Wednesday, February 26, 2020

When Pain is Heavy? Narcissistic Relationship


Have you ever paused to consider how painful it sounds when you describe your relationship?




That one day when you wake up that reminds you of the pain that is still obvious. The tears that roll down your face, and the uneasy feeling in your stomach that aches so bad. Your life is being overwhelmed, and you're lying there numb. You don't want to start your day. You want to go back to bed, close your eyes, and have a dream that takes you far away from all this pain, of the reality you are living. 

All that is running through your mind is that you wish the hurt you're feeling will go away. The pain has absorbed all your day, and sleepless nights. You wish it was a bad dream and all of this will go away when you opened your eyes. Questions come up, what have I done wrong? What should I have done differently? You go on and on, day after day, playing tug of war with your heart. 

You know you must shake it off,  and find the strength and power to begin your day. You're praying to forgive him but deep down inside all you feel is dislike for the monster who has caused your days to start off in darkness. You keep praying and hoping for the burden that you hold in your heart will be released. 

You're tired of the reminders. Everywhere you go; the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, even the lipstick he thought looked amazing on you. This emptiness that you're feeling is turned on no matter what you do. You don't want to feel broken anymore. You wish it was a bad dream and all of this will go away.

You walk through your day watching people intermingle with each other, laughing and talking about events coming up in their lives. They are excited and joyous about life. You are happy for them, but at the same time, you do what you can to avoid those conversations. You feel so disconnected from your present life. You refuse to cause yourself more agony with memories that you hold so dear. 

Our emotions run wild during pain. Our body goes through a great ordeal. One minute your OK and the next your in tear. Then you have days you take out your frustrations on everyone and everything. This is all normal. Your feelings are coming to the surface that you have suppressed for many days, months and years. 

When the time is right you will be able to apologize to everyone who has taken the brunt of your pain. Please do not forget to apologize to yourself. Know that this is not your fault. Understand that hurt, mistreatment, and abuse does not deserve a place in your life. You have no room for this. 

Remember you are stronger than you know, you are reading this, aren't you?  You believe in you, and what you stand for. You know you have a lot of Love, Joy, and Faith to share with the world and one man doesn't have the power to control this, he can't dictate the rest of your life. 

The cost of staying in a relationship without value becomes a lonely place. When is the last time you laughed so hard where those stomach pains were joyous? 

You are a valuable woman that deserves to be treated with a kind voice, and love with the utmost respect. 

Love is amazing. We all know how this feels but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. 

There is nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy, smiling and has her voice. You will find yourself attracting the same type of kindness. I'm thankful and grateful every day for the good times and for the bad times. It brought me to where I'm today.


You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. 
I will answer any questions you may have

Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.coffeewithamilia.com
Leave me a message and the best time to reach you at www.valueurself.com,
click Let's Talk at the bottom of the website. 




I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you through this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone, help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.


For more information, click on the link below.


https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s



I have created a special addition to my meditation practices. It is back from popular demand. It is "Personalized Meditations." 

Our meditations have changed the way people view healing and solving problems. We are excited to share this with you:


For more information about this, click the link below.



The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.



https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations


Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

Leave me a message, and the best time to reach you.

Amilia Powers



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Saturday, February 8, 2020

Living with a Narcissist is a Fairytale


WE ARE AMAZING WOMEN






when I was a young girl in my teens. I use to sit in my room and daydream about the day I meet my handsome prince. Like all childhood fairytales, they ended happily ever after. In Love Forever.

As I grew up and began to date, I realized that life isn't a fairy tale at all. Not everyone will treat you like a princess, and do the loving things that you hoped and dreamed of as you became older. 

We try to hold on to those stories, hoping that one day we will find the love of our life, and live blissfully.

That day finally came. I met the love of my life, I was treated like a princess, I thought we were the only two people in the world. As if the world was rotating around us. Every day was amazing. I would feel my heart smile. It was a wonderful time in my life. 

One day I came home, happy as I left in the morning but my world seemed to come to a stop. His voice was different, and his smile was nowhere to be found. I wasn't even given a chance to ask him what was the matter, he told me to leave him alone and he didn't want to talk to me. 

I went to the bedroom and prepared for bed. It was early, but I didn't want to go into the living room or kitchen. He wants to be alone. I don't know if something happened at work. So many questions were running through my head. I never saw him like this before. Maybe tomorrow we will talk. I will just stay in here for the night. 

I fell asleep and didn't even hear him leave in the morning. He has never left the house without saying goodbye and without a kiss. Maybe he will call me later and tell me. I didn't have to work today and began my day as I usually do. I tried not to think about it until I knew what was going on. 

He came home late afternoon, didn't say hello. I greeted him anyway. He started yelling at me for not having his dinner ready. We never have dinner this early. When I told him this, he told me to shut up. 

I finally asked him what was the matter, and he remained quiet. It was so silent and uncomfortable during dinner that you could hear a pin drop. I didn't know what else to say. Day after day he began to treat me worse. I loved him and didn't want to lose him. I let this continue on. 

I believe at this time you can basically understand where the story is going. I let this go on for some time. I was verbally and hurtfully tormented by a narcissist. 

If you are going through this, don't hang on to him longer than you have too. Love isn't supposed to feel so bad. You must reach out to a close friend or family, you can't do this alone. Support is the key.
You will get through this. You will be safe. You will stay in faith. 

As I began the healing process and learned to add forgiveness to my life, I began to write through my pain and started workshops to help women all across the country stand up and take notice of their life. I also created meditations through my prayers that are now helping thousands of women overcome these struggles in their own lives. Silence can only work against you and not for you. Being at war with your heart, and feeling those deep wounds that no one can reach, because you decided to stay silent is not the way you want to live your life.

This is your love and happiness your compromising. Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart. 


It's time to begin and join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my "Personalized Meditations," that is created for your own personal circumstances.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. 

These Meditations will help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture.
You can also leave me a message, with your contact information and the best time to reach you and I will guide you through the process.

I'm thankful and grateful every day that I can share this with you. For the good times and for the bad times, they have brought me to where I'm today.



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Be blessed, I look forward to hearing from you. Amilia Powers
                                                        




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Tuesday, February 4, 2020

A Narcissist leaves when his work is done


This is your LUCKY BREAK, but hard for you to realize it






A narcissist needs to destroy everyone in their path. They feed off of destruction. A narcissist must feel good about themselves at all times. The world revolves around them. I know this first hand. I stayed with a narcissist for about three years, and he tried and did everything in his demonly powers to destroy me and my family.

He knew I caught on to him. I made it clear how I felt and I didn't care if he left. I knew he was planning an exit and I had a feeling he wasn't going without making it dramatic and causing a world of grief and trouble. I knew I had to pray and allow the good Lord to take the lead. I was willing to accept anything that the narcissist was willing to dish out. I was frightened and safe at the same time if that makes any sense. I just wanted him out of my life.

I mistook a man treating me kindly, but what came with him was unfortunate pain and misery torment that he laid onto me and my family. There was no harmony, I was physically exhausted. He knew I was onto him being with another woman, and setting himself up for his exit. He needed to make his final debut so he could cry victim and for his next woman to feel sorry for him, and for the outside world to believe he was in distress. I couldn't thank the Lord enough for answering my prayers. The greatest gift he gave me was my freedom to laugh and smile that I missed so much. The Lord held my hand through it all.

I never looked back, nor did I care what he did or who he was with. There were no words that can adequately describe the liberation I felt. I was inspired and freed. Through our uncertainty, we can identify what we do not want in our lives. We are all born with intuition. It is a guiding force that works when we pay attention. For me, I tuned right in.

1. A narcissist leaves because his work is done with you. He's not feeding off your hurt and pain. He needs to move on and find his next victim, and hope at the same time you will be begging for him to come back. He needs attention. You're not willing to participate in the life the narcissist created. You will not accept his demands and refuse to be controlled. These are his biggest assets.

2. A narcissist will blame you for everything that happened in the relationship and see the relationship as broken. You do not accept his insults and he sees this as you no longer want him in your life.

You're tired of the blame game and the nasty remarks that you know in your heart only make him feel good about himself. He tells you that you're selfish, and demanding. That you don't appreciate anything. He hates you. You're needy and don't make him happy.

3. A narcissist ends his relationship by scare tactics. He throws things and strikes objects to frighten you. He will make sure he breaks your valuable items to punish you. He could file false charges against you, report you to child services and threaten your family at the same time. He will break your phone while you are calling for help. He can go as far as harming you physically. He does all of this just to play the victim.

I was finished having any love or friendship with this man months before he left, and all he had to do was pack up and leave. Ladies, unfortunately, a narcissist will never leave without trying to harm you in some way. Please do whatever you can and inform your family and friends with everything that is happening in your life. Let them know the details so they can be there for you to help you in any way they can.

This is not the time to cover up and act as if everything is alright, or that you can do this on your own.
I can tell you this. You can't do this on your own. You will need assistance.

I'm here if you would like to talk. You can leave me a message at www.valueurself.com
and pick the best time that works for you. I will answer any questions you might have.

I'm a woman just like you. A woman who made mistakes with her heart and has been through the same situation you are going through. I'm a woman who is willing to help you and guide you to a life you are created to live.

Love is amazing. We all know how this feels but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. I'm thankful and grateful to be a part of all of your lives.

You can also contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com and visit my website: www.coffeewithamilia.com





I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you through this situation. 
For more information, click on the link below.

https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s


I have created a special addition to my meditation practices. It is back from popular demand. It is "Personalized Meditations."


These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone, help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another. 

Our meditations have changed the way people view healing and solving problems. We are excited to share this with you:

For more information about this, click the link below.

The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.


https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations


Be Blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.
Leave me a message, and the best time to reach you.

Amilia Powers