Saturday, February 8, 2020

Living with a Narcissist is a Fairytale


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when I was a young girl in my teens. I use to sit in my room and daydream about the day I meet my handsome prince. Like all childhood fairytales, they ended happily ever after. In Love Forever.

As I grew up and began to date, I realized that life isn't a fairy tale at all. Not everyone will treat you like a princess, and do the loving things that you hoped and dreamed of as you became older. 

We try to hold on to those stories, hoping that one day we will find the love of our life, and live blissfully.

That day finally came. I met the love of my life, I was treated like a princess, I thought we were the only two people in the world. As if the world was rotating around us. Every day was amazing. I would feel my heart smile. It was a wonderful time in my life. 

One day I came home, happy as I left in the morning but my world seemed to come to a stop. His voice was different, and his smile was nowhere to be found. I wasn't even given a chance to ask him what was the matter, he told me to leave him alone and he didn't want to talk to me. 

I went to the bedroom and prepared for bed. It was early, but I didn't want to go into the living room or kitchen. He wants to be alone. I don't know if something happened at work. So many questions were running through my head. I never saw him like this before. Maybe tomorrow we will talk. I will just stay in here for the night. 

I fell asleep and didn't even hear him leave in the morning. He has never left the house without saying goodbye and without a kiss. Maybe he will call me later and tell me. I didn't have to work today and began my day as I usually do. I tried not to think about it until I knew what was going on. 

He came home late afternoon, didn't say hello. I greeted him anyway. He started yelling at me for not having his dinner ready. We never have dinner this early. When I told him this, he told me to shut up. 

I finally asked him what was the matter, and he remained quiet. It was so silent and uncomfortable during dinner that you could hear a pin drop. I didn't know what else to say. Day after day he began to treat me worse. I loved him and didn't want to lose him. I let this continue on. 

I believe at this time you can basically understand where the story is going. I let this go on for some time. I was verbally and hurtfully tormented by a narcissist. 

If you are going through this, don't hang on to him longer than you have too. Love isn't supposed to feel so bad. You must reach out to a close friend or family, you can't do this alone. Support is the key.
You will get through this. You will be safe. You will stay in faith. 

As I began the healing process and learned to add forgiveness to my life, I began to write through my pain and started workshops to help women all across the country stand up and take notice of their life. I also created meditations through my prayers that are now helping thousands of women overcome these struggles in their own lives. Silence can only work against you and not for you. Being at war with your heart, and feeling those deep wounds that no one can reach, because you decided to stay silent is not the way you want to live your life.

This is your love and happiness your compromising. Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart. 


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These Meditations will help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

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I'm thankful and grateful every day that I can share this with you. For the good times and for the bad times, they have brought me to where I'm today.



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Be blessed, I look forward to hearing from you. Amilia Powers
                                                        




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Tuesday, February 4, 2020

A Narcissist leaves when his work is done


This is your LUCKY BREAK, but hard for you to realize it






A narcissist needs to destroy everyone in their path. They feed off of destruction. A narcissist must feel good about themselves at all times. The world revolves around them. I know this first hand. I stayed with a narcissist for about three years, and he tried and did everything in his demonly powers to destroy me and my family.

He knew I caught on to him. I made it clear how I felt and I didn't care if he left. I knew he was planning an exit and I had a feeling he wasn't going without making it dramatic and causing a world of grief and trouble. I knew I had to pray and allow the good Lord to take the lead. I was willing to accept anything that the narcissist was willing to dish out. I was frightened and safe at the same time if that makes any sense. I just wanted him out of my life.

I mistook a man treating me kindly, but what came with him was unfortunate pain and misery torment that he laid onto me and my family. There was no harmony, I was physically exhausted. He knew I was onto him being with another woman, and setting himself up for his exit. He needed to make his final debut so he could cry victim and for his next woman to feel sorry for him, and for the outside world to believe he was in distress. I couldn't thank the Lord enough for answering my prayers. The greatest gift he gave me was my freedom to laugh and smile that I missed so much. The Lord held my hand through it all.

I never looked back, nor did I care what he did or who he was with. There were no words that can adequately describe the liberation I felt. I was inspired and freed. Through our uncertainty, we can identify what we do not want in our lives. We are all born with intuition. It is a guiding force that works when we pay attention. For me, I tuned right in.

1. A narcissist leaves because his work is done with you. He's not feeding off your hurt and pain. He needs to move on and find his next victim, and hope at the same time you will be begging for him to come back. He needs attention. You're not willing to participate in the life the narcissist created. You will not accept his demands and refuse to be controlled. These are his biggest assets.

2. A narcissist will blame you for everything that happened in the relationship and see the relationship as broken. You do not accept his insults and he sees you no longer want him in your life.
You're tired of the blame game and the nasty remarks that you know in your heart only make him feel good about himself. He tells you that you're selfish, and demanding. That you don't appreciate anything. He hates you. You're needy and don't make him happy.

3. A narcissist ends his relationship by scare tactics. He throws things and strikes objects to frighten you. He will make sure he breaks your valuable items to punish you. He could file false charges against you, report you to child services and threaten your family at the same time. He will break your phone while you are calling for help. He can go as far as harming you physically. He does all of this just to play the victim.

I was finished having any love or friendship with this man months before he left, and all he had to do was pack up and leave. Ladies, unfortunately, a narcissist will never leave without trying to harm you in some way. Please do whatever you can and inform your family and friends with everything that is happening in your life. Let them know the details so they can be there for you to help you in any way they can.

This is not the time to cover up and act as if everything is alright, or that you can do this on your own.
I can tell you this. You can't do this on your own. You will need assistance.

I'm here if you would like to talk. You can leave me a message at www.valueurself.com
and pick the best time that works for you. I will answer any questions you might have.

I'm a woman just like you. A woman who made mistakes with her heart and has been through the same situation you are going through. I'm a woman who is willing to help you and guide you to a life you are created to live.

Love is amazing. We all know how this feels but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. I'm thankful and grateful to be a part of all of your lives.

You can also contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com and visit my website: www.coffeewithamilia.com





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Be Blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.
Leave me a message, and the best time to reach you.

Amilia Powers

Wednesday, January 29, 2020

Why do we wait for a Narcissist to Change??


THE NUMBER ONE REASON WE STAY WITH A NARCISSIST





This is not an easy place to be. Before getting myself in a poisonous relationship I had a great job, many friends, and was happy and grateful about every aspect of life. My life was anything but perfect, but I had wonderful people around me and a family that loves me. 

Then that time came. The day when I thought I met my one and only. When my life changed in an instant. A transition from a peaceful life, to destructive overnight. 

Our relationship at first was loving and caring, understanding. Until days of sunshine turned into darkness very fast. I was totally a wreck. I couldn't concentrate. My thoughts were in disarray, and my stomach was in knots. I really loved him. 

This sounds crazy, but I can't find myself being without him. I don't know what is happening to me. When we are together we laugh and have fun, and then the unthinkable happens and he rips my heart out. He mistreats me and calls me names and is very abusive at times.

I want to leave, but I know that we will have fun again, and that's what I'm connected to... the moments of joy and happiness. This life I'm living is very draining to me. It has injected self-doubt into my veins. I feel I'm at war every day. There are days I can't shake off all the painful words. I begin to wonder where I am.

When the apologizes come through his voice in that manipulating kind of tone, I know he is lying. Somehow he's able to release the emotional feelings that bond me to him, and he guilts me into one more time.

Ladies guilt is the number one thing that kept me around as long as I did. Does any of this sound like your life? The cruel and punishing way he poked and prodded my heart. Statements such as; "you can't leave me, I don't know what to do, you know I love you, what is going to happen to me if we break up, how could you do this to us after what we've gone through, doesn't our love mean anything to you?"

Who has heard these words?

While he is using every tactic in his mind, you have walked right into his web. He has bonded you to him emotionally. Your question is how do I break away from this torture? No more questioning your sanity.

STAY AWAY ANY WAY YOU CAN.

The cost of staying in a relationship without value
becomes a lonely place. Remember how important your smile is to you, your laugh, and joy.

You are a valuable woman, that deserves to be treated 
with a kind voice, and loved with the utmost respect.
Love is amazing, but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. 

You are not alone. I will answer any questions you may have. Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.coffeewithamilia.com

I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can 
help you with this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations, that is now helping thousands of women like yourself, live the life they are created to live.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

You can get more information, by clicking on the link below.


Be Blessed

I look forward to speaking with you.

Amilia Powers




Tuesday, January 21, 2020

A Narcissistic Spouse--When do I heal?

HEALING FROM THE PAIN





The words "I love you" unfortunately means nothing to a Narcissist. Yes, this is very disappointing to hear. We put all of our energy in loving them, caring for their feelings, being at their beck-in-call, but a Narcissist doesn't care about LOVE. The most important thing that feeds their soul is attention, bad or good this is what they crave. If they have to use you to get it, then that's what they will do. If they don't get this in, either way, positive or negative, except that rage is coming next. They will do anything and everything they can to provoke a response from you. In their minds, having the power of over you comes first. They must see you vulnerable and weak, as long as you seem less of a person in their eyes they feel the surge of importance.

Healing from the emotional stress, and the hurt that was caused by this volatile abusive relationship is giving yourself time to gather your thoughts and collect your feelings. First, understand you were abused. You must realize you were dealing with a person who is very sick, dysfunctional and has issues beyond anything you will ever understand. There was nothing you've done wrong, and nothing you could have done differently. You gave from your heart and did everything you could as a loving caring woman would do. He's a broken person, who is very angry and resentful with his life and would love nothing more but to cause pain and hurt to other people. There is nothing you can do to put him together no matter how hard you tried. They are sadistic people who can't handle anyone being happier or better than them.

A Narcissist is a master manipulator, they don't know any other way to live. If you ever break-up with them, they will not leave your life without leaving the remanence of their rath behind. I know this from my own experience. I had no breaks from his emptiness. I found that his constant planning and scheming that he had blindfolded everyone from who he really was. I knew something was going to happen, but I kept my cool. He did everything he could to dismantle my family. The greed he carried for public fans was like a child getting high honors. He didn't leave out any harsh words or abusive dominance from his fame driven focus. 

If you are living with someone and the only thing you look forward to is when he leaves. The only thing you can feel in your heart is that it's better to be alone then hear their voice. You breathe better knowing that your every move, and every thought isn't criticized. You didn't have to give reasons for what your wearing, what your eating, you can go about your day without second-guessing yourself or looking over your shoulder. Best of all NO smart comments. You can finally have a minute even if your one eye is on the clock. Not knowing what to expect when your moment of silence is over. 

If you found a bit of you in this story, please do not wait another minute. You must reach out. You must let your family and friends know what is happening in your life. Direction is difficult alone. There is too much confusion. You can do this. Do it now. 

The cost of staying in a relationship without value becomes a lonely place. Remember how important your smile is to you, your laugh, and joy.

You are a valuable woman, that deserves to be treated with a kind voice, and loved with the utmost respect. Love is amazing, but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute.

If this relationship sounds familiar and you need help picking up the pieces. Join thousands of woman who have changed their lives with my help. Visit me at www.coffeewithamilia.com.