Tuesday, May 29, 2018

LEAVING A UNHAPPY PLACE WITH YOUR HEART ATTACHED



What does, I need space really mean?




What does this question mean to you?

Every relationship is different. This question has no boundaries in any kind of a relationship. There could be an agreement that you are steadily dating, no strings attached, or a couple who is living together. Even a married couple find themselves in this awkward position when this question arises.

It leaves the question, how do you feel? and what do you do?

Do you feel you have a pit in your stomach? Do you feel relieved? Do you feel that you need some space also? or you don't know what to feel, this came as a shock?

Conversations like this are never pleasant, no matter what type of a relationship you are in. It has a feeling of a door closing if wanting it or not.

Most times it's not what you want. You want a relationship full of joy, and honesty and respect. We don't see this coming when we love the person were with. We begin to dismiss their passive behavior and make excuse's for them. Your heart is being put in a hurtful position. Once you begin to make excuses, changes are already taken place. You have caught yourself, and begin to talk and draw him closer to you, in order get a better understanding of what is happening with him. Surprise him with dinner or go out together to his favorite place. See what kind of reaction you will get from him.


1. Does he hold your hand?

2. Does he hold you close?

3. Does he kiss you?

4. Does he tell you, he loves you?

5. Is he polite? Considerate?


Are you both doing many things separately, that you normally do together? These questions will give you a pretty accurate evaluation of where this relationship is going. If you are receiving anything else but a loving experience than a conversation will need to take place.

Prolonging this will hurt you. Everyone deserves love, and the right kind of love is very important. It is more painful to be alone in a relationship than anything else.

I don't recommend you speak to him the same night you are out or having dinner. It will have a different impact because you didn't have a chance to settle down your emotions and accept how you are feeling. When he is home from work, and he's comfortable for the night. I believe this is the best time to have a conversation there are no distractions. You're calm, and clear on what you will like to talk about. Do it gently, I'm saying gently because it will affect you more then it will him, be kind to yourself.

You must be prepared for the answers. Good ones, and the ones you don't want to hear. This is the hardest part. You should be ready emotionally, by staying calm and be willing to understand the other person, no matter how much it hurts. We tend to forget they have a right to their feelings because we are so involved. You already knew something was wrong, please take your time and guide your heart through this.

It is one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do. Loving someone and having to release him from your heart. You must honor and respect his space.

You don't want to guilt trip him into having to stay or manipulate him into staying, and please don't beg him into staying. Speak about your feelings of him wanting his space and don't go far off course during the conversation.

The level of respect for you grows, and you become more valuable. There are situations where a man will come back, because of the way a woman controls and handles herself, and he doesn't let her go.

You have to be patient, and continue to live and enjoy your life. There is nothing more exciting to a man than a woman who is happy, and full of joy.


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Friday, May 25, 2018

LIVING WITH A PERSON WHO NEEDS CONSTANT REASSURANCE



                          What Happens Next




I know one thing for sure, happiness can only come from within themselves.
Your partners need for reassurance, think about this for a moment before we go further. Reassurance is removing the fears and doubts that a person may have.
Don't think for a moment that this your fault. You will start to wonder that your partner didn't really love you. That there was something you did to cause him to drift. 
It is not you. This need comes from a place deeper then you can go. You must have a conversation with someone/professional who can help you find out more about their life-childhood. Most of the time answers would be found within this period.
1. Your partner could of felt a loss of some kind. A father who never gave them love, or a mother who passed very early in life, or they might of had one parent in their life that didn't show much affection, there could have been some loneliness. Ect....
2. Every person has a different upbringing and those circumstances in their life may cause them to rehash what they witnessed or dealt with in their personal lives. The reassurance from their partner will never be enough for them. It doesn't matter how many times you say "I love you." They reach out to different people to get praised. To show them love, and kindness that they have been lacking all their life, but at the end of the day they still find themselves empty and not fulfilled. They can never turn back the clock, and change what has happened in their lives, even if they want that to be the case. That time frame is gone. 
3. No one in their lives has ever sat down to talk. To explain that the feelings they are having are natural. The love and kindness that they were missing were not because they weren't good people, or nice kids, but an issue their parents were going through. Their parents probably were never shown love, because of this they didn't know how to extend that to them. This is where the cycle continues. As a young adult growing up they were never taught the importance of disconnecting what their parents did from their personal lives. They were never told that life is full of love, and you can create your own happiness and share this with others. So their search continues.
4. It is very important for you to understand what they are going through is not your fault, but they need someone beyond yourself to speak to, so they can deeply explain their life in order to get to the root of the problem. They hid these periods from their life, and this is the outcome. They are living them now, and probably throughout their life on different levels, and every time something happens they are able to reach into their memory and release a feeling here and there. Still carrying the burden. 
5. In this type of situation where your feelings begin to race. You feel cheated on, disrespected and the trust you had is now floating in mid-air. You find your partner to be an unfaithful person, and you begin to rethink your life with them going forward. You have every right to feel this way. You can only feel what you see. I'm asking you to be patient. If your partner is willing to work on a solution to live a healthier and loving life then you should give them that chance.
This isn't insecurity, please don't get this all mixed up, and this is not an excuse for bad behavior. The bottom line here, they have underlying feelings that were never resolved. This is where your love becomes stronger and with some understanding, your partner can get the help they really need. You will have to adjust your heart to salvage your relationship. 
Let's talk, 
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Tuesday, May 22, 2018

Healing The Broken Hearted--HOW DO I FORGIVE




How Do I Forgive

Hello Everyone, 
My last blog we spoke about excuses, and not allowing them to control our lives. 

Today we are going to talk about staying off of Social Media when you are hurt, in pain or have received injustice from another. I would like to go through several reasons why Social Media will do you more harm emotionally then good during a difficult time.

1. The first thing that should be done if you are out of an abusive relationship is completely shut down your old profile. Save all the pictures you have of your family and friends, and get rid of it. Give yourself a few days of peace. This was hard enough as it is. 

2. When you decide to get back on your Social Media sites, you should begin by blocking the person who has caused you any pain or hurt. Then you need to block any associations that this person had with you. You do not need to keep his friends around to hear what he is doing and where he is going. He is not in your life anymore and has no purpose in it going forward. "No Excuses"

3. Do not go searching for him. This gives that person the power over you. They feel you are still emotionally attached, and they will begin to toy with you. You don't need to see pictures of his life. You have already lived it, no-one knows how that looks better than you. You've seen it with your own eyes. Better yet, you have been on the other side of a fake smile and felt the pain. Your life matters, and how you live it going forward is important to start over and live the life you were created to live.

4. Don't look up his friends. Why you ask? You will see conversations that could be hurtful and unkind about you. Most people don't care what they put on their posts. Your mind will begin to wonder. You will have the urge to retaliate. Remember it's just him talking, he's taking out his stuff on you. This has really nothing to do with you. He's a coward. That's what cowards do. Let him do what he needs to do and you stay out of it. You have more important things to do, such as taking care of yourself. Starting a new life. Living the life you dreamed of. You have no time for insecure games. 

5. I don't want you to think for a moment that their life is peaches and cream. It is created at the beginning stages to make you doubt yourself. Don't fall into that trap. Remember, what you know is what you do not need in your life. In other words, your memory is a good source of information you can fall back on. You are an incredible woman of value and honor. Don't do this to yourself. You knew how to laugh and smile, and enjoy all the glories of life before he was in it. Pick up where you left off.

6. To me, this is a very important rule I live by. I left the best for last. You must find forgiveness so you can move towards a loving and happy life. This is the First thing I did after a horrific situation. I looked up at the sky with tears in my eyes, and asked the Lord to forgive me, and forgive the person who caused me pain. Then I thanked the Lord for answering my prayers, and left my hurt in his hands. When you do this immediately, you release any hold this person has on you emotionally. You will not even think about 1-2-3-4-5. You will not care where he goes, what he does, who he's with. It will be a relief, there will be a burden lifted from your life. A new found joy, your smile will come back, your laugh will be louder, fun will be carefree. 

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I'm here to guide you through the process with any questions you have. You can contact me on my website: www.valueurself.com or by email: amiliapowers@gmail.com

Have a blessed day
I look forward to hearing from you.
We are stronger together.
Amilia






Sunday, May 20, 2018

HEALING YOUR BROKEN HEART--FORGIVE YOURSELF FIRST


STOP YELLING AT ME!



Good Afternoon. I have received several emails about verbal abuse. Being cursed at seems to hurt women more. I couldn't believe the questions I read. Let me share a few of these questions with you. Maybe you can help me?

1. "I love him but he calls me names, what do I do?"

2. "He curses at me when he is frustrated. I know he doesn't mean it. What do I do?"

3. "I feel as if he is always putting me down. What do I say to make him stop.?"

What would you tell these woman, in their situation?
Here's my answer. There is a lack of respect for these women. This is what all three questions that I received are telling me. How about you?
I don't care how much you love him, how bad he might be frustrated with who knows what, or how bad he feels about himself to put you down. Let me give you the Bottom line here. It is directed at you, the swearing is intentional. His problem is not your problem. He obviously has underlying issues you will never be able to correct, and staying with someone like this will cause you pain, and destruction that you don't deserve.
All of those questions above are excuses coming from these women. No one has a right to treat anyone this way. We have to take inventory of our life with this person, and a different position with them. 
First how much are you willing to tolerate?
I understand every situation is different. But you have to stand up for yourself. You didn't sign up for this. You wanted to be loved and adored. It is a must to let him know how you feel. If you are frightened of the outcome and you have become silent in your relationship, you need to reach out to family and close friends and let them know you are afraid. When this person picks up on the fact you are scared, he will use this against you and create a scenario that isn't true and try to destroy any means of happiness you have after they are gone. 
Time doesn't play a role in this. In order for things to change. You hold the power to do so. No-one can take that from you. I know this from my own experience.
You're asking how do I know this? I knew in my heart this was coming. You have to know who you are dealing with. I prepared myself for the worst. I prayed and meditated and remained at peace with whatever was being thrown at me. I didn't feel alone. I knew the good Lord was guiding me. I knew it wouldn't be long before it was cleared up and I would be able to live the life I was created to live. 
I would sit in silence and ask the lord any question I felt in my heart. All I could feel was the strength, faith, and believe that this will pass. This wasn't the story the Good Lord wrote for me. I knew this wasn't the end of my journey. My life started after the storm had passed. 
I'm thankful and feel so blessed every day for the wonderful loving life God has given me.
I'm letting you know that the problem will not go away, and it will get worse.
Make sure you inform close friends and family to make everyone aware how you are treated. You will need support from them. Your safety comes first. This treatment is unacceptable.
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AMILIA POWERS

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In my next blog, we will talk about staying off of social media. Yes, I already know what you are thinking. "He is saying this and that." I have to tell you something you will probably not like. "Who Cares."

I can give you some sound advice that I used myself.
"Shhhhh-put it in the Good Lords Hands."

I will walk you through it. 
Talk soon.
Amilia

Thursday, May 17, 2018

REASONS TO CHANGE YOUR STORY!




FINDING JOY IN YOUR STORY






I would like to talk to about your movie?

You're probably asking what movie are you talking about? I'm talking about the movie of your life.

When you say, Lights, Action Camera, what do you see?

1. Do you celebrate the joys and the gifts life has given you? 

2. Are you upset about what you see? Do you feel that your life has been a disappointment? 

3. Does your future look amazing, exciting and are you looking forward to life's goodness?

4. Are you inspiring the world with your experiences? Ect.....

I had a moment in my life I knew I needed to make some changes. I didn't know where to begin, and I had a lot of unanswered questions. I wanted to replay my life story and try to figure out where do I start to live a better more fulfilled life. One evening when everything was quiet I sat in silence and began to reflect on my life. I closed my eyes, and like a movie, I could see each scene play by play.

I smiled a little, I cried and I was very disappointed in my actions. Some experiences I wish never happened. I saw the hurt and pain in my life that I never should have excepted. I sadly allowed the abuse. I knew in my movie now looking back I had total responsibility for my life. I never should have allowed anyone to mistreat me.

I learned by reflecting on my life. I won't ever let anyone mistreat me ever again, and I will live by this rule moving forward. I learned that I'm not perfect and I can forgive myself for my mistakes. I understand that not everyone is going to like me, and that's ok. I won't waste much time on that.

I learned that I should laugh more, smile as much as I can, and be around loving people. I know to follow my dreams and passion. My dream is not anyone else's but my own, and they have no say. I learned that "Can't" is not a word in my vocabulary. I understand that every day is an adventure and a learning process and we will never be able to stop the clock and go back.

I'm living proof that your life can change, I'm now helping many women in the world change there lives, and finding love and balance through their own story.

If you were watching your story on a large screen what would you change to make things better in your life?

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Be blessed
Amilia








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Friday, May 11, 2018

HEALING THE BROKEN HEARTED, THROUGH FORGIVENESS



HOW TO ATTRACT THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE

With many questions as women, being in a relationship is so sacred to us. Trust and protection is very important to us, and ultimately be with someone who appreciates and honors us, and makes sure we are loved is vital.
Once he has broken that trust with you for whatever reason at all, do not think you just lost your future husband. Remember that when God writes your love story; it will be better than you can dream up yourself. He will never give you a reason to doubt his love and faithfulness to you. 
I once had a guy that betrayed me, disrespected me, and I adored him and honored him, and believed I had a future with him. With no explanation. I was hurt, but quickly recovered because I knew a man’s rejection is God’s protection. I understand that God wouldn't write my love story like this. At least not for me. When we settle for mistreatment, we are sending the message that we don’t deserve better.
There is a underlying issue with that person that has nothing to do with us. But whatever the sad reason is, we are not the ones who should be the brunt of their personal growth. If you are dating and your man has cheated, or made some flirting texts. He doesn't deserve you. He is not what God wants for you. 
Stop your heart from giving to this man. He buried your relationship without feelings or thought of your love. 
Stay with peace in your heart. Continue on your path of happiness and love. 

"If it's not in your path, it's not for you." 

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Your life is valuable. It's time to make a change, to live a better more fulfilling life.
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Have a blessed day
I look forward to hear from you.
AMILIA POWERS
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