Friday, May 15, 2020

Novelty Seeking Narcissist--How to Deal


Unfortunately, there are people like this in our society. Men who stifle the joy out of our hearts. Trust gives us the ability to believe in a person. It builds strength in our relationships forever. It's an unbreakable bond.

Men who chase you with everything they have and profess their love to you with all the right words and actions. Who could resist the joy and happiness it brings into our life?

The first date with flowers and laughs, holding hands. How can you not fall for a man who is treating you like all the fairytales you read since you were a child? It seems too good to be true, and you're immediately smitten by him. 

He is enjoying the excitement just as much as you. Warm kisses, long nights and dinners together, you feel this must be the one. He is chasing you, and you love the attention it has brought to your heart. All you can think about or feel is a man who really likes you and loves being with you. 

Although, there is a twist to this love story that you didn't see coming. These Narcissists Novelty Seekers are not in it for the long run. They get bored rather quickly. Then it happens, tables turn on you all of a sudden and you find yourself trying to figure out what you did wrong. You begin to chase him, texts, calls. You might even stop at his place to try to understand why he lost interest. 

He locked your mind and energy into thinking that there might be a chance of forever. But all he wants is a good time until he finds someone else. You don't understand at this point why this is happening because you are so involved and wrapped up with your feelings. You are not reading the writing on the wall. He is creating a circle of women so he can recycle them when he needs to. Each one of you hoping and wishing you would get picked. 

He withdrew and backed up from seeing you. Not interested in the relationship at all. The only thing that brought him excitement was the chase which he already concurred what he needed from you and there was nothing left for him. He knows you are stuck in disbelief he will text and call if he is bored or wants to get together. You still feel that when you receive his text, that there still might be a chance with him. Heart struck on the first date, In your mind, you can not let go. You become drawn into his supply.  

Sometimes, we get lost in the happy moments of our relationship to the extent we forget all the unhappiness it brings us. If you feel your situation is leaving you more frustrated and unhappy more often than not; if your relationship has you in tears and sleepless nights, perhaps this is not a person you need to devote all your energy and joy to. If the main source of your happiness is the first time you met, it is not enough to sustain love with this person. 

We must remember our relationships exist in the present moments. Not a distant memory. It's not a reason to stay together. The decision you make on whether or not to stay with this person should be based on your current situation. You should know exactly where you are and how you feel and what you need to do.

I can tell you what I think you should do...

I can tell you this. You will not be at his beck and call and run every time he asks. They will try everything possible to get your attention to a meeting, no response is your answer. You will not put up with him treating you with disrespect and total disregard. You will not play second fiddle to anyone and allow your heart to be torn apart.

A narcissist loves to keep you on your toes, it's what they know how to do best. They don't want you to feel secure with yourself and safe in the relationship. It makes them feel wonderful inside when you feel insecure they get a sense of enraged power as if they can do anything to you and you will do nothing in return.

You will not continue to move in their direction because if you do, you will find yourself with your back against the wall and nowhere to turn.

They have given you an option and showed you what life is like with them. It's up to you to either release them from your life or continue on the path for destruction??


Having love in our lives is amazing. We all know how that feels, but the right type of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. There's nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and has her voice, please remember that.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you through the process. I will answer any questions or concerns you may have.
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