Think of the most important thing in your life and that's what you won't have.
I would first like to say, thank you for being here with me today to speak about this very important subject that has a painful outcome in so many lives.
You must not sacrifice your life to live with a narcissist. Unfortunately, to live with a narcissist and not be completely overwhelmed you must give up everything. Who you are, and what you stand for goes first. You become the shadow of the Narcissist. A person you once knew. Now you are who he wants you to be.
The very moment you question your heart and speak your mind. He will rewrite the version of your unhappiness and make you think about what you said. Going deeper into the conversation will cause the narcissist to go into his rage. His disbelief that you are questioning his love for you. That you are trying to ruin a good thing. He will recite this script that he is doing everything to make you happy. In return, you are left feeling confused and sadden for what you've done.
The Narcissist likes to call the shots. What friends you should have if any, family members. Your work is a status, he will never question that. Money is of the essence to him. He will put it down to keep you in check or in some cases make you give it up so he has complete control. I personally had to work two jobs many hours of overtime to keep up with his reckless spending and behavior. Appreciating them and their decisions to be the best outcome for your life. Even if that means you will never see your friends and family or even go out without them tagging along.
A narcissist needs a target to blame. If you are in a relationship with one, then that target is you. If you have interests beyond them, they will make you feel stupid. Basically, your ideas are terrible and your interests are boring. As time sets in, and we all know it flies by, we don't even realize we handed our lives over to a monster.
Getting a better understanding of what you are dealing with will save you a world of grief. Noticing how your life changes drastically just before your eyes is a tall tale sign that you are in a one-sided relationship, and you will always feel uncomfortable, and on edge with everything you and say.
Then comes the ultimate sacrifice, as if you haven't given enough already. Staying in a life of loneliness, hurt and sadness. Dealing with his selfish behavior. The controlling abuse that has disarmed you of everything you loved and cared about in your life or you take back your life, stand up and release your power and not have anything to do with him. You stand up and rise. Take complete control of what you deserve, and everything you love and enjoy. The people you care about and things treasured.
I'm a woman who's been in the same situation you are going through., and knows first hand how destructive this can be.. A woman whose life was slammed against the wall. A woman's advice you can trust. A person who found her way through the darkest of times. I woke up every morning praising God, and never giving up hope. I praised him in good times, and when I was the must pained. I gained the strength to never give up on me and a life I deserved. I will never let you give up on you.
Having love in our lives is amazing. We all know how that feels, but the right type of love is very important. Don't waste another minute. There's nothing more exciting than a woman who is happy and has her voice, please remember that.
You can reach out to me, and I can help guide you through the process. I will answer any questions or concerns you may have.
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