Wednesday, November 22, 2017


Today we are talking about thankfulness. But I don’t want you to tune this message out just because it’s a thing we tend to talk about this time of year. This message today goes far beyond the week of Thanksgiving and goes far deeper than uttering off a few quick “thanks for…”. 
This is an especially important topic in our chaotic, crazy, and fearful painful lives. If there is abuse, disappointments, financial trouble or break-ups.
Now of course, our natural tendency is to often sit in worry. We tend to stew in anger or bitterness. We get so consumed with details of today that we can’t look forward to the future with joy and hope, we even forget our faith. I looked at this concept of thanksgiving through a lens of troubled times and a painful heart. 
I'm not saying that this will erase everything that is happening. We need to recognize that thankfulness and putting on a grateful heart is a choice and that it can have a profound impact on our lives. 
We are grateful and thankful that there are people in our lives we can turn too. We are not alone. We have support. We are grateful for the strength that is given to us to overcome. We will not walk in silence.
I'm thankful we are together,
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Have a blessed day!

Tuesday, November 21, 2017


Think of the most difficult challenge you face right now. Imagine that it’s not you, but a close friend who is facing this challenge. What advice would you give her? If you could step back and, instead of being the subject, look at your situation as an objective observer, would you look at it any differently? 
Think of the advice you would give your friend if your friend were in your shoes. Are you following your own best advice right now?
Don’t allow your current troubles to cloud your thinking. Take a few steps back and give yourself the benefit of this distance, and then give yourself some great advice.
I needed to Listen to my words, to understand what I was facing.
Reach out and lets talk.
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Have a blessed day!

Monday, November 20, 2017


When deciding you want change in your life, you must truly get upset with your current situation. Your emotions are very powerful. And you’ll find that by using this energy as a catalyst for change, your desired life will be within your grasp.
Depending on your circumstances, you may need to fire your thankless boss, pack-up and leave an abusive relationship or stop giving all your energy away to ungratefulness. Whatever your scenario may be, you must make a drastic shift in your mentality. Keep in mind, the more significant your desired life outcome, the stronger your convictions for change must be.
Start today. Don't wait another day.
We can work on this together.
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Have a blessed day!
We must become the change we want to see.
~ Mahatma Gandhi

Sunday, November 19, 2017


Your life will begin to improve when you define precisely what ‘improve’ means to you. The agonies and frustrations will start to ease only when you decide to improve. Be specific. Happiness is not a goal, it’s the result of a life well lived. The question is: How do you want to live going forward?
Have a blessed Sunday, Lets do something today that will help us start improve.
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We will work together towards a more happy and fulfilled life.
Have a blessed day!

Saturday, November 18, 2017


Your abusive partner may have attempted to isolate you from friends, family or anyone else who may have offered emotional and spiritual strength. This is a tactic commonly used by abusers to ensure that victims can depend only on them.
Reach out to the friends and family members with whom you may have lost contact, reconnecting with your faith and getting support from the people you haven't spoken to will begin to empower you.
This is one of the first steps on collecting the pieces of your life. You will begin to gain strength. Most of all you will see confidence within you. The confidence that your developing in yourself will give you the courage to keep looking forward.
I'm sharing this with you, because this is one of the steps I had to do myself.
You can reach out to me anytime, I'm here to help you.

Friday, November 17, 2017


Healing without REST!
When stress is at it's height, sleeplessness becomes an all night affair. These factors can start to cycle and spiral downward, making it very hard to start the healing process. You're likely exhausted and you need to get plenty of rest. Sleep becomes a must.
I know in my situation, it became difficult to put my head down at night. I found myself even if I fell asleep, awake at 2:00am or 3:00am. I had no peace. My mind was so tired, but I couldn't find rest.
My suggestion to you. I took time off of work, when I couldn't get the rest I needed at night, I was able to get during the day. I became stronger and better equipped to handle the days to come. My mind and body needed a chance to catch up. Resting up, healing your body and your mind is the best investment during this period you can give to yourself.
Please find the time,
Have a blessed day!

Thursday, November 16, 2017


Rediscover Your Interest. 
One by one, explore activities and interests that your abuser shut down by telling you that you were no good at them. 
Chances are, those are exactly the things that you shine in, the things that make you feel good about yourself. Even personal choices like what to eat, or how to arrange your clothes, are things you can indulge yourself in, and appreciate having them without fear or conflict.
How were you held back by your abuser? Was your desire for more responsibility at work mocked? Do you want to go back to school? Are you interested in a career change? Explore the possibilities and dreams that were shut down as a result of your relationship.
We are a day away from the weekend. Its a great time to reflect on you.
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I can help you get started, I understand it well. I was here myself.
Have a blessed day.

Wednesday, November 15, 2017


Avoid all contact with your abuser. Gaining emotional strength may be a long road, and your abuser will likely try to win you back. It's important to eliminate contact with this individual regardless of how charming or apologetic the actions and words seem to be. Allow yourself the opportunity to heal and pull yourself away from your abuser's manipulative spell completely.
Well-meaning friends and family, possibly unaware of how bad your situation was, may try to convince you that you should stay with the abuser. Ignore this advice. You don't need to return to a physically or emotionally abusive relationship "for the kids" or because your partner "is going through something."
Whatever you do to help the healing process move along, don't go back. It only gets worse. You only get one life, do not chance losing it because you think that person will change.
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Stay strong. Be blessed

Tuesday, November 14, 2017


Lets talk about gifts:
A surprise is simply something good that you weren’t really expecting. It’s something that makes you feel special and lets you know that someone is thinking about you. Surprises bring us joy and lift our hearts. It's a way to show love, with the simplest things such as flowers.
Gifts are not meant to be used to apologize about hurting you and paining you. It doesn't make up for the unkindness and disrespect that has been handed to you. By excepting a gift for any of these reasons, you give the abuser the ok and he will keep doing this to you.
Please begin to find the awareness of what the gift really means. Understand the reasons for the present. Was it given to you out of love and joy, or given to you from an unkind place.
Please except wisely,
We can talk anytime.

Monday, November 13, 2017


I know every one of us have had something happen to us we don't understand. When things come up that don’t make sense, things that we can’t figure out, instead of getting frustrated or confused, we seemingly give ourselves permission not to understand what is happening. We instead tend to "own" this as a part of our journey, and try to let that be still. 
If you go through life trying to figure out why something bad happened, or why things didn’t work out, it will cause you to become bitter and stuck in life. We have to trust our plan, especially when things don't make any sense, and embrace the joy, and love that is ahead of us. 
Our eyes can only see today, but our heart has the vision for tomorrow, and our future.
Have a blessed day!
Let's Talk!

Sunday, November 12, 2017


#Breakingyoursilence #ValueUrSelf #smileasoftenasyoucan #showyourbeauty 

It's a Beautiful Day! It is Sunday!

Lets talk about your smile!

Everyone knows how to smile. It's one of the greatest gifts God has given us. A smile makes us feel good. When there is joy in your life is obvious, it rubs off on others. But when you keep God's joy locked inside you and don't allow it to show on your face, you're depriving yourself of this gift.

Lets start our week with kindness to ourselves, and share the glory to others. Strip away the ones who hold back your glory.
No more hiding, It's time to start smiling.

Saturday, November 11, 2017



With Respect, Honor and Gratitude to all Veterans. Thank you for your service. God Bless You All!

Friday, November 10, 2017


Today I want to talk about decisions:
What I have learned and what people don't understand is that, not making a decision is still making a decision. I know that sounds crazy, but it is true.
We can not continue on in our life allowing people to hurt us and deplete all of our energy. There will be a time in our life that we will have to make the decision that we won't allow this type of behavior in our life, that we are worth more then this.
Today make the commitment to yourself, that you will make the decision, that this day forward will change your life.
Have a blessed day!
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Thursday, November 9, 2017


I would like to speak about fear:
Fear Is something I hear a lot when I speak to people. I listen how they are afraid of speaking up about being hurt, or pained. They are frightened about confronting their situation. 
I understand this position, because I was there myself. I knew in my heart I needed to step out of my fear that I guarded so close to my soul to change my circumstances. Once I did this my life completely changed.
Fear becomes frightening to us, because it is something we know we need to do.
Is there anything in your life you are afraid of? Remember the key word in the first paragraph. That word is Situation. You can only change yours, not who the person is.
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Have a blessed day!
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