAY AWAY ANY WAY YOU CAN.

The cost of staying in a relationship without value
becomes a lonely place. Remember how important your smile is to you, your laugh, and joy.

You are a valuable woman, that deserves to be treated 
with a kind voice, and loved with the utmost respect.
Love is amazing, but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. 

You are not alone. I will answer any questions you may have. Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.coffeewithamilia.com

I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can 
help you with this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations, that is now helping thousands of women like yourself, live the life they are created to live.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

You can get more information, by clicking on the link below.


Be Blessed

I look forward to speaking with you.

Amilia Powers




Tuesday, January 21, 2020

A Narcissistic Spouse--When do I heal?

HEALING FROM THE PAIN





The words "I love you" unfortunately means nothing to a Narcissist. Yes, this is very disappointing to hear. We put all of our energy in loving them, caring for their feelings, being at their beck-in-call, but a Narcissist doesn't care about LOVE. The most important thing that feeds their soul is attention, bad or good this is what they crave. If they have to use you to get it, then that's what they will do. If they don't get this in, either way, positive or negative, except that rage is coming next. They will do anything and everything they can to provoke a response from you. In their minds, having the power of over you comes first. They must see you vulnerable and weak, as long as you seem less of a person in their eyes they feel the surge of importance.

Healing from the emotional stress, and the hurt that was caused by this volatile abusive relationship is giving yourself time to gather your thoughts and collect your feelings. First, understand you were abused. You must realize you were dealing with a person who is very sick, dysfunctional and has issues beyond anything you will ever understand. There was nothing you've done wrong, and nothing you could have done differently. You gave from your heart and did everything you could as a loving caring woman would do. He's a broken person, who is very angry and resentful with his life and would love nothing more but to cause pain and hurt to other people. There is nothing you can do to put him together no matter how hard you tried. They are sadistic people who can't handle anyone being happier or better than them.

A Narcissist is a master manipulator, they don't know any other way to live. If you ever break-up with them, they will not leave your life without leaving the remanence of their rath behind. I know this from my own experience. I had no breaks from his emptiness. I found that his constant planning and scheming that he had blindfolded everyone from who he really was. I knew something was going to happen, but I kept my cool. He did everything he could to dismantle my family. The greed he carried for public fans was like a child getting high honors. He didn't leave out any harsh words or abusive dominance from his fame driven focus. 

If you are living with someone and the only thing you look forward to is when he leaves. The only thing you can feel in your heart is that it's better to be alone then hear their voice. You breathe better knowing that your every move, and every thought isn't criticized. You didn't have to give reasons for what your wearing, what your eating, you can go about your day without second-guessing yourself or looking over your shoulder. Best of all NO smart comments. You can finally have a minute even if your one eye is on the clock. Not knowing what to expect when your moment of silence is over. 

If you found a bit of you in this story, please do not wait another minute. You must reach out. You must let your family and friends know what is happening in your life. Direction is difficult alone. There is too much confusion. You can do this. Do it now. 

The cost of staying in a relationship without value becomes a lonely place. Remember how important your smile is to you, your laugh, and joy.

You are a valuable woman, that deserves to be treated with a kind voice, and loved with the utmost respect. Love is amazing, but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute.

If this relationship sounds familiar and you need help picking up the pieces. Join thousands of woman who have changed their lives with my help. Visit me at www.coffeewithamilia.com. 

Sunday, September 8, 2019

How does it feel when you describe Pain? Narcissist Relationship


Have you ever paused to consider how painful it sounds when you describe your relationship?





That one day when you wake up that reminds you of the pain that is still obvious. The tears that roll down your face, and the uneasy feeling in your stomach that aches so bad. Your life is being overwhelmed, and you're lying there numb. You don't want to start your day. You want to go back to bed, close your eyes, and have a dream that takes you far away from all this pain, the reality that your living. 

All that is running through your mind is that you wish the hurt you're feeling will go away. The pain has absorbed all your day, and sleepless nights. You wish it was a bad dream and all of this will go away when you opened your eyes. Questions come up, what have I done wrong? What should I have done differently? You go on and on, day after day, playing tug of war with your heart. 

You know you must shake it off,  and find the strength and power to begin your day. You're praying to forgive him but deep down inside all you feel is a dislike for the monster who has caused your days to start off in darkness. You keep praying and hoping for the burden that you hold in your heart will be released. 

You're tired of the reminders. Everywhere you go; the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, even the lipstick he thought looked amazing on you. This emptiness that you're feeling is turned on no matter what you do. You don't want to feel broken anymore. You wish it was a bad dream and all of this will go away.

You walk through your day watching people intermingle with each other, laughing and talking about events coming up in their lives. They are excited and joyous about life. You are happy for them, but at the same time, you do what you can to avoid those conversations. You feel so disconnected from your present life. You refuse to cause yourself more agony with memories that you hold so dear. 

Our emotions run wild during pain. Our body goes through a great ordeal. One minute your OK and the next your in tears, and your body becomes tense or anxious. Then you have days you take out your frustrations on everyone and everything. This is all normal. Your feelings are coming to the surface that you have suppressed for many days, months and years. 

When the time is right you will be able to apologize to everyone who has taken the brunt of your pain. Please do not forget to apologize to yourself. Know that this is not your fault. Understand that hurt, mistreatment, and abuse does not deserve a place in your life. You have no room for this. 

Remember you are stronger than you know, you are reading this, aren't you?  You believe in you, and what you stand for. You know you have a lot of Love, Joy, and Faith to share with the world and one man doesn't have the power to control this, he can't dictate the rest of your life. 

The cost of staying in a relationship without value becomes a lonely place. Remember how important your smile is to you. When is the last time you laughed so hard where those stomach pains were joyous? 

You are a valuable woman that deserves to be treated with a kind voice, and love with the utmost respect. 

Love is amazing. We all know how this feels but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. 

There is nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy, smiling and has her voice. You will find yourself attracting the same type of kindness. I'm thankful and grateful every day for the good times and for the bad times. It brought me to where I'm today


You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. 
I will answer any questions you may have

Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.coffeewithamilia.com
Leave me a message and the best time to reach you at www.valueurself.com,
click Let's Talk at the bottom of the website. 




I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you through this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone, help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.


For more information, click on the link below.


https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s



I have created a special addition to my meditation practices. It is back from popular demand. It is "Personalized Meditations." 

Our meditations have changed the way people view healing and solving problems. We are excited to share this with you:


For more information about this, click the link below.



The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.



https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations


Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

Leave me a message, and the best time to reach you.

Amilia Powers



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Tuesday, September 3, 2019

How Dangerous Can One Man Be?? Narcissist


Never underestimate a Narcissist




I'm happy you are here with me. Dealing with a narcissist is very dangerous. This is a subject that is painful on so many levels. Confusion is the best word to describe the darkness that sets in. It feels as if you are in a fog in the night air, with no end in sight. 

You try and try to find a reason why someone you love would want to hurt you so bad. Not only cause you pain but want to destroy you. You've done everything in your heart to show them repeatedly in so many different ways you love them. Just to get shot down every time. Nothing you do is good enough. You are lost for words and all you have left from the agony is a blackened heart with nothing left give. You're exhausted. He has depleted all of your energy.  

We must understand the reality to a narcissist. Boundaries do not exist. They will always treat you as if they have the right to control you and push you around. To a narcissist, your dreams do not matter, your ideas will not be heard. They do not care about your feelings. He will drive his power right through you. 

If you think for one minute that you are the only one he will control, you are highly mistaken. No one is off limits. They will go as far as destroying your family and friends and your relationship with them, and turn it around and blame you for everything that happened. Pure evil. Very Dangerous and unpredictable. It passed be cautious, you must reach out for help. 

The truth is, we as rational normal people and understand what lines to cross and not hurt others viciously and intentionally because we are aware of other peoples feelings. We know respectfully when to back off. Causing harm is not in our vocabulary. 

Unfortunately, the narcissist has no concept of these lines. In their demented mind, you have no right to exist in their world of make-believe. They will never understand how you can be so caring and loving and be genuine with your life. You give naturally without any motives. A narcissist doesn't play by these rules. They literally hate you for this and want you in pain. Which puts you in a very dangerous position. 

I'm a woman who's been through all of the things you are going through. A woman whose life was slammed against the wall. A woman who found her way through her darkest hour. I never gave up hope. I never gave up on me. I will never give up on you.

I knew I didn't deserve a life of pain. I wanted my smile back, I wanted to hear myself laugh something I haven't done in so long. I knew it wasn't going to be easy, but it was a must to get away from him and never look back. I knew that the challenges I will be facing is just an obstacle towards freedom of torment and misery he put me through. This was worth getting out. The only words that came out of my mouth were "bring in on. I got the Lord by my side."

Having love in our lives is amazing, but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. There's nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and has her voice, please remember that.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you through the process. I will answer any questions or concerns you may have. 

I have added to my coaching practices, back by popular demand "Personalized Meditations."
For more information, click the link below. This helped women all across the country, rise beyond their pain and struggles. 


Have a blessed day
Amilia Powers
amiliapowers@gmail.com

Saturday, August 24, 2019

Living with a Narcissist--No More Abuse

Stand Strong, No More Abuse






                                                       
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I would like to tell you a bit about myself. I was in a bad situation with a very abusive man. I couldn't tiptoe light enough, it was if I was walking on pins and needles, even my silence was deafening to his ears. He suffocated my voice, my inner peace was in turmoil. He could hear my cry for help, which I believed helped him to identify my weakness. This abuse was not in my head. I knew what kind of relationship I was in. How do I know this you might be asking? Because I was never treated this way in my entire life. I knew this is not what love represents. All I was to this person was an object, a living thing to physically, mentally control, and abuse. The unsettled feeling of not knowing what to do, or what was going to happen next had me frightened in every way possible. I never saw this coming.

The change in the relationship was instantaneous as soon as we moved in together, all of the horrors of a life I never knew excited, I was living. All I kept thinking was, what the hell I did to my life? I knew I had to change this. There aren't enough hours in a day, month, or year that I could put into this type of madness to change him. I would just be giving him another excuse to abuse me even more for mentioning the changes that need to take place. I continued to remember that this isn't the love I dreamed of, I deserve to be treated better than this. My abuser needed to change himself, his issues are not mine, or yours to worry about if this is happening to you. But most importantly I needed to focus on me. I wanted desperately to become a stronger, and healthier person.





I knew gaining the understanding of these crucial points would help guide me to step away from this unkindness and create standards in my life that I will live by going forward. In fact, I want to embrace a love I deserve.

A loving relationship full of kindness, and respect for one another. I was raised with these principles.


"A person who loves you will never find it in their heart to abuse you."

I am with you, and I know in my heart what you are feeling. I know why you are reading this message. We need to remove ourselves from this abusive situation, there is NO time to waste. The longer we wait, the more abusive, and unbearable the situation becomes.

These are Five (5) things that helped me overcome:

1. We need to stop accepting this abuse, and making excuses for it.

2. We need to understand this is not our fault, and we can't change them.

3. We come first, and family (children) we are not alone in this abuse cycle.

4. We must reach out for help. Ask for assistance, ask for guidance.

5. We need to make a stand and change our life. You are the keyword.

Nothing changes unless we change our circumstances. No one is going to do it for us. I cannot express enough, that you need guidance, you can't do this alone, especially when there is children involved. Making a change is never easy, it can be very scary, but we have to do what is best for ourselves, and our family.





There are two major factors that play a big roll in why we don't let these stop you from the life you really deserve.

1. Financial help, (most times this is the biggest problem)

2. You are still convinced that they will stop abusing you, and they will change. (a common issue)

I do understand we are very emotionally involved in our own situation, and each issue is very delicate when it comes to abuse, I more than understand this point. I know we want to believe that things will get better, and these men will change. We want them to treat us with kindness, and love us the way we always wished they would.

The truth of the matter is, this is the reason we need to speak to someone and reach out for help. We are not in the position to make a rational decision on our lives if we are making any type of excuses on why we should stay in a destructive relationship. Please remember you serve a kind and loving life, filled with all the joy the world can bring. We will never know how life feels if we remain in an abusive lifestyle.

There comes a time, we have to make a choice, and take responsibility for what is happening in our lives, and make it better. We have to have control of our lives. The power is ours. You know what to look for, you are an intelligent person. The warning signs are clear to you. You will not allow any of this pain back into your life again. You will set boundaries at the beginning, you will have standards you will live by. You know what to do at the first sign of disrespect. Your foot will always be planted firmly on the ground with anything that is unacceptable. Please do me a favor and reach out. It will change your life. This step has changed mine.



Don't give up the fight, you're the most valuable currency there is





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