Thursday, August 30, 2018

Be True To Yourself-Have Faith



GET FOCUSED





We all know when something isn't right. There isn't anyone reading this that can tell me any different. We make a choice to either deal with it or make a change. I knew when things weren't good in my relationship. I knew he was falling apart. He was very abusive, there was no color coating that. I made a choice to try. Whether if that's wrong or right, that's what I choose to do.

Well, "Choice" is a wonderful word, isn't it? This word is used in every area of our lives. Let me explain. We make a choice to get up in the morning, right? We make a choice to either live happy, or sad. We make a choice be clean or dirty. We make a choice to either eat or starve. Ect...

I knew I was in charge of how I felt, but I still made a choice to be unhappy. What I was really doing was holding on to the falsehood that one day my destructive relationship would be a happy one. Hoping that I would live happily ever after like many couples I knew.

What started to happen, I began to resent my feelings. My heart told me many times this isn't right. I didn't want to listen to that. I began to battle with myself, what a conflict that was. I tried to figure out this big master plan, that if I changed this or that, and made things more exciting that my life would magically change, and we would fall in love all over again.

What I want you to focus on here is, I wanted to change my feelings and make things wonderful and happy, but not once did I tell you he wanted things to change, or that he mentioned to me he has something exciting planned for us. It takes two ladies.

I was fighting a never-ending battle, that I wasn't going to win. Things became worse, he began to disrespect me as much as he could. The belittling, cursing, fighting, and you can figure out the rest.

I knew what happiness is really like. I have that with my friends and family, those contagious belly laughs that are uncontrollable. The memories, when you sit at your desk at work and a thought comes to your mind and your smiling from ear to ear of complete joy.

I wasn't living like this at all. I wasn't looking forward to spending time with him. I began to dislike him as a person and human being. I couldn't stand looking at him, let alone hearing his voice. It would go right through me like a sword piercing through my heart.

As life for me began a new chapter, I took a very good look at what transpired. I started to really focus on me. I understood why life treated me this way. I didn't blame me or him. I learned that I have a responsibility to me. As you read above. We can not change others to love and feel the same way we feel. Most people are dealing with their own stuff, and don't know how to handle it. You never want to be a target of someone else's inner demon.

Please when you first begin to notice it's wrong, it is wrong. Don't second guess it, and don't try to fix it. Please do not stay in it.

When you decide to take a moment and take notice of your life. Once your focused things will change.

I created a website that is very easy to navigate and you will find helpful information to begin living a life you are created to live. You can set up a free consultation with me. I created a series of meditations that were created from my own prayers, which walks you out of the dark where you become more focused. You can pick one that pertains to your life right now, you can start immediately on making these changes.

Click the Link: 

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I also created personalized meditations, that is created from your own personal circumstances, for more information about that. You can visit the link at the bottom of the picture.




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Amilia Powers

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Monday, August 27, 2018

Thankful and Grateful!-Finding Love



I'm thankful to you.



In this picture is my daughter Niki, who is a big part of this organization, she helps young woman find strength through their struggles and pain, and learn to add forgiveness to their lives.

We were at the Long Island Sound having our daily meditations. I would like to share answers to questions today that I have received by email. I understand that change is never easy. The word change is difficult under certain circumstances to motivate us out of destruction.

I know this very well. I know we will hold on to our situation as if it is our lifeline. Hoping and wishes for something, anything to change. That way we are off the hook in trying to do it ourselves. I learned a long time ago, that wishing are empty promises. Don't hold yourself to them.

The truth of the matter is, our life will become worse unless we make the necessary changes to live a loving a fulfilled life. We get so caught in the details of what is happening to us. We forget we are not the only ones affected by the abuse. Our children who watch us get hurt, our parents listening to our pain, friends who want to protect us from harm, ect.....

Does this sound familiar? The more we stay connected to the ones that give us support, the more we will be encouraged, and the more likely we will make changes. Don't hide from the ones who are there for you. Open your heart to them. Let them know everything that is going on in your home. Please don't pretend that everything is alright, and shock everyone with the discovery. No one who causes you pain, abuses you, disrespects you and hurts your family is worth covering up for.

When love enters your life, it protects you. It cares about your feelings and respects you and your loved ones. Love doesn't abuse you, curse at you and neglect you.

A woman asked me this question today. "I will never have love again if I leave". What do you think of this question? My answer was, do you really believe love will be lost if you don't stay in this hurtful relationship? Her answer surprised me. She said Yes!

I'm going to share a few questions that I asked her to think about.

1. Do you love your children?
2. Do you love your Dog?
3. Do You love your family?
4. Do you love yourself?
5. How do you rate your value?
6. Is this the life you dreamed of?

How do you think she answered these questions? She told me love was nowhere to be found. That's odd when she answered Yes to the first 4 questions, and began to evaluate her heart on questions 5 and 6. I wouldn't let her make any excuses. I wanted her to focus on her life. She isn't the only one involved here.

It's time for a change ladies. There is no room in our lives for torment and abuse. Stop the chain reaction. Don't let this life trickle down to our daughters and sons. This is not the way love is. We have a responsibility to ourselves and our family, to make sure they are protected and loved and cared about. Check in on those important details. If it's not right, it will never be good. Time to Check Out.

I'm sharing this with you because this isn't the only email I get like this. It is hard to walk away from someone that we believed in and trusted, but there isn't any other options when we are mistreated and our children have to see it. This is definitely not the life we would want for them. Think about that.

I'm very thankful and grateful every day for the good times and for the bad times. It has brought me to where I'm today. Helping woman from all across the country heal and change their lives is a blessing. Being able to be here with you, to help you understand the importance of your value.

I created a website that is very easy to navigate and you will find helpful information to begin living a life you are created to live. You can set up a free consultation with me. I created a series of meditations that were created from my own prayers, which walks you out of the dark where you become more focused. You can pick one that pertains to your life right now, you can start immediately on making these changes.

Click the Link:

https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s


Website: www.valueurself.com 

I also created personalized meditations, that is created from your own personal circumstances, for more information about that. You can visit the link at the bottom of the picture.



Join Me Today

If you are stuck join thousands of woman who have changed their lives with my "Personalize Meditations"

Click the link NOW, and
Follow the Four Simple Steps





CLICK THE LINK:

 https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations


Be blessed, I look forward to hearing from you. 
Amilia Powers

email: coffeewithamilia@gmail.com



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Thursday, August 23, 2018

What Was I Thinking? I Believed He Loved Me


WHAT HAVE I DONE?





To the outside world, I was "typical." A young woman, divorced, a mother of two small children-nothing really out of the ordinary. Getting married so young had led to getting divorced young. My husband and I both wanted to live different lives. It was an inevitable ending to something that had happened far too early our lives. 

As I moved on with my life,  struggled financially, but I was determined to make it. I knew what I wanted. I stayed focused, saved and purchased a home, only to realize that it took a lot of money to maintain that home. I had to get a second job to better support myself and provide for the kids. There were no other options and I wanted everything to work out. Yet, nothing was great. Working wasn't my problem. I wasn't afraid of hard work, I was more successful at attracting the wrong kind of men then I realized.

As time moved on and I met a man. He was wonderful and treated me the way every girl dreams of being treated. I mistook that for amazing love and unfortunately, it turned into pain and torment. My fear of letting go consumed me because I loved him and wanted it to work, all I felt and tried to hold onto was the day we met. I also had to settle for a second job that I didn't like, long dreadful hours that was physically exhausting but felt I needed. I wasn't happy. I was trying to keep up appearances. There was no balance or harmony in my life anywhere. Furthermore, knowing that I was responsible was agonizing. My life deteriorated and unraveled. I didn't like the person I turned into, becoming more distant from my life and never finding peace. I was just existing. 

I began journaling my everyday encounter with him. How it was impacting my life. Writing everything down in a journal was my release. I emptied my thoughts of emotional pain, and verbal abuse, helped me get through one more day. I needed to unload, and felt this was the only way to stay strong. 

It was that one day, I knew I had to admit to myself if I was going to become more invested in my life then just one more day I would need to take control of what is happening in my life. The stress was overwhelming, no rest. The kids were unhappy. I couldn't believe what I was writing in my journal. Who lives like this. Under these conditions of so much hostility, anger, and violence. 

I made this a habit in my life. Like waking up every day and brushing my teeth. You know when your life is spiraling out of control when you know what is going to happen the next day. There wasn't any joy to look forward to. This was the lowest point of my life. When the voices inside your head are screaming at you to make a change now. Not next week, next month. Today.

That one question that changed my life. "Is this the LIFE you dreamed of? 

From that day forward, my life did a 360 without hesitation. I believe I stuck it out as long as I could. There wasn't any change in sight. I hoped and prayed that whatever was going on with him would change, but it was getting worse. The memory I held onto of the day we first met faded away. 

When the relationship came to close, it was a violent ending to something that should have happened months ago. I wasn't frightened. I prayed and stayed in faith throughout the relationship and I believed that whatever was going to happen would be the best for me and my family.

Don't wait. Love is not unkind. Happiness and joy are apart of sharing. Always be honest with yourself. If you are not excited about your life and are treated in a way that drains your spirit, please make that change. Love is such a precious gift from God. No one has the right to take it. Let love, and faith guide your life, you can't make any mistakes with that. 

A part of this is written from my upcoming book "PAIN BEHIND BROKEN VASES" the book goes into more detail. This is a summary. It will definitely keep you at the edge of your seat. You will be in suspense throughout the novel. Check it out, by clicking the links below.



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Thursday, August 16, 2018

The Love You Desire--Broken Hearted





WE ARE AMAZING WOMEN






when I was a young girl in my teens. I use to sit in my room and daydream about the day I meet my handsome prince. Like all childhood fairy tales, they ended happily ever after. In Love Forever.

As I grew up and began to date, I realized that life isn't a fairy tale at all. Not everyone will treat you like a princess, and do the loving things that you hoped and dreamed of as you became older. 

We try to hold on to those stories, hoping that one day we will find the love of our life, and live blissfully.

That day finally came. I met the love of my life, I was treated like a princess, I thought we were the only two people in the world. As if the world was rotating around us. Every day was amazing. I would feel my heart smile. It was a wonderful time in my life. 

One day I came home, happy as I left in the morning but my world seemed to come to a stop. His voice was different, and his smile was nowhere to be found. I wasn't even given a chance to ask him what was the matter, he told me to leave him alone and he didn't want to talk to me. 

I went to the bedroom and prepared for bed. It was early, but I didn't want to go into the living room or kitchen. He wants to be alone. I don't know if something happened at work. So many questions were running through my head. I never saw him like this before. Maybe tomorrow we will talk. I will just stay in here for the night. 

I fell asleep and didn't even hear him leave in the morning. He has never left the house without saying goodbye and without a kiss. Maybe he will call me later and tell me. I didn't have to work today and began my day as I usually do. I tried not to think about it until I knew what was going on. 

He came home late afternoon, didn't say hello. I greeted him anyway. He started yelling at me for not having his dinner ready. We never have dinner this early. When I told him this, he told me to shut up. 

I finally asked him what was the matter, and he remained quiet. It was so silent and uncomfortable during dinner that you could hear a pin drop. I didn't know what else to say. Day after day he began to treat me worse. I loved him and didn't want to lose him. I let this continue on. 

I believe at this time you can basically understand where the story is going. I let this go on for some time. I was verbally and hurtfully tormented by a narcissist. 

If you are going through this, don't hang on to him longer than you have too. Love isn't supposed to feel so bad. You must reach out to a close friend or family, you can't do this alone. Support is the key.
You will get through this. You will be safe. You will stay in faith. 

As I began the healing process, and learned to add forgiveness to my life, I began to write through my pain and started workshops to help women all across the country stand up and take notice of their life. I also created meditations through my prayers that are now helping thousands of women overcome these struggles in their own lives. Silence can only work against you and not for you. Being at war with your heart, and feeling those deep wounds that no one can reach, because you decided to stay silent is not the way you want to live your life.

This is your love and happiness your compromising. Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart. 


It's time to begin and join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my "Personalized Meditations," that is created for your own personal circumstances.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. 

These Meditations will help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture.
You can also leave me a message, with your contact information and the best time to reach you and I will guide you through the process.

I'm thankful and grateful every day that I can share this with you. For the good times and for the bad times, they have brought me to where I'm today.



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Be blessed, I look forward to hearing from you. Amilia Powers
                                                        




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Sunday, August 12, 2018

STOP CHASING HIM--HEART BROKEN


HOW DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL WHEN YOU CHASE HIM??







What is making you chase him? What is he doing to make you feel that you have to track him down? Do you even know you are doing this? Most women don't.

STOP THE CHASE, HE'S NOT THE ONE

Doing this will take you down a one-sided relationship. You are asking for Heartache and pain.

Let's begin by answering the questions above. 

1. What is making you chase him? Do you feel that he is the one? Have you spent so much time and energy on him your heart won't let him go? I would like to explain this in detail whats going on here. If he is not showing you the same interest, and not putting you first, and you continue down this road it will eventually make you feel worthless and upset. When you try to hold on to someone like this, It will be obvious to him what he can get away with, and he will become more disrespectful over time and distant. You will not make your relationship any better, it will get worse, and your relationship will end up one-sided. Guess who's side? 

2. Do you know what you are doing? By making this a part of your daily routine it begins to take up all of your time. You begin to put yourself last with everything. You stop going out with your friends or enjoying your family. Your sitting home waiting for that phone call, that doorbell to ring. You start to feel that if you went out to do something else you will miss seeing him and you don't want to take that chance. You feel that you need to be accessible to him at all times. You monitor your phone, and it never leaves your side. Stop Stop Stop. You will always be the one who Loves. 
                                                              
He's Not The One!

This relationship is a rollercoaster ride. During the ride it feels great, short-term and then it ends. You do not deserve to be treated like this by anyone. The person who falls in love with you will do all he can to have you by his side. Loving someone shouldn't be so complicated. It should be mutual. It should be amazing. You should never feel that you have to run after it. 

You become physically and mentally exhausted. Your heart knows it's wrong. It's not a good feeling at all to chase after the person you love. Your worth more than you are giving yourself credit for. 

Take a chance on you, and believe you are worth loving and being the love in someone's eyes. He does not deserve your love and effort or care. Take your heart elsewhere, and give it to the person who respects you and honors you and shows you what love really feels like.

This is your happiness and love your compromising. 

Never forget who you are in any circumstance, most of all never let anyone control the love you have in your heart, and never give up wanting to live the life you are created to live.

Begin today and make this change. Laugh, and smile embrace life's goodness, because you deserve it. If you're stuck, join thousands of women like yourself who have changed their life with my Personalized Meditations created for your specific circumstance. 

This changed my entire life. It can change yours. 

Begin today by clicking the link on the bottom of the picture.






These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Be blessed,
I look forward to speaking with you.
Amilia Powers






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Thursday, August 9, 2018

Pain Behind the Lens---My Smile Hurts



"A Picture Says A Thousand Words"





Have you ever heard that saying? What does your picture say about you? Look into the lens. 

I received an email from a woman who is very hurt by the way she is treated in her relationship. 
All around her, there are couples who are in love with each other and do special things for one another. She wonders what that would feel like, to have someone really love her and make her feel amazing.

Her relationship is full of pain and upset. So much cursing and chaos. She is young and wants to be loved. At least a good morning would be nice. The simplest of words seem to never happen.

She told me about coming home from work, and never being acknowledged. He doesn't ask her how her day went or show some kindness when she arrives home. 

She has children, and they run to her with open arms, and that's her salvation, the love she receives from the kids can't be explained, she goes on to say. The unfortunate part of this entire relationship is that the children are treated the same when they are with him, and there isn't anything she could do to stop him from being mean.

It's funny when she is at a party with her husband or anywhere for that matter, and friends or family ask her to take a picture with him she has to force herself to smile. If the camera had a microscope attached. It would show an image that you can not see with the naked eye. It would reveal her sadness and dismay, and what the color of her heart really is, unfortunately, filled with darkness and at times the color can't be identified.

When she met her future husband she was in love. She thought it would be forever. She never once sat down and thought he would treat her with such disrespect or unkindness. The controlling factor to all of this is the worst part. Very demeaning and critical about everything she does.

At this time we are now talking on the phone. She needed someone to hear her voice and her hurt. She told me that she has hopes and dreams. That she is very creative and would love to start her own business but her husband puts down her thoughts. 

He is obviously a bully. The essential need to control may be caused by his childhood. He could have been hurt, abused not cared about or hard to handle and brushed to the side by his parents. Whatever underlying factors there is, he has to want to get help and recognize that he is destroying his relationship with his behavior. Therefore it becomes overwhelming and exhausting and the quality of life diminishes. 

Without getting the help he needs from professionals, the only resource for his family is to eventually leave. No one has the right to treat anyone this way. He must take responsibility for his own actions, and come to an agreement with himself to seek help. 

I told her not to quit working on yourself. We spoke about the importance to stay strong and focused, not only for herself but for her family. She understands that his behavior stems from him. Which is very crucial for taking steps to resolve the problem or making a plan. She has her faith, which we spoke about in length, which helped her overcome many obstacles. 

We discussed Meditations and the importance to look beyond what her eyes can see. Focus on her life and her future. Focus on resolution and peace, love with all your might, and never lose faith and hope. Your journey is far from over. 

Please don't forget you hold the power over your own life. No one has the right to harm, or mistreat you. Continue being an amazing woman, never give up on your dreams and your passion. Those are your gifts, and no one can take them away from you. God gave them to you. Your name is on it. 
She and I will stay in touch through this process. 

When we are going through a situation that is draining we must seek help to find the answers. Believe it or not, we hold those answers to our questions. They are found deep within ourselves. It's imperative to find a peaceful place, and sit calmly and listen closely for the answers.

It's time to begin and join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my "Personalized Meditations," that is created for your own personal circumstances.


These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. 

These Meditations will help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture.
You can also leave me a message, with your contact information and the best time to reach you and I will guide you through the process.




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I look forward to hearing from you, leave me a message. Stay in touch.

Be blessed
Amilia




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