Saturday, December 16, 2017

BREAKING YOUR SILENCE

Don't Numb Your Feelings!
Share your experience with a trusted friend, talking through your feelings with someone else can provide another opportunity to express yourself honestly and openly. Support also increases feelings of confidence and trust, which help offset negativity.
Numbing your emotions does not work either, because it’s not possible to selectively numb an emotion—in other words, pretending that your pain doesn't exist. If you try to blot out your thoughts, and pain you’ll blot out happiness along with it. Similarly, avoidance of an experience does not allow us to find other ways to deal with it.
Reach out. Lets Talk
I have other posts on my Facebook page for you to read, that will help.
You can contact me at: www.amiliapowers.com
You don't have to deal with this alone.
Have a blessed day!
AMILIA


Friday, December 15, 2017

VALUE UR SELF


I had several emails come in with many questions on confused feelings about relationships. I have a few questions to ask you myself?
Did you ever sit and think about your relationship? What do you see? Do see yourself happy, joyous? Do you feel special, and loved? Is this the relationship you always dreamed of?
Do you wish that things would be different? and he will change?
When you get to the heart of what’s going on in your relationship, and whether or not you want to stay or go, there’s a lot to consider. This is an important decision, and it’s ultimately up to you to determine what’s healthy and what’s not.
1. The behavior of partner, should answer most of your unanswered questions to yourself. Look at how he is treating you. How special he makes you feel? Are you always on the defensive? Does he respect you, or does he call you names and belittle you? do you find him apologizing to you more than he is loving to you. Does this happen a lot? This is a big key here. Matters will progressively become worse, until you take a stand, believe you deserve better, value your self to the understanding you will not except this type of treatment from anyone. You are a special person, and will be treated as such.
2. There is a difference between giving up and knowing when you’ve had enough. Lets talk about being by yourside. Does he encourage your dreams? Does he support you with your friendships outside of the relationship? Is he Insecure to the point it isolates you from family? Do you find yourself more alone now than you ever had? Has your distance from living caused you anxiety? You feel as if you are just existing in the clutches of a unkind, hurtful man?
You need to understand where you are, and how crucial it is to seek out and speak to someone. Get the support you need to take the necessary steps to live a healthier, more loving and fulfilled life. "THIS IS NOT LOVE"
Many emails, Please reach out to me.
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Thursday, December 14, 2017

VALUEURSELF


LETS TALK
I had several emails this morning about yesterdays post. (If you missed it, please take a minute and go over it.)
Questions rolled in on more options??...
Lets get to it.

3. Find better ways to get rid of negative energy.
I work with many women. The truth is very crucial in the healing process. 
I tell all women that they should do something they have never tried before in regards to fitness. I've had many women tell me that they are bored with the same old gym routine. Same instructors, doing the same things.
My answer to this is:
You should not stop looking. There are many areas of fitness that you may not have explored, that you can try. I recommend boxing gyms, strength training (weightlifting), group fitness training etc... These are the areas of fitness, that you could release negative energy. We have to strengthen our minds, and bodies to become better equipped to handle the days ahead. I have to say boxing was a big hit. Women felt inspired, empowered, enlighten to stay focused on what they need to accomplish and not on their emotions. They felt there isn't anything that they can not accomplish. From wraps that are worn, and the gloves that are put on women began to tap into their inner strength they felt was lost.
4. Stop blaming yourself
This is a very common thing we do as women. We begin to second guess what happened. The questions come flowing into your thoughts. "what if I did this better?" "I wish I didn't say that, It's my fault" "If I just did what he asked, this wouldn't have blown out of context. It's all because of me".
"I should have been more neat, like he wanted."
It's important when a relationship ends, don’t blame yourself. Instead, blame the relationship or situation—not yourself or your ex. It’s helpful to use language such as, “We weren’t right for one another…” or “We had very different goals and dreams for the future.” By changing your perspective on why the relationship ended, your emotions about the relationship will change too.
There is so much more to go over.
Contact me at: www.coffeewithamilia.com
You don't have to do this alone.
I have many posts right here that will help you. Please go through them.
AMILIA POWERS
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Wednesday, December 13, 2017

VALUEURSELF



Lets talk today about thinking of your EX:
I get several emails per-day, asking me how do I get rid of the thoughts of my ex-boyfriend, ex-husband...ect..? 
This is a very important question. Getting rid of thoughts of your ex, vs making those thoughts less powerful in your mind are two different things. In order to lesson the focus, I have a few suggestions.
#1. Lets begin to unclutter those thoughts.
Walk around your home, and look to see what you have. Do you have pictures, that keep you up all night? Do you have items that he gave to you, that turn your stomach into knots?
The biggest thing, that woman do not like to part with is clothing and jewerly. It is time to begin to unclutter your feelings. Keeping things around that remind you of hurt and pain is not going to do you any justice. Do you really need that shirt, pants or purse? These Items can be replaced. You were able to have these things before he entered into your life, and you can get them now. It doesn't make you feel any better every time you reach into your bag, and have to remember the hurt you endured. I recommend you do this gently, and when you are ready, if you can give away, one item a day, you will lighten up your heart. 
#2. Stop talking about your EX with friends and family.
Don't bring him up in conversation, and don't invite chatter from anyone. This will help you become stronger with your present life. You will be able to enjoy new things, make fresh memories, and bring back your smile, your laugh that you didn't have for some time. If you have people in your life that will not stop gossiping and bringing him up, then you need to distance them from your life. I know this is hard to do, but you can do it. Even people who communicate with him you should stop further involvement with them. Most likely he will come up. The less Chit Chat you hear of him the better you will feel.
There is much more we can talk about.
Contact me at: www.coffeewithamilia.com
You don't have to do this alone.
Have a blessed day. I have many posts right here that will help you. Please go through them.
Amilia Powers


Tuesday, December 12, 2017

VALUEURSELF


Smiling!
If you want to instantly improve your mood, try smiling and laughing just a little bit – Even if you don’t initially feel like it. This is the time of year when emotions begin to surface, memories become unkind in our thoughts. To stop this from being overwhelming we can change our mood by practicing this in our routine. You will begin to feel better, and this gets even more effective the more often you do it. 
Don’t underestimate the power of laughter and smiling – They are good medicine for the soul. Practice taking things calmly, try not to let things easily get to you. 

Are you smiling yet? 
You can do it… Smile !
Lets Tallk
You can contact me at: www.coffeewithamilia.com
We can do this together.
AMILIA POWERS


Monday, December 11, 2017

BREAKING YOUR SILENCE


What have we learned??
Too often, we spend so much time and energy dwelling on the past, dwelling on mistakes, or dwelling on disappointments. We think of our hurts and pains. We don’t even realize that our focus is keeping us from the joys in life. But in order to fully experience blessings, you have to make room for them.
What I learned through my own struggles is that things don't always turn out the way we planned. There are situations that go wrong that don't always get fixed or put back together the way they were before. Some broken things stay broken, and I've learned that you can get through bad times, even if you think you can't, as long you are willing to open your heart.
I have many posts here, that will help.
You can connect with me at: www.coffeewithamilia.com
Let's Talk
Have a blessed day!
AMILIA POWERS


Sunday, December 10, 2017

BREAKING YOUR SILENCE




Your Feelings!
Share your experience with a trusted friend, talking through your feelings with someone else can provide another opportunity to express yourself honestly and openly. Support also increases feelings of confidence and trust, which help offset negativity.
Numbing your emotions does not work either, because it’s not possible to selectively numb an emotion—in other words, pretending that your pain doesn't exist. If you try to blot out your thoughts, and pain you’ll blot out happiness along with it. Similarly, avoidance of an experience does not allow us to find other ways to deal with it.
Reach out. Lets Talk
I have other posts on my Facebook page for you to read, that will help.
You can contact me at: www.amiliapowers.com
You don't have to deal with this alone.
Have a blessed day!
AMILIA