Monday, March 23, 2020

3 Reasons to Get Out--Narcissist Relationship


                            BELIEVE IN YOURSELF





Why You Should Remove Yourself From A Toxic Partner:

The first thing that happens when we leave, is we start overthinking. Give yourself the ok to collect your thoughts. Emotionally process the experiences that took place. Every day will trigger a different memory of the actions and words from your abuser.

The second thing that begins to happen is we feel that we could have done things differently. We focus on the last incident and replay everything in our mind that happened before then. The blame game is being sorted out in our thoughts. This tends to happen because the Narcissist planted the seeds that it was all your fault. The only thing that this accomplishes when thinking this way is, giving him your power.

The most unkind thing you can do to yourself right now is feeling guilty for something you didn't create or do. You've been bullied in believing this was all because of you. It is an awful heart retching feeling and I know this very well. It takes time to understand what happened to you. We are in complete shock. 


I'm going to share three (3) ways you need to Get Out...


Stop the fairytale that they will change...

A narcissist is a very unpredictable person. Their thought pattern is not like ours. They don't feel bad if they hurt someone's feelings. They will never apologize and mean it. Narcissists know how to twist and manipulate in having you feel as if you're crazy and don't know what you're talking about. 

We are not responsible for their behavior and what is going on deep in their deranged mind. They are destructive beings with their entire inner shell is rotten. Only out for themselves. They can dismantle you in an instant. 

They are dangerous, their actions have shown you time and time again that they don't respect you or appreciate anything you do. You can't hold on in hopes that they will change. They need help and this is not your specialty. Even with the Therapist, there is no guarantee they will ever change. A narcissist will never admit they are the problem to lose their power. 

Get connected with your life...
The most important thing you can do is understand what has happened to you. Get connected to your life. Your focus should be 100 percent on you and your wellbeing. 

We need to stop worrying about what the Narcissist is doing in his life. Stay off the internet, stay away from his friends and family. Anyone who will distract you from healing and picking up the pieces. Yes, cry get upset, let your words be known. Vent out loud. This is all apart of your healing process, but please do this with your love ones. 

Stay off the phone with people who really don't care. You don't need to hear whispers in your ear about a new fling. It's time to protect your heart while you heal and gain strength and clear your life of clutter, and that means everyone who he knows and is in his life. Nothing good will come out of those conversations if you need to discuss children keep the contacts at a minimum. 

Start From Scratch...
Love yourself more than you ever had in your life. You learned what you will not accept in your life. 
Enjoy how important it is to be around people who love you unconditionally. Your family, and friends. 

Begin your new and improved life, by getting rid of all those items you have lying around that remind you of your pain, the hurt that was caused by the person who gave them to you. Replace them with joy and love and things that are precious to you. 

Remember your hobbies and interests that you put aside. Start where you left off. Share your ideas with love ones and social groups. Wipe your slate clean and begin to shine and smile more now than you ever have. 

Take your time, be kind with your heart while going through this difficult time. Make sure you give yourself a break and enjoy the process of a more loving and fulfilled life. 

Going through pain and struggle, being abused is never easy. I can say this because I know this first hand. It does get easier in time. Time is the magic word. There is no rush, you take as much time as needed. Stay active in your life. Stay in faith, and in strength. 

I'm a woman who's been through all of the things you are going through. A woman whose life was slammed against the wall. A woman who found her way through her darkest hour. I never gave up hope. I never gave up on me. I will never give up on you.

I knew I didn't deserve a life of pain. I wanted my smile back, I wanted to hear myself laugh something I haven't done in so long. I knew it wasn't going to be easy, but it was a must to get away from him and never look back. I knew that the challenges I will be facing are just an obstacle towards freedom of torment and misery he put me through. It was worth getting out. The only words that came out of my mouth were "bring in on. I got the Lord by my side."

Having love in our lives is amazing, but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. There's nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and has her voice, please remember that.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you through the process. I will answer any questions or concerns you may have. 

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I look forward to hearing from you.
Have a blessed day
Stay Strong
Amilia Powers











Friday, March 20, 2020

Why do you struggle to stay with a Narcissist?



Give Yourself Permission to Breathe







There is one thing that I realized during my struggle, I forgot who I was. I lived my hurt, and pain every day. I didn't know how to live beyond my situation. It took over my life. I became distant from friends and began to see my family less and less. I wrapped my life around going to work and coming home, I tried not to anything else unless I had to. I felt if I was around people besides my situation it would mean that I would have to be happy and find enjoyment in what everyone was doing. I didn't feel I could do that. I didn't know where to begin.

In my heart, I knew what it felt like to be a part of the world. But I felt the world had something against me being happy and I was being punished for something I never did. I kept asking myself, why was I chosen to be pained. Days became weeks. This was a very lonely period in my life. I didn't trust anyone. I didn't want to take the chance to have someone hurt me again. It was me and my situation walking through life, like a handbag of burden attached to my waste. I didn't go anywhere without it.

One morning It was my day off from work, I decided to go to the park and get some fresh air. As I walked through and embraced the breeze from the Hudson River, and admired the views of the mountains in the distance. I walked by people who are full of joy and happiness as far as the eye could see. I couldn't understand how people could be so excited about life. I stopped in my tracks and watched and listened to a sound that was missing from my life, I felt a smile overcome my face from people being silly, they were having so much fun. I began to take it all in and started to embrace how precious it is, I began to miss my laugh. The love that is shared is the most important gift we were ever given. No one has that type of power to take our love. I was starting to realize that my life was far more amazing than my circumstances.

I walked away slowly and came up to a park bench, and sat down. I closed my eyes and saw who I was, a woman who smiled and laughed and enjoyed life to it's fullest. She was silly and playful. Creative and made things happen. I replayed special and exciting moments of my life, from the day my children were born and buying my first house. There was so much love in my heart, and joy in my bones. Faith was my strength.

From this day forward, I made a promise to myself, to never associate with people who have hurt me, I understand that everyone is not the same. I will give my self-permission to live the life I was created to live. This was the most incredible breakthrough for me. My entire life changed right before my eyes.

I was so excited to embrace my family, enjoy all the richness the Good Lord has given me. I looked forward to being a part of the world. I was very grateful and thankful to be given the opportunity to see beyond what I was feeling. To open my heart and allow people to love me and share in the glory of happiness. I can't express how It felt to laugh again.

This is an experience we all need to have. Through my personal trials, I have created "Personalized Meditations." The myth here is that you can't shut off the noise long enough to meditate. But when the meditation is personalized to our life, we tend to focus right into our lives and the solution.

As I stated in my blog. Tuning into my life changed my life and took me to places I only imagined.
Begin today and Live your life to it's fullest. Your love is your power. Look around you, and you will find the answers they are right in front of you.


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I look forward to speaking with you, leave me the best time to reach you.
Begin today
Be Blessed
Amilia


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Tuesday, March 17, 2020

3 Things a narcissist won't do for you.--Narcissist Abuse


A narcissist has an agenda, there is a twist in everything they do.





Narcissist are very tricky people, they are not easy to spot. They come off as very important, and good family men. They strive on envy, you know the saying "Look At Me, what's not to like." You wouldn't know anything different than what you see or what you're told. The average person will never go digging into people's lives, they are busy with their own families and work. We believe what is said and go about our day. Our last thought of the conversation would be, he's a great guy. That's The extent of it.

The bottom line is, they live in their own world of fantasies. They play make-believe on a daily bases and forget what is true. This is where the narcissist out states their welcome. They trip up in their own lies and don't know what to do to get out of it. It's like peeling back an onion slice by slice, and all that is left are tears by the time you get to the center. Once the games are finished, the narcissist will never leave quietly. He will make a destructive exit. He must make up for you identifying him as a coward and a fraud. You are left shocked with disbelief that he tossed your life upside down to make himself look good, and blame everything that shattered on you.

Falling for the manipulation of a narcissist happens. I wanted to leave you with a way for you to identify what kind of man you're dealing with early enough so that this torment and pain doesn't enter your life.

1. The narcissist will never make you feel comfortable in a relationship. They will keep you on your toes. There isn't anything you will do well enough. They must have the upper hand. A narcissist gets the utmost pleasure in making you feel insecure. Having you in need gives them power and takes away yours which hands them full control.

Having stability in a relationship is the number one thing that keeps your love alive. You never have to look over your shoulder. You won't doubt yourself or feel devalued. Feeling secure with the one you love is precious. 

2. The narcissist will never be grateful or thankful for what you do. To everyone, a narcissist will seem like the perfect guy. They love putting on a show in public. They have conditioned you to feel whatever happens in the house stays in the house. Unfortunately, you follow his rules. This will always make him look incredible to the outside. Never being a bad person, will ultimately backfire and make you the blame for all of the destruction once he leaves.

There will be days when your mind is wondering why he never praises your hard work and effort? Remember if he did this he will take the spotlight away from himself and he will not let that happen. A narcissist must have the credit even if it belongs to you. You feeling bad about this situation is exactly what his drive is. Stop your Silence.

3. A narcissist will never have sympathy. They will not care if you had a bad day at work or your father is sick. There will be days when you are having a conversation about something troubling, and he will shut it down quickly as if you are making a big deal about nothing and it's not important. He doesn't care about your feelings. If it doesn't concern him, he doesn't want to be bothered. You are wasting his time.

This is not the love you dreamt of having in your life. You deserve happiness and joy, someone who will listen and would like to hear every word. Who will sympathize with you and have your back, good or bad? Life is full of challenges.

I'm a woman who's been through all of the things you are going through. A woman whose life was slammed against the wall. A woman's advice you can trust. A woman who found her way through the darkest times. Waking up praising God, and never giving up hope and never giving up on me. I will never let you give up on you.

Having love in our lives is amazing. Don't waste another minute. There's nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and has her voice, please remember that.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you through the process. I will answer any questions or concerns you may have. 

I have turned my prayers into meditations, that are helping women across the country rise beyond their pain. 
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Have a blessed day
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Amilia Powers

Sunday, March 1, 2020

Narcissist Powerful Weapon--Silence


BEING IGNORED





Silence to a narcissist is a powerful weapon. It is used in the form of punishment; such as emotional abuse, manipulation and can cause fear and anxiety to their victims. The torture may last days or even weeks.

By this time if we haven't figured out their game, they have figured out our weakness. They have pressed us for as much information as needed so they can turn it against us. The narcissist has us actually where they want us. We begin to doubt ourselves. We start to wonder what have we done to cause the person that we love to treat us this way? Our minds wonder what could we do better so it can go back the way it was. The questions to ourselves become endless.

These are tricks they play with our minds to have full control over us. We begin to give them all of our attention. We hand them our entire life without even realizing what we are doing. The most difficult part we have created is that we are dealing with this alone. We have given all of our energy and our love to one person that we have isolated ourselves from our life. No friends, no family no one. We are now officially dancing with the devil.

It's crazy right, to love someone who causes you pain? You know what's even more unthinkable? Thinking that someone who torments you loves you.

I was in this relationship. The silence was deafening at times, but my other senses tuned right in. I realized how much peace I had in my heart and how clear my thoughts were, not listening to the cursing and yelling and the belittling hour after hour, day and night. I began to see what life was like without the sound of his voice. I started to understand where I stood in the relationship and what kind of love I really wanted. Having that time of peace worked for me and not against me. It taught me so much about myself. I was so engulfed in the threats, that I forgot about the life I had.

The silence he created revealed to me a life I was created live. I didn't play into his foolish games any longer. I didn't allow him to disrupt my peace, I freed myself of the victim way of thinking, and pushed my strength to all new heights. He obviously didn't want a warrior in his life, he needed someone to beg for mercy, to be at his beck and call. He wanted me to give him all of my time and to be afraid to speak. The shift actually scared him. The narcissist new what he was dealing with and didn't like me standing up for myself, and taking back control of my life.

I created the worst nightmare for a narcissist. He lost control, and didn't know what to do with himself, but instead become a demon and tried to cause destruction before his exit. Nothing worked on me. I was free and that's all that mattered.  My stress, pain, and hurt all went with him. I never turned back and I never cared where he went or what he does. Never looked him up again. I was free and that's all I needed. No contact forever.

It took some time. I worked on me and became stronger, healthier and more excited about life than I ever was. I drew in people that are doing amazing things in the world. There is nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and smiling and has her voice. You will find yourself surrounded by joy and love. I'm thankful and grateful every day, for the good times and for the bad times they have brought me to where I'm today.


You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. 
I will answer any questions you may have

Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.coffeewithamilia.com


I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you through this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone, help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.


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Our meditations have changed the way people view healing and solving problems.  We are excited to share this with you:


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The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.



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Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

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Amilia Powers



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