Saturday, May 2, 2020

3 Signs He's Toxic---Narcissist Behavior


Your Relationship Is Breaking You Down......



Toxic Relationships cause destruction in our life that we never saw coming. Your family becomes in disarray by the constant pain and arguments that feed the air they breathe. Our friends stay away from all the negativity that our relationship is bringing into their life. You are so knee-deep in your own thoughts you don't see all of this unfolding right before your eyes. 

We have put so much time (months or even years) and money (everything we earned) into this relationship and we feel that there must be something we can do to salvage it. We still love this man. Of course, we do. The constant back and forth love and pain we continue to embrace makes the process very confusing. He tells you he's sorry by bringing you flowers or buying you a small gift as the token of his love. Yes, yes we agree in our heart to forgive him. But the outcome is we are falling into something more toxic. Exactly where he wants us. Triggering memories of the love he professed to you have you running in your mind that things can be the way they were and you become bound to this notion. 

Starting all over again blindfolded to what is actually happening in our life. Wouldn't you say this is an unfair trade? A Gift for more Pain. All relationships start off beautiful and exciting and loving at the beginning. Healthy relationships grow with one another to learn how to balance and accommodate each other. Toxic Relationships, start off the same way but the difference is feelings from their past and things that were painful being to surface and poison your relationship. It happens rather fast that we end up gasping for air. 


THE ONLY WAY OUT IS TO GET OUT!

WHEN I FIRST BEGAN TO UNDERSTAND THAT MY RELATIONSHIP WAS TOXIC AND ABUSIVE, IS WHEN I REALIZED I WAS IN CONSTANT PAIN, AND HURT ALL THE TIME. I HOPED AND PRAYED THINGS WOULD GET BETTER BUT THEY PROGRESSIVELY BECAME TO MUCH TO BARE. THE INTENSITY AND DAMAGE were SETTING INTO MY LIFE, AND MY HAPPINESS WAS KNOW WHERE TO BE FOUND.  I WANTED MY LIFE BACK.

THESE ARE THE THREE AREAS THAT HELPED ME IN MY LIFE....


You are the only one making all the sacrifices..

1. Sacrificing your happiness and joy and handing it over to one person is lonely and exhausting. Feeling sad all the time, being intentionally hurt and used is painful. It keeps you in a dark place of frustration and confusion. You become afraid of your own zest for life. Let go of the fairytale that giving all of yourself to a man who doesn't appreciate you or values all your efforts. This will not change anything in your relationship. You will feel emptier as though you're not doing enough. Stop Stop....This is Enough.


Your Freedom is at Stake

2. Possessive behavior comes into play in a Toxic Relationship. Your friends and family become a distant memory. Your relationship is one-sided in a blink of an eye. He will stray you away from your life and loved ones by planning things the same day you want to spend time with them or tell you its not the time to do those things. Their insecurity and fragile being is a primary role in keeping you dependent on them and releasing you of your support network. Because these situations happen so fast, we never question them, and as time goes by we become isolated and alone. We must remain aware of the distance we put between us and our love ones. If we are calling our friends and family frequently and it comes to a complete stop, we must take notice. This is the most obvious sign that you will see. 


Finding Peace
                              
3.  Having peace in a toxic, abusive relationship. Well, It will never happen. You will always feel uneasy, a bit anxious. The sad thing about my relationship that I learned was I never spoke up. I never had that feeling of peace in my heart by getting my feelings off my chest and setting things right with what was said at the moment. I held things in and was nervous and afraid of a fight or argument that might flare-up. As time went on I found my self withdrawn and asking myself. "What are you doing?" "Why do you want to live like this?" "Why don't you say something?" In order to free yourself and have peace in your life is to come out with your feelings and say it like it is. It is the most liberating voice you will ever hear. It is a game-changer for the rest of your life going forward. No more questions, no more arguing with yourself, spit it out... 



In any relationship making sacrifices are fine, but your happiness and self-respect should come first. You should always be a priority. Your relationship should be built on values, love, and happiness. We obviously want the same goal and that is to be happy with one another. 

Relationships are not bonded by cruel punishment and painful words and the sacrifice of your self-worth. Suffocating every ounce of energy you have left. Remember you owe nothing to anyone. You owe yourself everything.  


This is not the time to cover up and act as if everything is alright, or that you can do
this on your own. I can tell you this. You can't do this on your own. You will need assistance.

I'm here if you would like to talk. You can leave me a message at www.valueurself.com
and pick the best time that works for you. I will answer any questions you might have.

I'm a woman just like you. A woman who made mistakes with her heart and has been through the same situation you are going through. I'm a woman who is willing to help you and guide you to a life you are created to live.

Love is amazing. We all know how this feels but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. I'm thankful and grateful to be a part of all of your lives.

You can also contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com and visit my website: www.coffeewithamilia.com
www.valueurself.com



Be Blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.
Leave me a message, and the best time to reach you.

Stay Safe
Be Strong

Amilia Powers

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