Less Is More

Keep Your Personal Stuff To Your Self

The most toxic thing you can do to yourself is to let too many people know about your personal life.

We want to believe that most people have a kind heart and an open ear when you are talking about something that is upsetting to you, but it is not always the case.

Putting yourself out in public even with the closest of friends does not guarantee that your information won't be passed on to another party. It may not have been done vindictively, but it happens, and then a tumble effect begins.

We would like to believe that there is trust between two people having a personal and confidential conversation about something that is so important to you.

Let's take your relationship for instance. If you need to speak to someone, try to narrow it down with one person. Don't spread out your information to several people. Keep it tight nit, to a close friend or a family member. That one special person you know that has always given you support. There is no need to extend yourself to strangers. 

Not everyone has your best interest at heart. Unfortunately, some people feed off of your sadness, and it really makes them feel better about themselves that you are dealing with a misfortune, pain or hurt. 

In fact, by choosing random people to speak with, co-workers, acquaintances opens the door for them to use your words against you. I'm sure this has happened to many of you. You then become tied up in a web, not only are you working on your own situation but now you are trying to get out of a problem because you spoke to the wrong person and said the wrong thing, even if it was honest and from your heart on how you are feeling. You might have said something about your boss that upset you, or a family member that hurt your feelings. You could have said something about your spouse, boyfriend or friend.

What happens next is this person tells your boss what you said. They might have called your family member, or spouse boyfriend or friend to let them know how you feel, even if it wasn't their place to do so. The twist here is you got them involved by sharing what you felt about a specific problem you are going through, and they have a right to do what they will with that information. They could even add their own narrative, and you have no control over that. The only thing we have control over is who we give our information to.

Be careful who you allow in the reach of your family, and what kind of information you leave laying around that can easily be placed in someone else's hands. Especially beware of who you are speaking too. 

The most important thing here to observe is who you are speaking with.

1. Is this person happy in their own personal life?

2. Do you notice them gossiping about others on a daily basis? 

3. Are they always negative?

4. Do they hate what they are doing in their life?

These are very important traits to look for. You should walk away, and save yourself a lot of grief and mounds of pain. If they gossip about others, most likely they will cackle about you.

Remember there is nothing private about your life once you talk about it.

If you are stuck, join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my 

"Personalized meditation," that is created for your own personal circumstances, and situation.

The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture. 

You can also leave me a message, with your contact information and the best time to reach you, and I will guide you through the process. amiliapowers@gmail.com

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I have also created a series of (4) MP3's, to heal the "The Broken Hearted" click the link and feel free to check out my website. www.valueurself.com

Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

We will continue our conversation on Wednesday.

Amilia Powers

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When You Put Your Foot Down

The Final Decision That Gave You Peace

It was that day, that one incredible day when your inner power stood up and said, "I'm not going." You made that conscious decision that you will not cut bread with those who have hurt you in any way. It was that day, when you were invited to a party and you were made aware of the people who are attending were the same people who tried to discredit you, and laughed behind your back and made fun of you to your face. 

This would be beyond your comprehension to sit at the same table passing the salt and pretend that everything is fine or being just plain phony. Putting yourself in an uncompromising position isn't something you will ever do again. 

When you have laid to rest your past experience with those who have shared with you nothing but their unkindness there is no reason what so ever to dig up old wounds and pain. You have forgiven those who have taken advantage of you, and who have tried to tear you apart from your family. You made a decision to wish them well, and go on with your life without looking back.

What you actually did was made a choice that you don't have to live by what other people feel. You have a right to your own decisions and your life. This was the decision that gave you peace.

People will do what people do best, cackle about others, to others. I'm sure you have witnessed this before. When you disconnect from their presence and disengage from their conversation they can only assume what they know about your life. At that point, it doesn't really matter, because you have nothing to do with them and they have no place in your future or your everyday.

You have finally taken control of your life. You made a stand and put your foot down. You realized that NO is a complete sentence. A word that was very hard for you to use in a sentence. A word that feels powerful when used to save you mounds of grief, and sounds amazing when you say it.

Remember, that your journey is far from over. People cannot dictate your future. Your path is yours and not theirs. You made an amazing choice to laugh, and love and share your experiences with new and exciting people. The ones who share your passion and joys for life. 

Anytime you have any question in your mind if you made the right decision. Use your memory, it will never let you down. It is the best reference guide you personally created. It is always with you. You don't even have to ask for anyone's opinion. You have all the answers.

You are stronger, better equipped to handle your life. Please continue to add forgiveness when needed. This will help lift your spirits and take away any burden of thought.




If you are stuck, join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my 
"Personalized meditation," that is created for your own personal circumstances, and situation.

The biggest myth is people believing that they cannot shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the Meditation is personalized, you tune right into your life and solution. There isn't any sound that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.

Start today and live the life you deserve, click the link at the bottom of the picture. 

You can also leave me a message, with your contact information and the best time to reach you, and I will guide you through the process. amiliapowers@gmail.com

https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations/products/personalized-meditations

I have also created a series of (4) MP3's, to heal the "The Broken Hearted" click the link and feel free to check out my website. www.valueurself.com

Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

We will continue our conversation on Wednesday.

Amilia Powers


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No One Understands

No one knows how it feels, to go through this pain

I have women emailing me all the time about people in their lives trying to tell them how they should feel and what they should do about their situation and have no clue what it's like to be hurt by someone they love. Yes, I get this very well. It is very difficult to take advice from someone who doesn't understand the depth of your pain because they have never had to deal with it, but they seem to be experts in the field.

The unfortunate part of this we begin to get frustrated and misunderstood. Now you start to believe that its something you've done. Not only do you have your own situation to focus on, and you're trying your hardest to figure out the next steps you need to take, you have other people in the mix, which has caused more confusion, and are making matters worse for you. You feel you should have just kept things to yourself.

Eventually, what happens here, we let go of the need to explain our selves and our situation with others. We pull back and stay alone in thought, and try to figure things out on our own and wish we had some support. But the last thing we need is to get into a disagreement or argument over what is happening in our life. Because someone feels they know more about it then you do.

I found myself always on the defensive. Too many questions about why.

1. Why did you let your situation go so far?

2. Why didn't you call for help?

3. Why did you allow him to hurt you?

4. Why didn't you stand up for yourself?

These questions obviously came from people who have absolutely no right to ask them. Why you might ask because they weren't living my life or your life. They don't understand the circumstances. Did you ever hear that saying? "You will never understand until it happens to you" This saying holds merit.

We really didn't need people telling us everything is fine now, or this will pass or you'll get over it. Ect...

What we were looking for or still are seeking is understanding, compassion, and support. While we figure things out and collect our lives and begin to put the pieces back together that are scattered like confetti everywhere we turn.

By telling someone, you should have done this or that would make them feel like a failure, they would begin to second guess themselves. No, advise here not needed. This person needs encouragement and someone to listen.

Don't judge, no one deserves to be judged going through a difficult time. If they cry they need to get it out. That's not a sign of weakness, this is something that needs to take place, all apart of the healing process. If they don't look as if they are put together, keep your comments to yourself. They will get better without your foolish remarks.

You obviously do not know what someone is going through, so have some compassion, and reassure them that they are not alone. Getting out of bed is the most difficult task in many cases. They are most likely facing many challenges ahead.

Everyone has there own stuff, is that fair to say? We are still responsible for how we treat others. Many situations take longer for most people to even understand. Healing is endless. Things will come up in their daily lives, such as memories, thoughts of pain and hurt that will bring sorrow. Like a replay button that doesn't stop. It turns the emotional gauge higher and lower depending on the day. As time goes on it becomes lighter and easier to deal with. Until then. Love

Love them and show support all the time. Share joy and kindness. This is the most effective way that a person who is broken will feel the most supported. Did you ever hear the saying?
"love conquers all"

Remember a very important golden role: "We Rise By Helping Others"


We are stronger together. Strength runs in numbers.

Click the link below, and live the life you are created to live. 

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The biggest myth is people believing to not shut off the noise long enough to meditate. Let me tell you a little secret. When the meditation is personalized you tune right into your life and solution.

There isn't any sound or noise that will affect this. It is the most incredible experience you will ever have.

Be blessed,
I look forward to speaking with you.
Leave me a message and the best time to reach you.
I will guide you through the process
Amilia
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Hidden Behind The Shadows Of A Man

Living Under The Control Of Someone Else

When this happens in our life, there are no words to describe the frightening feeling it causes. I know this first hand. I was with a man who I believed I loved, and I really thought in my heart he loved me. As time went on, I began to live in his shadow. There wasn't anything more terrifying than the feeling of living in the dark. It feels as if your world comes to a halt.

I worked two, or three jobs to keep up the finances in my home. When I look back today and I realize that working was my salvation. I didn't want to go home. I felt that there was nothing I wanted to go home to. When I worked, I was able to smile, and laugh eat in peace, without unkind words, and anger. 

I began to stay to myself most of the time. I really didn't speak to many people about my situation, I was a private person. My children knew about my hurt and pain, but I kept them away from my house. I felt I was punished for something I didn't do. I saw my family less and less. I spoke about my situation less and less. I began to feel the grip on my life. In reality, it didn't belong to me anymore. There were days, I prayed someone would come and save me. I didn't know what to do myself or where to begin to fix this. 

I wanted what every woman, wished for. To be loved and respected, and cherished. My life was further from that. 

If anyone would ask me how I was, I would nod my head, and tell them everything was alright. Even if they can tell through my eyes that there was pain. I denied my feelings and held them under lock and key close to my heart.

I prayed a lot. As I was going through this hurtful period in my life, I knew this wasn't my last stop. I knew that the good Lord had something else in mind for me. I knew I had to be patient and wait out the storm. I had peace in my heart, knowing I did the best I could under the circumstances.

I would get up every day and thank God for this amazing glorious day. I knew it wasn't the life I dreamed of, I knew the day wasn't going to be what I expected. I held on to the Lord, and let him guide me through the learning process. I never felt alone, and I never gave up. This wasn't the story God wrote for me.

There were people who made fun of me. They laughed and even sent me bad wishes. It was demining, and sad. I would continue to smile and carry on with my day as if I didn't know what I heard. People sometimes forget their voice carries. Unfortunately, they believed in what they heard, but not the truth. Still today, I never tried to defend myself, I don't think there was a need for any of that. I had to walk away from people who didn't understand what I went through and let this part of me rest.

If you feel this way, please reach out and speak to someone. Get a hold of family or friends, anyone that can help you. Do whatever it takes to get help. Please do not wait as long as I did. No one has the right to treat you this way.

You are a valuable woman, that deserves to be treated with a kind voice, and loved with the utmost respect. Love is amazing, but the right kind of love is very important. Don't waste another minute.

You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you. You are not alone. I will answer any questions you may have.
Contact me at amiliapowers@gmail.com or visit my website www.valueurself.com

I have created a series of four (4) Meditations, that can help you with this situation, these were my prayers turned into meditations, that are now helping thousands of women like yourself, live the life they were created to live.

These meditations will lead you out of the darkness, keep you calm, and more focused. You will leave fear behind, become stronger, and never feel alone. Help heal your broken heart and ease your pain. As well as those who have suffered the injustice of another.

You can get more information, by clicking on the link below.

https://valueurself.com/collections/meditation-mp3s

Be blessed,

I look forward to speaking with you.

We will continue our conversation on Sunday

Amilia Powers


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STAND UP FOR YOURSELF--GODS GOT YOUR BACK

HEALING THE BROKEN HEARTED! 

I have received many questions on this subject, let me explain, and I will not color coat this:

People will treat you how you teach them to. They will test you to see how much they can get away with, and when they find your weakness they will walk all over you...

Once he gets to know your weakness down to a science, he will begin to make his move into your heart. Now that your love, and he's captured your undivided attention. Your weakness becomes a game to him. He begins with his mood swings, and then his temper. You have made every excuse in the book, why he is treating you like this. The crazy part of this entire scenario is that he knows this. 

He begins to put you down. You start to feel you have no say in the matter, because your frightened of the situation, and you know it could escalate into something else. You will start to feel you have no ground to stand on. What are you thinking at this moment? The obvious, you don't want to get hurt. You question your decisions, and you know this isn't the way love should be. He tries everything in his power to make you think that you're the crazy one. 

At times during your relationship, you didn't even see this coming. Being ridiculed and belittled in public, you have nowhere to run and hide from the embarrassment. Your only outlet is deep in your heart where no one can see, but you. This is where you go and cry, and pray that he would stop doing this to you. If any of this sounds familiar, please stop the excuses. He doesn't deserve your love and kindness. No one has the right to treat anyone this way.

There is no reason to hold onto something that is so wrong. Let me ask you a few questions. Please be honest with yourself. 

Let's begin:

1.) Is this the life you always dreamed of?

2.) Is this the love you've always wished you had?

3.) Are you smiling more than you ever have before?

4.) Are you laughing so much that it feels amazing?

Let's start off with these questions first. We will go over this more Thursday.

Just like we check our checkbook, we need to check and take notice what is going on in our lives.

A) Don't hold yourself back on the life you really want.

B) Don't be the person, who is consistently making excuses for being treated disrespectfully.

C) You are wonderful, a woman who deserves to be loved the right way.

D) Kindness is not hard. Love is not hard. Being cherished is not hard. We make it harder than it is.... 

Maybe you're asking how?? 

By staying in a relationship without value. Remember, this doesn't only affect you, it shakes up the entire family.

Is this what is holding you back from the life you really deserve?

If you are stuck, join thousands of women who have changed their lives with my personalized meditations that are made specifically for your own personal circumstances 

For more information, click the link below:

https://valueurself.com/collections/personalized-meditations

You can leave me a message, and I will help guide you through the process. You are not alone.

Start today, and live the life you were created to live.

Visit my website, and Let's talk www.valueurself.com or contact me at, amiliapowers@gmail.com

Be blessed
Amilia

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